How do I stop caring about what others think? My feelings get hurt?

Question

Even if I ask a question here and someone says something mean to me, my feelings get hurt.

I think its because my mom made me feel like everything I did was wrong when I was growing up.

I am 23 now and it still bothers me when people tell me I am too young to do things or if they just say something rude I take it to heart.

People say its immature of me to care about others, but like I said my mom made me doubt myself my whole life.

How do I learn to not care about what anyone else thinks?

Answer 1

I hope you don't stop caring about what others think. I hope you can stop caring 'quite so much' what other people think though. Keep in mind most of these people, or all of them, know nothing about you. All of the opinions/insults that are getting you down are nothing short of artificial. There are mean and $hitty people out there and there's no quick fix magical way to become tolerant of them. You'll just have to endure until your skin thickens up a bit. Just try to consider the source next time someone insults you. If someone calls you a 'whore' from out of no where. How would they know? If someone calls you ugly. How would they know and who are they to judge? I'm sorry to hear that y our past has you set up, in a way, to be a little more sensitive to negative remarks, but you are an adult now. It's time to start living your own life without the burden of any negative people unless you surround yourself with them.

Answer 2

for everyone who makes you cry, there are 3 who make you smile and a smile will last a long, long time but a tear only a little while.don't let someone who hates the world,cause u 2 hate it 2.behind the cloud is a golden sun and a sky that's full of blue. if somone said a thing that's cruel, don't let it get to you,your achievements r greatly numbered and your faults are very few. so if a certain person should act a certain way, think of those that love you and don't let it spoil your day. hope this helps you feel better about yourself.

Answer 3

oh girl, there is NOTHING wrong with caring about other people think of u.. it's human nature. we all want to be accepted, loved, and appreciated for who we are.. even if we make mistakes! what u need to do is learn to love yourself.. build up ur confidence! are u happy w/ urself? do u feel beautiful, inside and out? start working out, exercising, taking care of urself, put makeup on, wear flattering clothes..it'll do wonders for ur confidence. next, work on ur mind... do u feel smart? study, read books, read the news, find out more about current events, be able to carry on a conversation and have opinions w/ friends, familiy and even strangers. that way, u will be able to make educated statements, and be able to hear what others say and analyze it. maintian good relationships w/ family, friends, and be able to talk to strangers w/o being scared.

once u build up that confidence, u will realize that yes, there are people that may not like u, or may not agree and say mean things to you. but by then, it won't hurt you..because you know u are worth JUST as much as anyone else. no one is better or worse than you. in fact, keep an open mind, don't judge others EVEN if they judge you..then u will feel good about urself, and not be one of those people who hurt others feelings. u can't control other people, but u can control urself. i think once u start feeling better and stronger and smarter, u will be strong enough in all aspects to stand up to people like ur mom, or rude. it's not about not caring what they think, but more not letting it get u down. :)

Answer 4

We are the same age, and I used to be the same way. I was a professional ballet dancer from the time I was 16, and, while I loved it, my mother eventually ruined it for me by her constant nagging that I was too fat, that I needed to lose more weight...It went on and on with her. I finally quit dancing because of her, ran away and got married. I didn't talk to her for a really long time. My husband is very supportive of me; he helped me see I am perfect the way I am. He taught me to be an ***, just like him (LOL), and I've been stronger and better ever since.

Answer 5

You have to prove people wrong. You have to learn to ignore what others say cause they do it to bring you down to their level. You are grown enough to know the difference between right and wrong, and when people are just being rude to you. You just have to be tough and learn not to take things to heart. When people do this, this should be a lesson to teach you how to be a stronger person. Thats is how i learn. Dont take things to heart, when they throw things at you, you dont have to be afriad to throw back.

Answer 6

I used to have that problem, but my mom told me that it doesn't matter what other people think, it's what u think about yourself... most likely people try to trash talk you because there jealous, I learned that the hard way...Just remember, there not the people who put food on your table,dress you, or even bathe you. Your mom making you seem like you do everything wrong? That's just wrong.. If you wan't to teach her a lesson, do everything wrong on purpose .. then she won't ask you to do anything anymore.. if you don't want to listen to my advice.... don't listen to their critiscm

Answer 7

Take what they said with a grain of salt gurl, You are you and you can do what ever you want and how you want too. Your mom wont stop untill you step up and just do things for you and say to her to be quite your adult and your just as good as everyone else. Stay postive!

Answer 8

I know what you mean...I'm going through that, too...so don't feel alone! Anyway, just ignore what they think...I have a friend who's best friend doesn't like the guy she wants to ask to be her boyfriend...so her best friend is holding her back from asking him...I am one of her best friends and I told her just to ignore her best friend...if it's something like that which you're dealing with, then I say just to do what you think you should do...if not...just ignore whoever is saying rude things...I, too, take things to heart...I'm soft-hearted...VERY soft-hearted!
Hope that helps you!

Signed,
Riley's Girl

Answer 9

It is best not to listen to advice from anyone , including Mom. They mean well and all, but most of the time they are just wanting you to be like them. they like it when they can control others.

Stop listening to others and begin to listen to yourself more. Do what you feel is right, make the choices for yourself and all.

Answer 10

I am 20 and I have learned that you don't stop caring about what other people think. You are a caring person then that is just who you are. You can however, stop allowing what people think to control you. Goodluck.