How do I help her forget her troubles and realize that we can be together?

Question

I'm in a relationship with a girl I fell for really hard.I truly believe we are great together and she is the strongest person I've ever met.I think the major problem is that she is involved in a huge custody fight with the father of her son and she has been burned so many times by other guys that she won't let herself go and enjoy being with me.Last night she called and told me she wants to end it after 3 months of being together because she can't handle the stress of what's going on in her life combined with the problems of starting a new relationship.I've done all I can do to help her realize how I feel and the lengths I will go to in order to have her in my life.She's very, very depressed right now and I want to help her out but when I offer to do something for her she pushes me away.I'm sure she likes being with me but she just won't let herself enjoy it.There's so much more here but I'm outta room please e-mail if you want more info.Losing her like this makes me sick.

Answer 1

just be there for her when she needs you. tell her that your there but also give her room. That is a big deal with her its nothing about you. Us females cant take too many things all at once so just do what i told you and it should help. and at least call her once a week just to check DONT over call. then shell think your stocking and she does not need that.

Answer 2

The problem sounds like this: you are ready to go and have a relationship but she ain't going nowhere. Understand that you are not the problem...yet! She is damaged right now and can't distinguish when someone truly wants to be with her or just wants to be a playa. Now, I am sure that you have sat down with her and pleaded your case many times. Just remember this: YOU CAN"T FIX EVERYTHING!! Let her go and get far away.

Chances are that she will not be able to appreciate you (a good man) and will only give you problems. When she does come around she will probably go back to the type of guy that she had prior to you. So, take it on the chin and find someone that will love you back equally. Unfortunately, this girl can't help herself...LIVE DRAMA FREE!!!

Answer 3

I am in same situation but reverse the rolls I am in a relationship with a guy that has been in a custody battle with the child's mother and he has full custody and this has been going on for over 3 years.. I can totally relate to you but I really don't have enough information. why is there even a custody battle ??? It sucks because a custudy battle can totally consume you and your whole life and you loose people and good things along the way because you get so consumed. Custody is stressful and we seem to loose ourselves in the process. I do not want to go on and on e-mail if you want more information from my experience

Answer 4

I think that she's been through rough times, and she needs someone to hold on to, even though she might reject the assistance. Her trying to break the 3 month relationship with you, might be hard for you, but you need to see it thorugh her eyes. She's been tormented, and used and neglected of true love. She can't see what you have to offer.Be there for her at all times, don't ask what you can do for her, do something. And whatever you do, pray to God. He's the only one you can really count on when a situation like this seems hopeless. And I hope for the best for you, her son, and herself. I feel that you really love her and would do anything possible. Best of luck... :)

Answer 5

hunnie i know how you feel, my husband has been the same way towards me but you just have to be patient.... it will end soon...be a friend to her, she will start putting trust in to you but it will take time... tell her that you are there for her and you will help in anyway that you can...

Answer 6

stick by her as a friend but give her her space