To all parents...i need some advice?

Question

My son is 12 years old and he just learned the freedom of what the internet can offer. He is addicted to this one site called adult swim. He's always wanting to check his messages. when im at work i think hes on here 95% of the time. His whole attitude has changed. Calling me names and actually being obssessed with this site. Is it wrong for me to block this site from my computer??

If you are unware of what adult swim is...its cartoons that aire late at night on cartoon network :)

Answer 1

It would be SMART for you to block access to the site. He's 12, not a grown man, very much still under your control. Do yourself a favor: at least you know EXACTLY what is causing his aggression and disrespect. You'd be lack and crazy not to cut it out. Show him you are the boss. Block it this minute. The Disney Channel and Sweet 16 on MTV contributed to my daughter's sassy mouth and it's been a constant battle. Handle that, Mamma!

Answer 2

Adult swim is not good for children but you know that. I would block it.

BUT that said I'd look a little deeper into his attitude because if he just changed all of a sudden you could have far worse than that on your hands. Kids go through a lot at this age and it's hard to know what the problem is.
It could be the site, it could be drugs, it could be peer pressure, it could be trouble at school, it could be your attitude towards your son. I'm not saying it's one or all of these, just know that usually watching cartoons {even if they are unsuitable} does not warrent this behaviour and I'd be a little more worried about what else could be going on. It's a big world and a 13 year old boy can get into a LOT of trouble in it. Trust me I know, I've had two 13 year old boys and one 13 year old girl. I just have a hunch that something else is going on.

If you don't think so, and are sure it's the site, block it. Even ground him from it. Calling you names should get him in trouble. I am curious who is with him when you are not? Is he home alone? Because if he is, you have NO idea of what's going on when you're not there. This is a tough one, good luck to you.

Answer 3

Well, if your son was visiting that site and he didn't call you names, I wouldn't care. But the moment that you said he called you names, that's disrespectful. I think that you should block the site. Also, if you want to take it a step further, you can make one account on the computer and turn off the guest account. Then put a password on the main account so he can't even use the computer at all.

I suggest that you don't go and purchase a software that will follow your son's activities. I work in IT and the cheapest way is to follow his history, which lists all the sites tha the's gone to.. you can just click on the page and go to where he went to... to check his history email me your number and a brief description of the problem and I can walk you through over the phone on how to get this done. No, I'm not some sexual preditor online... remember, I have a 2 yr old daughter to keep in mind who's just entering into her Terrible 2's in which I have to deal with. So if you need computer help, just emial me at [e-mail] and I'll try my best to assist you. Thanks.

Answer 4

I am not familiar with the site, but it doesn't sound appropriate for a 12-year-old. However, just arbitrarily blocking the site without any attempt at discussing your concerns will most likely result in more rebellious behavior. At least, that was my experience. Try to talk to him and warn him of your intentions if his behavior doesn't change. Of course, if this is actually a porn site(sounds like it), you must block it. I know that there are software programs that parents can install to monitor all internet use and block as needed. That won't necessarily keep him from using a friend's computer. Your best bet is to try to keep the lines of communication open and let him know your belief in anything that objectifies another human being is immoral, and anything that takes him away from schoolwork and healthy activities will only hurt him. It is such a problem, trying to steer them in the right direction, isn't it?
Good luck!

Answer 5

sugar_plumzz1973,

You are the parent. If you do not control what your children do, watch, read, etc. then someone else will, and it will probably be someone who you don't want to have an influence in your child's life.
You definitely need to block that site on your computer. Adult Swim is a pornographic site. However, you will probably also need to get your son some counseling too. Pornography is extremely addictive and destructive, and it causes a man, or boy, to view women as objects of sex rather than intelligent and respectful equals, which is why he is now being so disrespectful to you. Almost every man who has been convicted of sexual crimes has been addicted or influenced by pornography.
I say that you need to get him counseling, because he needs someone to help him overcome this addiction to pornography that he is now experiencing. If you love him, then block that site, and get him into some counseling for pornography addiction before its too late.

Sincerely,
tim4kstate

Answer 6

Blocking your computer is not necessarily the right answer. Nowadays many kids know how to get around the filters, and if not they have friends who can hack it for him. Instead, you could try getting him interested in other online things- there are many interesting things for the curious mind to look up, and it's better than staying on one site all the time. Also, you could set up a program to monitor his Internet activity, and if it is too much then limit his time on the computer- make sure that he is aware that you know when he is and isn't on the computer, and that there will be consequences for disobeying. That way he still has some freedom, but you can rest assured that he won't be on the net all the time.

Answer 7

No way is it wrong to block it. In fact, as punishment for his disrespectful behavior, I wouldn't allow him on the internet for 1 month. Strict, I know. But if you let him speak and act that way with no consequences he'll just keep doing it because he knows he won't get punished.

PS: It's called ADULT swim for a reason. It's not meant for young children. It only airs late at night for an ADULT audience.

Answer 8

Anything that changes your sons attitude needs to be cut off now, you know as a parent how fast something can become a cult fad. Even if he gets mad and tells you he hates you, do it, he will understand when he reads about someone being hurt by this site. With all the sickos out there, it scares me to think he may have given some info to the wrong person.

Answer 9

Your damn straight I would block the site, and I'd install some parental controls on the computer to prevent him accessing similar sites. Let's not forget who is supposed to be in charge here. He shouldn't be spending that much time on the computer. Set it up so he can use it for 1 hour per day and that's it. He's gonna get fat sitting at the computer all day.

Answer 10

He is 12...it would be wrong if you didn't block it...also with his attitude I wouldn't let him on the internet unless you were standing behind him...he shouldn't be allowed to talk or treat you that way..kids are curious and there are a lot of wierdos and people with different values and morals that can persway a youngster...be very careful...get him involved in something while your at work...make him busy. then he will forget all about the internet because he will be living his life better.