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I don't know what's going on with me. It's two months before my wedding and I'm a wreck. I've been neurotic about wondering if my fiancee is having 2nd thoughts, which i know he isn't...I've been depressed and just plain stressing out over everything. I can't wait to marry him, but I'm going insane filling my own head with all these insecure thoughts...did anyone else go through this and if so, what can i do???

2006-08-08 09:54:36 · 12 answers · asked by larann78 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

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I got a cold right after my wedding, it was like this build up of strees was finally over-and then I end up with a cold once I let my body rest.

2006-08-08 10:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 0 0

Sadly enough, this is normal. Look at everything you've done to plan for your wedding . . . it's a task in itself just to do seating arrangements! You have been planning this grand party to celebrate the love you both share and have probably had very little time when there wasn't something wedding related on your mind. Now that the date is getting closer, the insecurities are rearing their ugly heads and it's very hard to feel in control. ALL COMPLETELY NORMAL! It's time for some downtime. Go to the movies with some friends, take a mini vacation, go to the spa, be a vegetable . . . whatever will work to get your mind off of everything for a little while.

You said you have two months until the wedding, right? Take a week off from thinking and/or doing ANYTHING wedding related. If not a whole week, then at least a couple of days just to recharge your batteries so to speak.

Good luck!

2006-08-08 17:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0 0

I am getting married Aug.25th and I can't say that I have had insecure thoughts, BUT I can say that right at that '2 month before the wedding' mark...you do start to go a little crazy! You just spend so much time planning that your brain doesn't have time to focus on normal things!!! It kind of changes you and the way you think...but I have heard that this is normal and things will go back to the way they were after the wedding!

Just make sure he isn't having 2nd thoughts!!!!

2006-08-08 17:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is pretty normal to be confused. After all you are saying I do for a long time. Compromise is going to be the change of you life. Every time you have a negative thought, write it down and then look at what the problem is. You are the one creating stress with your own mind so the challenge is to find out what is going on in your head. Try so yoga, fit tv has many selections. Find one you like. Start pamepering yourself, soaking in the tub with candles. Whatever you do, don't get all sort of expectataions in regards to marriage. After the initial getting to know each other then we notice the flaws. Don't be so hard on yourself and you will enjoy it much more. Get creative with things to do, that way you won't get stuck in a rut

2006-08-08 17:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0 0

I am getting married on September 1. Yes, I went through all of that and still am to an extent. It's a lot of work to plan a wedding -- and the pressure we put on ourselves is tremendous! I would repeatedly ask my fiancee if he's sure he wants to marry me and if he's having 2nd thoughts. He told me that it's not fair of me question him when I am the one who is stressing... very intuitive! Once I realized that I was the one putting the pressure on myself, I was able to relax a bit. My first thoughts in the AM are still the things on my wedding to-do list, but I remind myself how much I love him and make it a priority to stop and cuddle when the planning gets to crazy and I lose focus. Just try to stop and remind yourself of what is truly important in all of the planning -- you and him! Good luck to you!

2006-08-08 17:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by wahine 4 · 0 0

Weddings (and the time beforehand) can be VERY stressful for both bride and groom. It's called: Pre-wedding jitters and EVERYONE gets them. However, if indeed you are SEIOUSLY questioning whether or not you should marry this person, it's not to late to back out and regroup. better that than a lifetime of misery. Think long and hard. Good luck.

2006-08-08 17:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you need to go to a spa and then i agree with the yoga comment or just do something you like- swimming, knitting whatever! Just make yourself relax and stay relaxed.
If your having a lot of problems- ask the doctor for a light dose of Valium.... I had to take some when I moved out of my old house...because I bought a house together with my FI. I almost lost my mind. The Valium is only short term... you do need to make yourself relax and let your mind rest.
I think what your going through is completely normally.

2006-08-08 17:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Two good friends of mine got married last year and both of them were in various stages of frenzy / freak-out the last month or two before the wedding. I hate to say it, but this is normal.

Speaking as a bystander, I would suggest you purposefully schedule time to do things that have NOTHING to do with the wedding. Go out shopping with a girlfriend, have dinner with your fiance where you both promise not to talk wedding stuff, see a movie...

Both of my friends said that they loved their wedding day, but they were grateful to have all the preparation and details behind them.

2006-08-08 18:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0 0

look here girl- i feel your pain. it is exactly 2 months to the day before my wedding and i am going ape. there's so much to do- and everything is waiting on something else. i am getting all tense about the wedding and I'm even starting to have dreams. massage. that is what I'm going to do right now- get a massage. good luck!

2006-08-08 18:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzyblue 2 · 0 0

its normal to feel that way.I'm going through the same thing.I'm planning my wedding and its not even happening till the summer of 2007. Just take some deep breaths and everything will turn out just fine.you'll see don't worry about it.everything is going to turn our right in the end. good luck

2006-08-08 17:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0 0

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