2006-08-08 09:33:03 · 76 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YEAH
2006-08-16 13:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by constipationemancipation 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For a while but feelings evolve from being friends into lovers. Sometimes it ruins a friendship. Right about now, a friend with benefits sounds good but I am old enough to know that everything that sounds good is not. It's a good thing that I don't have any prospects. Nix the friends with benefits. Just keep the friend. Have the benefits when you are in a relationship.
2006-08-08 10:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butta said, "don't do it with anyone you're attracted to." That makes no sense. I have a best friend with benefits and that's how the whole thing started. First, as a physical attraction. The flirting starting. Then the talking. Then the closeness. Boom! We were having affairs w/o anyone knowing. Things have cooled down but for some, they're not as lucky as us. We're still best friends and the benefits are whenever we need them.
2006-08-16 05:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long this has been going on. I have one of those. Personally, if you've been doing this quite sometime and you are used to looking for a bf or gf else where, it could still be that same feeling. So I just leave things the way they are, but yes it could work. I hope yall had talked about it.
2006-08-08 09:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by rosepassions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can only work if there is good communication between the friends and there is an understanding that it must stop after a certain point to avoid the development of feelings between the friends.
2006-08-08 09:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. I've had this in my life. Both parties must be on the same page. Sometimes I find men that think it's just sex when in reality it comes with the responsibility of friendship; a difficult concept for many men to grasp.Wish me luck! Have a great week.
2006-08-16 07:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by firestarter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since i was in this situation recently.......yes it could work only and when both of you know where you stand. In this situation one or the other has more feelings and is hoping to get more out of it eventually. In my case i accepted what we had and still dated other people. Once i had a bf i would stop seeing this guy and once i was single again he would come back into the picture. This continued for 6 years (it will go on as long as you let it) and the reason why i stayed around was cause deep down inside i had feelings for him he just would never take it to the next step which in most cases, that's the reason is just friends with benefits (the one that has feelings sticks around and waits to see if the other changes his/her mind). Well Friend i finally got fed up and decided i wanted to be his gf or nothing at all. He was honest and told me he wasn't ready for a serious relantionship...i'm not going to lie i love this guy so i decided to let him keep coming around (he was honest and it was my decision from that point on)
To make a long story short....three months after he told me he wasn't ready i decided i was ready to let go and move on with my life without him. I told him that out of respect i was letting him know i had accepted to go out on a date and that i was moving on without him (this time i was ready to let go). He ended up telling me how he fealt about me and now we are bf & gf. Now the point to my story is you got to ask yourself; What do i really want out of it? How long i'am i going to continue just been a f*** buddy? Do you really want someone just using you for sex? i feel like you feel something more for this person and this is why your asking. I hope my experience gives a bit of insight on how it would be if you decide to stay in a realantionship like this. It always gets to the point where you either move on and let go or you end up together as more then friends with benefits. I decided to wait for this guy 6 yrs and we have been bf & gf for 3 weeks. We still have some issues because we are just getting to know eachother as a life partner rather then just someone to hang out with and have fun.
2006-08-08 10:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may work for a while as long as they don't find out that you maybe trying to use them for their benefits.
2006-08-16 05:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No too complicated. If you want benefits seek it elsewhere. Friends sleeping together mights as well go out together otherwise what's the point.
2006-08-16 12:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by OCSiren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because you will probably grow to like them more than a friend....and if your friend really falls in love with someone else...you will be hurt a lot even if u were just friends and you could lose your friendship by doing so.
2006-08-16 09:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't personally think it's a good idea for moral reasons but I do have a friend that's had that arrangement with a guy for over 10 years now.
2006-08-08 09:37:19 · answer #11 · answered by shominyyuspa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋