So does he have reason to be upset and not talking to me?

Question

I been talking to this guy for few months now.Well today me and my friend took lunch break together from work.she asked me to use my phone because she wanted to call somewhere.Well she text message this guy saying I LOVE YOU from my cell phone.Which i never said to him he replied by..I love you too..wow you suprised me.Thanks for making my day/
when i saw this message i didnt know what was going on ..so i called him right away and asked him and told him it wasnt me...he got upset and he is not answering my phone now..where is it my fault?
he is 27 and i am 22.

Answer 1

He has some reason to be ticked, but I think he will understand if you explain it to him and tell your friend to explain it to him too. He should also understand that it could have been a wrong number, because something like that happened to me once. Good luck!

Answer 2

well i think he is mostly upset cause it made him feel stupid that he thought it was you , even though it was not his fault, i mean if your going to let someone use your phone like that tell them to put thier name at the end of the message saying your useing someone elses phone, that way no mix ups are there. i think that this guy realy likes you and never got up the nerve to tell you and he thought wow she actualy broke the ice for me, now that she said i love you i can say it back. so ya i would be mad if i were him, he told you something that meant alot to him. so i would leave him a message or go see him, tell him that you had no idea that she was doing that , that you would not have let her if you had known, then realy i mean if he is a nice guy why not give him a chance? i mean i dont see why not, unless your taken. tell him that your sorry, realy sorry. ask what you can do to make things better. good luck

Answer 3

well, i believe that he doesn't have the right to act like that, but the thing is that you explained the story (I BELIEVE THAT THIS IS THE TRUE STORY IF NOT YOU WOULDN'T BE ASKING FOR HELP), you also need to put yourself in his position, although it wasn't your fault, he doesn't know that and probably he is so angry at you that no matter what you try to explain he will close his ears. give him time to get over this, and when you are able to talk to him again tell him and explain to him with details how you feel. Believe it or not, i somewhat understand him, in my opinion, the problem is that there is no trust from his part.... I'm pretty sure that he will get over it,but if it gets to a point that he doesn't want to listen to you, whatever you decide to do don't bring your friend into it like say "AS her" "she text it not me", be mature and solve the problem by yourself....good luck

Answer 4

oh man!
Unrequited love exposed.
Your friend is an idiot she had no right to do that. He will feel very small right now and will want to stay low for a while, while he mends his ego.

Send him a cute text (sorry you'll have to think of the wording yourself - avoid the word LOVE)
to let him know you are still his friend and that you are fond of him. I'm assuming you dont see him as a potential romance?
If you don't see him like that, he'll have figured it out by now.

Eventually he'll get over it but understand this is as ego shattering as "failing to rise to the occasion in the bedroom"
I hope you gave your girlfriend heat for doing that.

Answer 5

If he loves you and was really happy to get that text, it makes sense that he's upset by the fact that you didnt send it.....you telling him that is the same thing as you saying " i don't love you". And, since he said he loves you too, he probably feels embarrassed and vulnerable now because he said that to you thinking it was "safe" because you felt the same way.

Give him some time.....then try talking to him and let him know how you do feel. If you don 't love him, just let him know that you do care about him, but love hasn't developed yet.

Answer 6

Its not your fault, it is understandable why he is upset. Do you love him? If so tell him. If not, explain to him that you do like him, and that you have hopes for your future. Be honest with him. If I were you, I'd hand write a letter and post it through his door, that way he knows that you mean it. Try and write in the letter what you feel for him, what you want, and make sure you apologise about what happens, and that you are happy by his response. Good luck.

Answer 7

You probably did make his day, then crushed it soon afterward. Not your fault. Text him, write him, E-mail him. Try to get through if you care enough about your friendship. Explain the situation. Explainations are not excuses! Try a forward approach. If all other communication fails, go through a friend of his or yours. Excellsior!
Bishop79- 27yr old male
Baby boy on the way!

Answer 8

Well, you hurt his pride and made him feel and look foolish. Give him a little time to lick his wounds. Then you should find him and apologize for the misunderstanding. In a relationship forget the word "fault". Relationships are work, and you have to constantly adjust to keep peace. I would think he is more hurt than mad. If you keep the attitude it wasn't your fault, you will undoubtedly be spending alot of time alone in the future. Put yourself in his shoes how would you feel?

Answer 9

Well, he's a little immature at 27,pouty little thing.Why would he think it was you, have you and your girlfriend both been going out with him? Get rid of him, he's the kind that esulates situations, making mountains out of molehills. Just think about him a few years from now, if you were married or living with him, and you were at the grocery store just a little to long. Just say to yourself, I'm glad he's gone, and mean it.

Answer 10

It wasnt your fault. Give him a little bit of time and when he is ready he will talk to you if he really loves you. Then when he does try to have compassion and understanding that his pride has been hurt and he probably feels a bit vulnerable. But what ever you do be honest with him.