I think it is because Americans do not have patience, bad morals, and do not know how to fight properly.
2006-08-08 10:42:05 · 32 answers · asked by 120 IQ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honeybee,
Maybe because they earn the repuation of being "loose" because they think sex is the thing that keeps a relationship running.
2006-08-08 10:45:51 · update #1
ANAHATA,
WE HAVE TO TALK!! YOU TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH.
2006-08-08 10:48:36 · update #2
Cybeg,
"3. Living together prior to marriage (statistics show that the likelihood of getting a divorce is actually higher if you live together prior to marrying)"
Is that true? I was hoping on doing the same thing with my future girlfriend. How could that make the situation worse? Does the couple get bored easily after being married after living with one another prior to the wedding?
2006-08-08 10:54:59 · update #3
AMVET,
WHAT YOU SAID IS WHAT MY DAD ALWAYS SAYS, AND I TOTALLY AGREE.
2006-08-08 11:06:47 · update #4
1. Getting married for the wrong reason
2. Lack of commitment
3. Living together prior to marriage (statistics show that the likelihood of getting a divorce is actually higher if you live together prior to marrying)
4. No pre-marital counseling
5. No-fault divorce laws which make getting a divorce too easy
6. An overall attitude of selfishness
7. Unrealistic expectations of what marriage is and means
2006-08-08 10:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right on! In generations past, when you got married, it was understood that it was 'until death do you part', now...not so much. Most people think it's no big deal, and will 1)marry the wrong person in the first place 2)divorce readily instead of working out problems or 3)expect that lovely lusty heartbusting feeling to last forever and divorce when it doesn't. It stinks. Now marriage is temporary. Wedding vows ought to say till whenever you feel you should part! I'm glad divorce is possible, b/c there are situations where it is absolutely in the best interests of everyone (abuse, unrepentant and repetitive adultery,etc.) but I would have to say the vast majority of people I've seen divorce don't meet any of those. they divorce cuz they're not 'feelin it' anymore, they're bored, or they don't want to fight for it. I happen to believe it's worth fighting for, and that you should take pains (premarital counseling) to ascertain you're marrying a good match in the first place. Though I don't believe there's one perfect soulmate person. That's an illusion. Love is what you make it and how hard you work at it. That thunderstruck feeling won't last.
2006-08-08 10:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the reason why it's so high. The reason is these days people are not taking relationships serious enough. Guys and girls fall in love too fast and to too many worong ones and they end up sad and in a bad situation, therefore,the best way to get out of it is through divorce. and more and more people are taking it lke it's nothing but, I do not agree. I believe ti makes you look bad and there is no trust in that at all. No respect and no faith I think that peple getting married for a lot of wrong reasons and the number one thing is most oepole think they are in love, in reality, they are in love but, they are confused so, they don't really know what is going on. After the fire burnsn out, what do they do? Get a divorce. so, wait, marry for love, the unconditional kind of love nto lust. Fallow your heart, not your mind.
2006-08-08 10:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because we are to fast to jump the gun going from high school to family. We want to be the picture perfect family and it does not work out like that because you are more worried on getting married and having kids then you are on being happy. I am divorced and thats what happened to me. I thought I needed a man to be happy. Yes my kids make me happy but thats the only thing that I got out of my first marriage worth a darn. I am married now to a great guy that I love and will never let go. My first marriage was because I didn't want to be alone.
Kids who first come out of school want to be just like their parents. Hubby, wife, kids, job, and happy. But they don;t take the time to ask how long it took them to get there. We would rather be like everyone else then be us. If we don't have the family and the kids and the money then whats the point. Well thats what happens, they didn't get what they thought they owuld be walking down the alie and getting married. So what do they do? Get divorced and try agian. Then it just keeps going....
2006-08-08 10:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by purplebutterflyhippie04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is when most people date they put on a front to attract one another. then you get married and slowly the real person starts to come out. then one or both start to wonder what happened to the person they fell in love with. if people start being themselves from the start and let the other person choose is this what they want to spend the rest of their life with there would be less divorce. and you have to wonder what you have to do to make each other happy.
2006-08-08 11:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by amvet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree i think that having people make things like relationships so important has hurt more people than ever. how many times a day do you notice everything is based around being with a significant other? i think people need to be more independant and live a happy life then have someone join them. when everything is good in my life thats when i handle things better. but i come first in my life.
2006-08-08 10:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by anahata20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because people get married too young and think marriage is gonna be easy. People get married before discovering who they really are. Some get married because they feel they should. Plus if you did your research you would realize the divorce rate drops for those who get married after 25.
2006-08-08 10:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're partly right. And America makes it too easy to just pay for it and get it done. So young people today don't take marriage as seriously as they used to. (If it doesn't work, I'll get a divorce and that's that.) No one knows what forever is anymore. No one wants to fight for what they have. They just prefer to walk away.
2006-08-08 10:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Alida2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's become so common now that I think people have just accepted it. Look in the newspaper or Ads on television. You can get a divorce for hardly nothing.
2006-08-08 10:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That still does not apply to all Americans... it is worse in some other countries and I know you are picking America due to some discrimination purposes? It should be ranked as the world issue, no country singled out!
If you start to pick on one, be prepared to be picked on back!
2006-08-08 10:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋