Will women date a man that is a signal father of 3 little ones?

Question

I feel like its to much of a burden and shouldnt even try. I work long hours so we have the basics in life so its work kids work kids the same old same old everyday and on the week ends its to grandma's to the pool for the kids. I have no one to go out with and hang out with and even if I did I wouldnt have the money to go out. There mom will not pay surport she is way behind and daycare in the summer is hell I pay 240 a week just so I can work.Sorry I know I went on a little to much but any help to this problem will be welcomed and please be nice some people can just be plan mean on these questions.

Answer 1

yes women will date u. U wanna get married eventually? I have been stepmom to 3 boys since they were little now all teenagers. most wives only see their husbands at dinner time and weekends anyways. If weekends are at grandma's pool, u don't necessarily have to go every weekend do you? My husband didn't really find me we were already friends one thing led to another. Make sure u keep yourself up, physically. Always look nice. R your kids well behaved. I was lucky, I never got the "your not my mom crap" really good kids. Is your ex in the picture at all? I wanted to leave a couple of times just because she drove me crazy. Make sure ex stays away from new lady, u deal with her only. our ex sees the kids on weekends so that is nice for us. make sure your days off, vacation is half for kids half for new lady. Time alone with her is crucial. $$ is soooo important, especially if new wife raises kids u have to get her out of the house. If you have $ you wont fight about not having any. GET GET GET support u get her wages garnished,she would have done it to you in a heartbeat right? Even if its a little bit. We get $800 for 3 teenage boys, horrible) New wife watches kids you don't have to pay day care. I watched the kids all day and when the youngest was in first grade I got a part time job as a preschool teacher, so I was home for kids after school. Having a parent at home wether u or step is crucial to raising kids. I did not want kids of my own but love kids anyways. how old are your kids? Hopefully not younger than 3 for me I couldn't have done the baby thing, that is a huge responsibility. Anyways, look around go to single parent group things. Look at people you already know, as em out whats the worst that could happen they say no or u arent compatible and remain friends. Lastly, do not take her for granted. My husband is so used to me now, he used to kiss the ground I walk on now he is so unapreciative. I keep house clean, i'm pretty hot, very sexual. I don't know what his deal is. Don't ever be that way. Always appreciate your wife, 3 kids and house is alot of work. Keep looking!

Answer 2

I think that what you are doing is commendable and very respectable. The kids' mother is a deadbeat and you are picking up the slack. Very awesome. When we started dating, I was 19 and my (now) husband was 28 with a 6-year-old girl. He was a single father and I found that all the more desirable. We have been married for 8 years and have 2 children together. Don't give up, as you will soon find a woman that will feel the same way. Take pride in your children and in being a father. I know that it is hard, but try not to feel as though your children are a burden. You are a great man and you are doing a wonderful thing.

Answer 3

Your status as a parent should have nothing to do with the way a woman feels about you.

As far as the money goes, there are lots of things that you can do that are very inexpensive or even free. So if a woman likes you for you, and not because she thinks she's going to get money or something from you, then she will be cool with doing whatever just to get to spend time with you.

Also, if a woman cannot handle that you have three children, that is pretty pathetic. Your children are obviously the biggest part of your life and that's a great thing. Any woman who would not respect that isn't worth your time. Some women are scared of men with children and I believe that stems from insecurity and fear of not being number one in the man's life. But obviously, as a parent you know that your children come first.

The bottom line here is that you will know when you have met the right woman when she wants to include your children in things rather than asking you to put them on the back burner. Yes, they are out there. I am not "looking" for a man right now, but I am single and if a single man wants to go out with me, as long as I like his personality, it doesn't matter how much money he has or whether he has kids or not. But if he did have them, I would not discourage him to be a part of their lives--I would expect a man to be there for his children more than to be there for me.

Answer 4

Sounds like you forgot to signal at least 3 times, buster. You need to put a stop to dating for quite a while, I would say. Of course right now, knowing whats going on in your life, no woman looking for a stable, secure future would risk getting involved with you. This is the hard, cold truth. You need to quit feeling sorry for yourself and blaming others; you need to grow up. You also need to get hold of and use birth control so that you won't be bringing more helpless little kids into the world. Get your head out of your rear end, learn to spell, get some education, and get yourself a better paying job. Then you won't have so much spare time to whine about the "misfortune" that you brought on yourself. You could make the future of your kids brighter, and they might even have a dad to look up to!

Answer 5

Yes, but I'd want to know details about why you and your wife aren't together. It says a lot about you as a man. So does raising 3 babies on your own, but I'm just being honest. If you're a good man, strong heart and can be failthful, you shouldn't have a problem. Ask for a babysitter and set yourself up on a couple dates here and there. You can even meet at the beach to watch the sunset together which costs nothing! That way, if she's stuck up, you won't have wasted money on her anyway!

Answer 6

You are experiencing what thousands of women go through all the time...how to raise kids on not enough money, work to buy the essentials, and try somewhere in there to have some kind of social life.

You have my respect...would *I* personally date a guy with 3 young children? Probably not...I'm 41 and childless by choice...at this point, I don't know that I'd be interested in being with someone who had that kind of responsibility...because the kids SHOULD always come first...

Answer 7

You deserve to "go on" --- day care is a lot of money. Been there - done that. I think you could get a date IF you could get "out there" --- women have a tendency to accept children more than men I think (not ALWAYS) so I think you have a better chance being a guy. Can you go to a beach with your kids? Reason - our friend (guy) used to take off with my son when he was a baby and women would flock all over him to see the baby. He was married and trying to make a point --- but try it. Get out there in public like that. You'll meet people. Don't know where you live. Heck.....most of us are broke anymore.

Answer 8

Would almost have to find a single woman with children and do things with Allllllllll of the kids at each other's home...sort of like a real life version of "Cheaper by the Dozen" or "Yours Mine and Ours"...or sumpin'..

In PA there are groups called "Parents without Partners" which is basically a dating group for single parents like yourself. Has activities for the kids...support as in babysitting if you do meet someone there you'd like to date and get to know better. Lots of things to do for free...go for a walk...have a picnic...go have some coffee and quiet time with one another ...etc...
Try looking up: Parents without partners on the web then see if there is a chapter near you....and good luck!

Answer 9

oh gosh, you are super sweet!!!! just hang in there and somebody great will find you~~but you have to try saving a few dollars so you can get out~~the nicest guys are usually the shyest / right now just try to get away whenever you can/ esp when your kids are at grandmas house~~ if you have no money go over your friends house and have lots of friends surround you and keep in touch with them often so that you feel better~~~It oftentimes feels lonely so you shut yourself away and wind up feeling worse and resenting everybody
this "change in your life can be a blessing in disguise" but you have to take control, and force yourself to have fun
wherever you can find it
(im not talking sex, im talking other types of connection
good men eventually attract good women~~~~~when you are happy, try not to date now cause you are unhappy and will attract a unhappy person~~~~~~i think by christmas you should feel a whole lot better

Answer 10

Adultspace.com
they advertise about having one night stands in "your" area. maybe you could find one there and release some stress.

my other advice would be to just keep looking for a good girl. they are out there. being a parent is rough but it only gets easier and soon enough you will be able to go out without the kids. life doesnt stop when you turn 40ish. and people dont stop having sex then either. in fact my mom is dating an 80 year old man and they have sex every day.
good luck in hunting for a new fish!