If you knew a woman at work was interested in you, and you worked for the same co, what 'signs' would you look for at work that would make you interested?
Thanks for your help.
2006-08-08 10:43:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Vice, please take this advice: Forget office romances. They very rarely work, and when you break up, you still have to spend all day with them at work, watching them flirt with other women, etc.
However, you asked the question, so I'll answer it as best I can. Even though I personally will not engage in an office romance, I suppose if the woman hung around my desk, obviously looking for reasons to be there, or laughed a little too long at a joke or toss away comment. Sometimes hearing how someone is interested in you, from a third party in the office, is flattering, depending on the guy you're interested in.
However, if I was that attracted to her and knew she was attracted to me, I suppose I would, in this day of sexual harrassment lawsuits, let her make the first move. I hate "signals", I much prefer a woman to just approach me and tell me how she feels. That way, there are no misread signals. Sometimes guys don't see something obvious until much later on and ususally it's too late by then. If you like this guy and you thnik he likes you, ask him out.
2006-08-08 10:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she frequently found excuses to come over and talk to me, that would probably raise my interest. If he seems like you're bothering him or irritating him, then perhaps he's not interested in you. Asking him to lunch in a group with other coworkers might give you an opportunity to get to know him better without it being a "date." That way you can see if he's a dud in public even though he may appear a stud in the office. Other things you might try include leaving at the same time as him so that you can leave together (again, finding an excuse to talk to him in the elevator or the parking lot on the way out). That might also lead to the inevitable question "what are your plans tonight?" That's a definite passage to the next obvious question - do you want to do something together?
Just be calm and cool - remember, not every match is made in heaven, and this could turn out poorly too. Don't get your hopes up just to have them dashed... besides, confidence is very attractive in a woman (at least I think so).
2006-08-08 17:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt good to mix work with your outside life but if it involved a guy that you think may be something more than a couple month relationship and it will be worth it then go for it! the "signs" for me are alot of eye contact! like you you see them across the room stare at them and stare straight into their eyes and dont take your eyes off them til they look back at you then you look down like you werent looking then wait a second and look back! nothing says "hey how you doin" like just staring, plus it makes you both know that each one is interested! if you stare and he just stares back only once or twice(its cuz he/she wants to know why you are stairing) but if they do it numerous times then it might be something more! if your job involves you maybe working on the same project together then try and get to be with them on the project and put in alot of effort to be with them/do alot of the work with them and put in overtime working on it, besides in the office, expand out with it! guys do read signs just the same as the females do some guys just arent smart enough to understand what they mean! if nothing works for him just be confident in yourself walk right to them and ask them to lunch/coffee/dinner, anything and once there tell them how you feel!
2006-08-08 17:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by nikejustdoit88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for the Exit sign, as in can we get along outside of work. The two of you should go out for a drink or whatever and see if there's anything there outside of the office.
2006-08-08 17:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An invitation for lunch! But since in anglophone countries this could be a friendly sign, check her voice tone and see the amount of interest in it!
Keep things simple : ladies are always welcomed! Ladies!
Ciao...Johnn-John.
2006-08-08 17:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to me more than to other people. Smiling when around me. Complimenting me on things I do well. Getting me tea/coffee/juice or snacks from the vending machine. Having lunch with me often. Trying to work with me on projects could be another sign, but it would probably cause gossip.
2006-08-08 17:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she were nice to me and took an interest in me i'd be interested in her. Smiling at someone is the best way of showing someone you like them. If a girl smiles at me loads I find myself liking her more often than not:)
2006-08-08 17:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by jay j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never date anyone you work with. It a very bad idea, cause if and when the relationships falls you have to see that person every work day. That could lead to more problems then its worth.
I speak from experience.
2006-08-08 17:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by chupakabra123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't look for signs; dating a co-worker is the worst thing you can do. Don't mix your job and personal life!
2006-08-08 17:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long looks and smiles. Also I can tell when a woman asks me out to happy hour:)
2006-08-08 17:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by The Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋