I like this guy and I just found out he likes me but I promised my parents I wouldn't start dating or have a BF until I'm 16. He can't date until he's 16 either but his B-day is a lot closer than mine is (mine is 6 months away). Will he wait for me once he's 16? I'm affraid my freinds will pressure us to start dating now! Right now we're really close friends. What should I do?
2006-08-08 09:19:38 · 18 answers · asked by armwrestlemania 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if there is a friendship there then he should understand about your parents, espically if his are like that too. I think that if he likes you that much then he will wait. If he doesn't then he is not really worth it.
2006-08-08 09:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respecting the choices that other's have made on you can sometimes be a burden because we don't know what to do and what is right to do at that very moment.
You shouldn't have to wait until age 16 to date either. You can have friendships with guys at any age. You can even go out and enjoy some great conversation together at any event too. There are no limits.
As for dating, there is no sex until you both agree to it. That takes a great deal of time and understanding and most won't until they understand the other person well first.
2006-08-08 09:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel and you don't have to "date" right now. If you both like each other, he will wait because he has something-you-to look forward to. Then, when you hit 16, take your time. No sex or anything else stupid. You need to enjoy your life a lot more before getting to serious about a long term relationship. Have some fun, travel places if you can. When you get to about 26-28, then think about settling down. I promise you that you will be a much happier woman!!!
2006-08-08 09:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Pressure. He will still like you when you are 16. About a month before your birthday send him a little note reminding him of your birthday and that you could go out with him afterwords. I would also recommend group dating. There is a lot less pressure that way.
2006-08-08 09:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your parents know him? Do his parents know you? What do they think of you, and yours think about him? Both of your parents think you are too young to start dating, but you are friends regardless....
WHAT IF.... you had him over for dinner and a movie with your family, or you had dinner and a movie with his family? Parents usually worry when your guy avoids them.....they want to get to know your guy. They want to see what kind of person he is, and to see if their values and lessons have had an affect on you. They are worried for you and don't want you to be taken advantage of. They are worried that he's a threat to your safety and good decisions because of peer pressure. They want to see if they can trust your judgment... especially in your taste in guys.
Here's how to prove yourself (and himself) to your parents.
Bring him around your house, your family, and have them get to know him. Have him over for dinner, movies, computer games, help wash and wax the car, help mow the yard, help with homework or studying, etc. Tell him he can points with your dad by volunteering to help with some guy stuff (dad's LOVE that).
When your family sees how he enjoys your company, has nothing to fear and hide from them, he is concerned about boundaries and respects you, he is thoughtful and considerate of you, and has no ulterior motives or ill intertions, they will trust you and him together, and maybe even let you date him when he turns 16.
If he is really interested in you, he will not go right out and find others to date. He will continue to be around, and repect the rules and boundaries your parents have, waiting patiently for when you are allowed to date him. You say you are really close friends, so can't you talk about it?
I am just giving you some suggestions about how the both of you can earn your parents' trust and repect, so maybe they will let you have some more freedom a little sooner.
Take care and good luck!
2006-08-08 09:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months isn't that far away. Continue bein friends w/ him until you're READY to ask him out or he asks you. He sounds like a respectful kind of guy so he should be fine w/ waiting. As for your friends, tell them that you just want to respect your parents decision. Trust me you'll be so much happier if you wait till you're 16, plus you'll be even BETTER friends w/ your guy then.
2006-08-08 09:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life you will find that the guy will wait for you if he really likes you. That goes for everything. You did promise your parents and the only way you can not brake that promise is to talk to them.Let them know how you feel. Just know that your parents do love you alot. They won't have you do anything that is bad for you. Good Luck.
2006-08-08 09:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are in five years this guy will be a memory (spoken from experience), but your parents are forever. If this guy is worth his weight, he should not have a problem with respecting your parents request. You made a promise, so keep your word- it will help to determine your trust relationship with your parents on future issues.
2006-08-08 09:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is, never do anything when pressured by other kids. Your peers, for the most part, are idiots. If you take this advice everything else in your life will work out fine. Good luck kiddo.
2006-08-08 09:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants you he will wait six months to date you. Don't let anyone pressure you into dating someone. You should obey your parents. If he really likes you he will be able to wait.
2006-08-08 09:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how about you and him hang out with a group of both your friends every now and then, so your parents can trust this guy. Then when you turn sixteen, or sooner if your parents like him too, you can start going out by yourselves.
2006-08-08 09:23:36 · answer #11 · answered by iceisnice610 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋