I have a two year old and I am a single mom. He is the absolute love of my life. When he goes to his dad's house I feel lonely and lost without him. Anytime I have a day off or extra money it is all spent on him. My friends think I need to have more of a life. But he is my life.
2006-08-08 10:20:11 · 16 answers · asked by agraat23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I felt like that when my daughter was little, actually I still do....all it means is that you are a very good mother.
Good for him! That is really nice to hear.
2006-08-08 10:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by brandiejs1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does Dad have a life? Don't you ever have the tiniest thought in the back of your mind that you would like not to be totally alone the rest of your life? Because, unless you make that little boy into a mama's boy, that will sponge off you for the rest of your life, he is going to grow up someday with the idea of having his own life, then where will you be? You do not need to take a giant step then fall flat on your face, but maybe a bowling team, firehouse axillary, meals on wheels, etc. anything that will give you some time away from home to keep you busy, so you are not so alone when he goes to his Dad's. Also, get a baby sitter for the program you decide to do, so he knows that mommy needs to be away sometimes too.
2006-08-08 10:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You listen to your heart, not your friends. While they may mean well, only you know what you feel. Perhaps, as your son gets older, you will decide to go out while he is with his dad. it is always painful when children are involved. The right thing to do though is allow him his relationship with his father. Keep in mind that there is sure to come a time when another female will enter the picture. Be very careful not to push your son for information, don't badmouth. You will live to regret it if you do.
Focus all your energies into your time with your son. make them happy, and carefree, after all, isn't that what childhood is all about?
2006-08-11 08:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by mamajo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 16 -20 years, you may find yourself faced with a difficult transition. It is vital to love your children. It is highly important to put their needs in front of your own at this time in their lives. It is equally important to make sure that as they grow and develop some independence that you reclaim some of your own life back. There will come a time (quicker than you can imagine) when you don't have the full time responsibility of providing for your child's every need. You will have taught them to take care of themselves. If you have not tempered your parental responsibility with interests and activities of your own, you may find this a very difficult, trying, lonely time.
2006-08-08 13:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but you are co=dependant on your child for your emotional well being----
Your friends are right...you need a life outside of your childs...If you don't do something now...this child will be in school the next thing and you'll be grieving because he is gone all day...
Don't just settle your life with just having your son as your focal point. Take a class (hobby) See friends....Enjoy life and also include your son on things that are appropriate!
2006-08-08 10:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to find other things to fill the time when he's not with then other then spending it on him. You're going to spoil him and wonder why he expects things. He can be your life and you still have a personal life at the same time. He doesn't have to consume you
2006-08-08 10:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks to me like you are a great mom, nothing to worry about, what you are feeling is normal, enjoy your son. May you both have great life, God bless
2006-08-08 12:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by chuco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a man [that isn't two years old] that you love equally as your son. That way, when your son leaves, you'll still have a man to be with that you love.
2006-08-08 10:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by No.Use.For.A.Name. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't worry about what your friends think, family is way more important then friends, I'll bet you're a great mom too.
2006-08-08 10:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by duane b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. When mine were little i couldn't get enough of them. It put the meaning of love to a new level. Don't listen to your friends. enjoy the boy as MUCH as you can
2006-08-08 10:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by nudistfamilyrus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋