how do u tell ur family that ur only 14?

Question

well my family makes me take care of my cuzzins all the time im getting rlly sick and tired of it. i wach them 24/7 while there parents sit on there *** and wach t.v they are rlly hard to take care of too. one is 2 weekes old. the other one is one years old and the other one is two years old. so how do u tell them that its to much for me to handle? its not like there my childern so y do i have to give all my time to them

Answer 1

This is tough to do, as your parents are probably going to feel like you are trying to get out of work. I would try sitting them down some time when both you and they are in a calm mood (don't go in angry), and tell them that you don't feel comfortable taking care of children that young and that you feel like you are doing it for an excessive period of time. Track the amount of hours you spend doing this for a week or more - what time did you start and end on every day for that time period? Maybe if you show them how much time you are spending doing it, they will reduce the time or let you off of the hook.

Answer 2

First off... not trying to be offensive but.. you are way to young to be watching children that little and that many. You are way out numbered!
I am kinda guessing they either A) think you are really mature and need you.. OR B) seriously do not care for the well being of these babies.

Ok if you have tried to explain to them about this being more than you can handle. You can try being unavailable. Go to friends houses, malls... etc they should get this hint. Failing that then start crying.. alot all the time. Throw big fits. Let them see how immature you can be (not being insulting...)

Just do what it takes to make them understand you are still a child yourself and have absolutly NO REASON what so ever to be raising their children....

Answer 3

It sounds like those parents don't deserve to have children at all. If you won't take care of your children, then you should have never had the pleasure of getting them.

Make sure that all the children are safe and secure and storm out of the home, making sure that they think that you are leaving. Watch through a window and see if the parents get up to take care of their own children. If they do not do anything for ten minutes, then maybe its time to start seeking better care for those children.

Answer 4

You tell them that they are too much to handle. You also tell them that, its ok for you to watch them once in a while, but you have things you like to do. And if they insist on your watching your cousin, charge them.

Also, try to make yourself unavailable, I know its hard for a 14 year old. They shouldn't bear you with their kids, especially if they are the house at the same time. So either they pay you, or tell them you can't.

Answer 5

O wow I feel so bad for you that is crazy!!!!!!! You just need to speak up. Where is their parents? I mean a two week old. What kind of mother leaves a two week old baby? You just need to speak up. I know your only 14 but obviously they want to treat u like an adult so talk to them like an adult. Just them tell me them you are just a kid/teenager and u want to get to be one not be a mom to some one else's kids. You should not be responsible for all those kids. Then if they want you to babysit for them sometimes then they need to be paying you. It may be hard to just tell them how it is but it really needs to be done. U need a life of your own. They made their choices so they need to deal with them. You need to go out and enjoy being a teenager!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 6

You need to tell them that their kids are too much for you to be able to handle by yourself (I am 28 years old and unsure if I would be able to handle that many kids so young). Being honest with them is the best way to go, just make sure that they understand why you are unable to care for them. After all, you are not the one who gave birth to them.

Answer 7

Well I think they need to realise that you are still a kid and you need to have fun too. You should just tell them you are fed up and they arent your responsiblilty. And if they dont care then just ignore the kids and things you shuld be doing for them and after they cry long enough teir parents should get tired of it. Its mean yes but something needs to be done because you are still a kid and need to have fun too.

Answer 8

let them know that u cannot continue taking care of their children because u are tired of doing this so often. the best thing is to tell them how to u feel or they'll continue to give u the kids to care for.

Answer 9

You need to start having extracurricular activities outside of the house so that you are not there for them to put the responsibility on. Also, tell them you have homework and can't do it. You could also hand them a bill and tell them it is for babysitting.

Answer 10

Tell them you want to get payed for all the time that you've had to watch the kids or you won't watch them anymore. That's parental neglect if they don't some how fix this problem.