my teenage daugther wants her belly button pierced but I'm against it what do others think or am i too strict?

Answer 1

It is not that you are strict you are just trying to protect your daughter from harms way I know because my Mother was the same I understand all her small talk in the past and realized how hard it was for her to raise a teenager like me I wanted to pierce my belly button when I was 14 and my Mother talked and talked for hour and told me do want I feel is best. As I thought in my head that she would give me the time of the day to do what I want I realized it was not. She wanted me to learn on my own right from wrong . I learned the hard way and your daughter will to. And I am I now 20 years old and I Thank my Mother today for all she has done and someday that shall be you. Go with your heart and listen to what your daughter has to say about it let her learn the hard way out for she will one day thank you to.

Answer 2

Depending on the age of your teen, I'd give different answers. If she's 13, she is still very much needing strong parental guidance. I would discuss them with her, find out why she wants one, discuss the reasons you don't think it's a good idea. Don't completely put your foot down because that will only make her want to defy you. Open it up for discussion.

As a teen gets older there is less you can or should do. It's probably best to express your opinion and your reasoning, but allow your daughter to make her own decisions. A lot of it may be just rebellion and if you let her know she is responsible for all of her own decisions, suddenly there is no point to prove. It's not so much fun to rebel when there's no point to prove.

If she decides to go through with the piercing, let her know that it's her decision and you will support it, although you do not agree with it. That way, if she does it, she does not have the satisfaction of rebellion. It will also make her aware that this is her life and she is responsible for it.

State your opinion, give your reasons, tell her the pros and cons to this decision and then if she wants to do it, she can get it done with her own money. That way you have given her complete control and responsibility for her actions.

This isn't the end of the world. A belly button ring is probably the least of your worries. She may grow tired of it after a while and decide to let it grow back over. A belly button ring can be removed with very little consequence, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Answer 3

how old?
if young then I would say it is a bad idea. I am 14 and had a phase where I wanted my belly done. It can look very nice, but tell her to wait until shes fully grown. Tell her all of these things:
If she gets chubbier or generally grows then it will stretch and look stupid
It hurts LOTS
It can get infected easily
Can't swim
Irritates and is annoying when you wear normal sized tops

So, no I don't think you're being too strict, I hated my dad a bit but that was stupid cuz he was only trying to do what was best for me and I'm sure that she will get past it.

The website below is a few stories, I'll share some for voting:
Just about 3 weeks ago I wanted to do the same exact thing. They look really cool, huh? Well, the reason why I decided not to do it is because a couple of my friends told me stories. I'll share them with you as well. One of them told me that her sister got hers done then she got pregnant a year later and the hole got so big that it was ugly after she had her baby, ewwwww. Another one told me that it's kind of hard to sleep because you're scared you're going to irritate it. But this other friend of mine told me that she had absolutely no problem with it and it didn't even hurt when she got it done. My older sister told me (she's in the acting business and she sees a lot of people with pierced belly button's) that when you wear pants and a shirt the hole gets really irritated...it's like you have to wear midriffs all the time. No, you can't go swimming with your new piercing for 3 months after you get it done. I guess you won't really know what exactly your experience will be until you go through it.

Answer 4

Teenage being how old exactly? Seventeen is probably an ok age to do this, Thirteen is probably not. The question that you really need answered is how well do you trust your daughter's judgement about her looks and her sexuality. Most women get this piercing because it is attractive to men, so you should consider whether or not you think your daughter is responsible and making good choices. If the answer is yes, then consider allowing it. Another thing to consider is how the piercing is getting paid for. You may want to have her work for the money herself (if this is not already a reality) before you let her do it. That's a good life lesson in and of itself.

Answer 5

That would depend on her age, I have a teenage daughter who would love her belly done, and she has mates who already have theirs done. So it is very hard pointing kids in the right direction when so many others are let do what they want. My advice to you would be to let her know that at her age her body is still developing and her body could reject the piercing and would end in a horrid scar, so it would be best to wait till an age when her body has matured. After all body piercing needs the parents consent before they are 18 and I have made it quite clear to my girl that I will only consent to it when I feel her body is mature enough to take it, this appears to be working at the moment, its all about letting her know when the time is right you will back her up but for now you do not wish her to do something that she may later regret as we have all done...
You just need to think about how you would react in the same situation how you would react best to what is said to you. i.e. if you were told by your oldies no would this make you want to rebel? If you were reasoned with would this make you think twice?
It is only as an adult and a mother myself I can say that this is the best way to do things. As it does reflect on how you were treated as a teen and how you would have liked to be treated.
Good luck babe as teens are sooooooooo hard to deal with.

Answer 6

If she is over 18 then let her make her own decisions. If she is younger then, No, don't let her.

I've heard lots of people say that their school friends have their belly button, tongue, labret etc peircings done - it should be illegal!!!

Where else can they get pierced???

Don't get me wrong, I'm quite pierced myself, but do these little girls know why we have our tongue pierced? Do the parents? I very much doubt it.

Navel piercings take a lot of looking after as they are the easiest to pick up infections.

Do the right thing as a mother and say No, under no circumstances. You are not being too strict - you arebeing a caring mother.

She won't thank you for your decision but stick to it & insure that she doesn't get it done behind your back.

Good luck :-)

Answer 7

My daughters 12 and asked me the same question. we talked about it and i explained the risks. she wasn't put off so i found a reputable place and went with her and asked lots of questions. i asked to be shown the equipment and how it would be done, i asked about aftercare and the risks involved. after all this she was still happy to go ahead so i consented. The bottom line is this, if she was so set on the idea and i said no, what was to stop her going and getting it done by some back street guy for a few pounds or as i have heard done before, getting one of her mates to do it for her.at the end of the day at least i can keep an eye on it an make sure she looks after it by cleaning it properly. If in the future she goes off it she can remove it and that's the end of it. if however she had done it behind my back and she got an infection that i knew nothing about it could have been very nasty indeed.

Answer 8

How old is she? If she is over 16 then I would say yes let her do what she wants because she'll only go behind your back and do it anyway. I have mine pierced and it's not that bad at all. I don't like any other piercings but I think the belly button can look nice.

Answer 9

i got mine pierced when i was about 2 months shy of my 16th birthday. my parents are pretty lenient on things like that; except facial piercings or big tattoos. they are going to let me get a tattoo for my 17th birthday if i choose to. you can't ask others if you are too strict. the rules you make for your daughter are YOUR rules. if you feel she isn't mature enough to take care of such a piercing [because they do get infected easily] then don't let her get it. i mean... depending on her age and maturity level depends on what she can do... also the teenage body still grows so if she is very young don't let her because the belly button can force the barbell out. also remember it may have been hard for her to ask you that; knowing that you may say no.. so try to understand that, as well. :] good luck!

Answer 10

You are the parent, You decide.

stand your ground. Say it, MEAN it.

when she turns 18, take her down there yourself, if you don't like the idea, well as long as she is living in YOUR house, she must go by YOUR rules.

don't sway. Be the parent, not the best friend,

I have two 15yr old sons(twins) my word is law in my house.

When I was 17 I wanted to get a tattoo, my mom was against it, I didn't complain. I finally got that tattoo when I was 28, lol, mom got one the day after me, it was a first for both of us.

children need rules, teenagers too. Forget how popular stuff is, use YOUR judgement. You have to stand for something or you will fall for anything.