The other day my girlfriend of four years' mother called me cussing me out because i was gonna go out with my friends. My girlfriend was invited but she had other plans with her friends, so it's not like I was doing something shady.I tried to explain to her what was going on but she kept on yelling and cussing. So i got fed up and told her that she needed to mind her own business and stay out of our relationship and she got even more furious and told my girlfriend to break up with me and she did. Did I do wrong This is not the first time she does it.
2006-08-08 09:31:49 · 15 answers · asked by johnnyca$H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her mother is a very controling person for the same reason she is a 45 yr old single mother of three and divorced twice both marrages combined lasted less than mine and my girls relationship . also i heard her tell my girlfriend she wouldn't sign for her college student loan if she didnt. NO Wonder she takes ZANAX or however you spell it. personally i think she is jelouse of us
2006-08-08 09:39:20 · update #1
I give you credit for being able to stay in a 4 year relationship with a nosey mother in law involved. Have you considered that your g/f breaking up with you was probably the best thing that ever happened to you? Think about it....you'd have your MIL in your business for the rest of your life and her controling her daughter. If she can get her daughter to break up with you at her command. Forget it than, the g/f doesn't seem to have a mind of her own than. After all, she should be the one handling the situation with her mother instead of feeding into it.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 09:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by MR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake it off and move on man! I know that's easy for me to say but IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE! (atleast before it gets better) Also, the Apple doesn't fall far from the Tree so if you don't like maw in law then you might rethink your girlfriend choice. This also goes for looks sometimes too.
If you cant live without the girl, then simply talk to the mom and try to comprimise. If she isn't having it then tell her to butt out. And tell your girlfriend to stop listening to everything her mom says.... she'll get old fast doin that.
If all that doesn't work, you need to talk to my uncle, he's in the Scottish Mafia.... I'll get you a good deal.
2006-08-08 09:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by FitzBaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn your back, walk away from said girlfriend of four years. I usually don't recommend that. But what happened is fairly obvious.
Either A. The girlfriend complained to mom that you were running around on her and hanging out with her friends other than her and just failed to mention the other fine details like, you invited her and she said no, she was going somewhere else and for you to have fun. Mommy goes ballistic and girlfriend gets the extra attention that she wants from mommy and from you falling all over yourself to get her back. She's done it more than once, it will keep happening. RUNNNNNN!!!
Or B. Mommy is a raving psychotic that browbeats her daughter. Daughter allows it. will keep allowing it. Get girlfriend therapy or repeat action A. RUNNNNNN!
2006-08-08 09:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your mother in-law has no right to tell you what to do with you relationship if she has never been able to maintain one of her own. She is a controlling jealous bi#@#, and as for your girlfriend if she takes this kind of abuse from her mother than maybe you want to re-think your relationship anyway. Doesn't sound like a strong WOMAN!!!
2006-08-08 09:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to encourage your girlfriend to stand on her own two feet. And if she sides with her mother all the time she will never side with you. That is not a situation that you want when you are married.
2006-08-08 09:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by naute_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No from what you said, you didn't do anything wrong. and why a girlfriend for 4 years would break up with you on a drop of a dime, doesn't make any sense.
2006-08-08 09:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance, you need to get away from her. You and your girlfriend need to move to another town. Even if only 20-30 miles, it will make a big diffrence.
2006-08-08 09:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by densil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in laws sometimes are outlaws. i would have asked her to mind her own business too. you did right, your girl proved that her mother has too much control. move on.
2006-08-08 09:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really she not really your mother-in -law. but if that the way she behaves you may not want her or her daughter. in a nice way let her known you`re not dating her the mother but the daughter.
2006-08-08 09:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go talk to you gf and tell her what on your mind and that you don't like her mom acting like she is the on in the relationship and if your xgf wont then she is not worth it
2006-08-08 09:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by mano558 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋