Do you think 24.5 years old is too young for a woman to have her 1st child?

Question

My husband and I plan to have a baby soon. The baby will be born right before my 25th birthday.

I have had comments from people saying that I am too young to think about having a child.

We have been together for 5 years, we own a house, have careers and we have no debt.

We want to have two children before I am 30 so I want to start soon.

I want one at 24/25 and one at 27.

Am I really that abnormal to want children at my age?

Is 24 or 25 too young for children?

I don’t want to people judging me!

Answer 1

Not at all! Sounds like you have it all together.

Answer 2

To a child, all that matters is love. They don't care how old you are... they only know how much their parents love them.

I do not see what you are worried about. From the looks of it, you have a lot to offer a child in addition to love. More than a lot of people can actually.

Whoever gave you the impression that you are is out of their mind. Let people judge you all they want. There's nothing wrong with having a child in your 20s. (I may be a bit biased because I have children already and I'm only 24).

I mean, how old do you think these 30-40 something year old moms that have teenagers were when they started having kids? So who are they to judge?

The best of luck to you and your husband! You should be happy to start a family... children are the most wonderful thing in the world. Now the question is... are you and your husband ready? If so, that's all that matters.

Gluck!)

Answer 3

The kind of "abnormality" that you refer to is a social creation. My grandmother (who was born and lived in a foreign country) had three children before she was 19. My mother had 3 children before she was 25. Both were wonderful parents. I have two great kids, a great career, a great wife, and I am 26. So the perfect age - well, it does not exist.
The important things to measure before having children are: 1. Parents' maturity; 2. Parents' dedication to their marriage and to the future family.
A few things that do not matter are: 1. What other people think (including your relatives and friends); 2. How much money you have (unless you are REALLY poor, which I doubt).
I think it would be appropriate to mention the fact that you seem overly concerned about what other people think. This falls under the "maturity" category.
Finally, I would recommend praying about it (consider it a much better source than Yahoo). If you feel good, then the sky's the limit. Kids are great, and if you have them soon you will have the energy to keep up with them as they grow older.

Answer 4

You're not really abnormal for wanting children at that age, but I do not view it as being healthy. All too often, I see young breeders who have children almost along the lines as pets. People constantly forget that the children they bear will not be children forever, or even for very long. There is a numbers game, I want "x" number of children, but that x number of children will cost you greatly financially. In 18 years, you will likely have to pay at least part of the collegiate sum for the children. It is a big financial burden, and I find that people are too selfish under 30. Since children will destroy your social life (or they should, if you plan on caring for them) you should be sure you've lived your youth for a long enough time, for it will never appear again.

Also, keep adoption in mind. There are many unwanted children in this world that could use a good home, and creating new people is not necessarily good for the world.

Good luck in all of your endeavours.

Answer 5

Not at all...I was hoping to be done having children at 27 as well. My plan from childhood was to have my first child by 25 and the second at 27 or 28. You are married, and appear to have thought out everything. My mom had me at 23 and my brother at 25. You have your act together where many people in your age group are not mature enough to even consider having children yet. I say go for it!

Answer 6

Hi, from where I come from, no 24 is not to young to have a baby. I'm 17, I plan on starting to date when I turn 18 or 19, and then hopefully find a husband and have a baby as soon as possible. I can't wait to have kids. As long as a person is mature enough and could handle the responsiblities of being married and having a baby then its ok.

Answer 7

No way. I'm 27 and have 3. People judge me all the time. Even older moms with less kids. They'll see I'm hectic and assume it's because I'm young. If they only have 1 kid they always think all children are like theirs. If they have 2 they don't know how much more work 3 is. etc... Most people will be nice though, and you're definetly not too young to have kids.

Answer 8

No you are definitely NOT too young to have children. Having children is always a personal decision. Sounds like you have all your ducks in a row. That's great. I was married at 18 and a mother by 20. Don't worry what other people think about you and your decisions. This is your life and you are clearly not doing anything wrong. Good luck!

Answer 9

If you are ready, you are ready. From your question it seems that you have everything in line, which means you will be fine.

The only question I have for you is whether you have thought about life after the baby comes. Will either you or your husband give up the career they have built so quickly in life? Will you have a third party help with the childcare while you both work?

Are you really ready to give up the excitement of your twenties to take care of a child? You will not get a chance to be 25 again after the child goes off to college.

Answer 10

Absolutely not! Go right ahead and have a child if it's what you want. I think that anyone capable of weighing the pros and cons of an important topic is most capable of making her own decisions! It sure sounds like you and your husband are ready for this. Now, once the baby arrives, you may not feel so competent! Be comfortable with your decision. My parents didn't plan for their children, but we were lucky that they were young enough to do physical activities with us and not just watch at the sidelines.
Congratulations to you both on your pregnancy!

Answer 11

My husband and I had our first when I was 37 and I am now 41. Our son is 4 now. I wished we had more kiddos but the older you get the chances are slimmer for making that happen as far as getting pregnant. It hasnt happend again for us as I think we waited too long!! And it took over 2 yrs to conceive our 4 yr old as well!!! I think you are smart in having them now and 25 is not too young. You seem to be set up in your lives to do that now and it is yours and your husband's decisiion. If that is what you wish to do then go for it! Dont wait like we did and want them and wait too long until it doesnt happen anymore. All the best and I hope this helps! Forget what others tell you, it is you and your husband's decision only. Now go have that family so you dont ever regret it! :)