i have slept behind my girlfriends back with someone and there haveing a baby what should i do?

Question

me and my girlfriend are not the most faithful to each other but i love her very much and would'nt want to lose her what do i do

Answer 1

experiment with honesty.

Answer 2

Well... this is what you do: First get a lawyer and get a paternity test to see if you're the father. If you're not the father, (you're darn lucky) DON'T tell your girlfriend a thing. It will hurt her feelings. And if you're having an open relationship and you both know it, then she really can't say anything anyway. Again, don't say anything to her... anything you try to say or do wouldn't be for her, it'd be for you. Now, back to the other girl that's pregnant. If she IS pregnant, and it's yours, then congratulations! It's not the end of the world. Actually it's pretty awesome! You'll be young enough to kick it with your kid... It's the most awesome experience, and a LOT easier than people say or make out. So, after the paternity test and you find out that it's perhaps yours, you ask the girl how much she wants a month for child support. Ask her. I can't tell you how important this is. Once she agrees on a price (and the money is just for daily expenses; diapers, food, and what not...) You get your lawyer to draw up an agreement, and have the girl sign it. If you make $2000 or less a month...then, between $250 and $500 is good. Trust me, she'll get you to sign one at the hospital,and then the state does it for you... and you don't' want that... even though that's fair too. But it will be less hassle for you and her if you just start writing checks. you feel?? So, no one has to know except you and pregnant girl. If other girl finds out, you're going to lose her anyway, so there's no use in you telling her... that would just make it quicker. Be a pimp, and keep them both. Have fun! And remember, use a condom and be safer next time.

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

well i pretty much agree with what most of the people who answered this has said..lol. LOVE doesnt mean CHEAT sorry..IF you loved her and IF she loved you there would be NO cheating..loveing someone is being faithful to them and doing everything in their power to make the relationship work and NO that does not mean go out and boink someone else.
I dont know who is havening the baby on this topic but i sure do feel sorry for the little one to have such screwed up parents ...i would advise both of you to grow up and be responsible.

Answer 5

Sounds like you're still very immature & irresponsible.

Are you saying that you could possibly be the father of the ones now having a baby? Guess you'd better get yourself prepared for the DNA she may want & the next 18 years of child support too.

Talk to your gf & get straight with her. And grow up and start looking out at the world you're in instead of focusing on your hormones.

Answer 6

if you guys are not faithful to each other already, this cannot last... come clean, or leave now. End it before it gets difficult. If you are not honest now, things will get worse, quickly!! If you two cannot be honest with each other, hiding things from one another, you have to check yourself. why are you doing this? What makes you do this? If you talked to her, and she starts asking questions (or if u break up and she later asks ?'s) then you have to be honest. It's just gonna screw with your head more. If you can't answer her honestly, then there's a problem with the relationship... don't lie becuz you think it'll ruin things, or lie becuz youthink that she's gonna get upset with you or the one you cheated with..... that one has nothing to do with this, it's all you! deal, soon!

Answer 7

if you guys are not faithful to each other already, this cannot last... come clean, or leave now. End it before it gets difficult. If you are not honest now, things will get worse, quickly!! If you two cannot be honest with each other, hiding things from one another, you have to check yourself. why are you doing this? What makes you do this? If you talked to her, and she starts asking questions (or if u break up and she later asks ?'s) then you have to be honest. It's just gonna screw with your head more. If you can't answer her honestly, then there's a problem with the relationship... don't lie becuz you think it'll ruin things, or lie becuz youthink that she's gonna get upset with you or the one you cheated with..... that one has nothing to do with this, it's all you! deal, soon!

Answer 8

so u and ur gf cheat on each other, doesnt snd like a very healthy relationship to me! well if u really do love her u should tell her the truth dont let her find out from some one else that always makes things alot worse! I cant say if shell leave u or not sorry! good luck to ya

Answer 9

Be a man and take care of your responsibilites. Right now you should be more focused on your child that you helped conceived. Women come and go, kids don't. If you loved her so much you would not have ever messed around on her. Talk with her and see if you can work it out. Flip the situation around, if she cheated on you and got pregnant by someone else what would you do?

Answer 10

son that dog won't hunt. you need to step up, tell her the truth and arrange to support this child. since young people (at least here on Yahoo) seem to sleep together as often as shaking hands, be sure had get a paternity test done, to be sure the child is yours.

And as for losing you girlfriend, you really should have thought of that before doing this other girl. be a man and take the consequences.

Answer 11

I don't see what our advice would matter. You clearly lack even the most basic common sense by not being faithful and then to not use protection on top of it, I mean, come on. You should just resign yourself to a life of mediocrity because you will always be asking why after the fact.