What would you do my son 19 months olds and my neice 3 weeks older always hit and push each other. We tell them no naughty move them away but they still do it. What would you do to try and stop it?
2006-08-08 09:23:23 · 11 answers · asked by Sassylady 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-08-08 09:36:02 · update #1
My son is 17days older than my cousins son. They are almost four and have always fought. They get told of but they' now so good we can't ever tell who did what first. We found when they were younger telling off was the best way, a stern no, and maybe sit them in seperate parts of the room for a minute.
Now as they'r older we find they have one big fight(ie one hits the other, so that one retaliates) and then they'r fine. we tend to tell them we don't want to know about it and to sort it out between them, because we pay no attenton to it, it doesnt happen again!
We have resigned ourselves to the fact this is going to be a life long thing, they'r both strong minded boys. With yours being a girl and boy i think they may just grow out of it.
Kids will be kids!
2006-08-08 19:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by emma b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When toddlers fight in this way it is usually a ploy for your attention
They will fight whether you interfere or not, the best way to deal with it is give them something in common ie let them both be angry with you not each other.
When my eldest was that age i also looked after my neice, i tried seperating them when they faught but that didn't help.
Telling them to stop it just gave them the attention and made it worse. every time i turned my back they would start.
then i put them together in the bedroom and told them to stay there til they stopped fighting..they needed the attention more so stopped fighting to come back out of the bedroom.
after a while they got fed up of being ignored for this behaviour and started to get along..in fact they became very close as they grew up.
If this does not work then try distraction, change the subject..don't give ANY attention to the fighting and certainly don't take sides
Good luck !
2006-08-09 04:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by snoopyfanno1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track with telling them no and separating them. A brief (one minute) time out on the naughty step or chair, where they can't see each other would also be a good idea. Because they are so young, further punishment won't mean a thing to them.
Some of this is developmental, but if you are consistent with enforcing the rules, you will be able to stop this behavior.
2006-08-08 16:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by tarheel mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would warn them their behaviour is naughty and tell them they will be removed to the naughty room/naughty step. If they persist, carry out your threat and take them to the naughty room/step.
At their age they require only one minute BUT they must be in the location for one solid minute. Get an apology.
If your neice does not live with you, you need the co-operation of her parent(s) as another repercussion should be used such as a sticker behaviour chart.
The naughty room/naughty step technique should be used with your niece as well to make sure it is effective.
2006-08-08 16:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by ty_rosewood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no motive for this behavior at this age except they're not crazy about it each other right now. Doing what you are already doing it about it for now and expecting it to stop isn't very practical on the adults part.
My daughter and my niece did this whenever they were together for a long time....they are now both 21 and very good friends.
2006-08-08 18:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children are little adults except children are sometimes made to interact with people they simply just dont get along with. if they are enjoying the conflict just leave them be. seperate them when too much blood is spilt, or maybe leave them to just establish a pecking order.
i have drummed into my sons dont hit girls but thats at 3yrs old.
dont worry too much now.
2006-08-08 18:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my two year old son and his cousin or a slightly older age typify what you have just said. i'll suggest that you must monitor them to forestall injuries. the closer their age, the more pronounced this childhood rivalry is.
note that, they really seem to miss each other when they are seperated. i think they fight because their needs are similar at that age and they find it hard to deal with shared attention.
2006-08-08 17:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by durhotimitoyea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say get used to it mine still fight and they are 15 years, 16 years, 18 years. It don't stop sorry
2006-08-08 16:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KIDS DO WHAT THEY HAVE TO DO NOTHING WILL STOP THEM JUST RELAX WHEN THEY ARE TIRED THEY WILL SIT DOWN
2006-08-08 17:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ravindra B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they obviously hate each other.. keep them apart
2006-08-08 18:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by charlie123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋