is it wrong to hate them and not treat them good?
2006-08-08 08:37:24 · 21 answers · asked by fringefan1 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
nahhhh just dont let him know it hide it well
2006-08-08 08:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by tyler_durden_project 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband right now, has a little girl. I was hesitant at first to like her, just because of her mother and the way the mother treated me. So, I was the better person!!! I started treating the daughter better than her mom was treating her and that really ticked off the mother. I came out on the long run as the successor. So, don't hate the kids, just show everyone that you can do a better job and that you love kids just the same. That way, no one will condemn you for it. Good luck!!!
2006-08-08 15:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by gagric2n2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you marry the guy, the very most you can be to them that is of any significance is a good friend. Why waste your time hating? If you don't want to date him and put up with his kids, who by the way are a part of him, then find someone else.
2006-08-08 15:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
Wow, that's weird!
If you don't like them and they are from his flesh then maybe HE'S putting on a pretty face just to get you! Maybe when the dust settles he'll be just like them.
Also, are you trying to like them.
I mean, do you sit down and communicate with them. Make an effort or are you HEAP BIG MOMMA WHO IS TRYING TO TAKE OVER FROM THEIR REAL MOTHER.
Kids are not stupid. They are small people. Your sheer presesence is a threat to their world.
Are you a threat?!
Kids want their mommy and daddy to get back together. They don't want either finding a new mate!
Do you go out as a family type unit or do you stick them with baby sitters.
Have you tried every other date as an outting.
Maybe a movie they want to see.
Maybe a trip to the park.
Then next week it's duo time again.
He should be in charge of them initially, but YOU have to stand ground on DECENT behavior. You need to say things like HEY! You know better, don't you!
If there's a girl child involved then YOU need to take her to potty.
If there are boy children, you have to realaize that you are the other woman or worse, one or both of them wants you instead of daddy having you!
That is a vaid option with a kid over the age of 5.
It's about jealously and they are jealous of you (or possibly even him).
If you can't work through it you have to end it.
KIDS come first.
You and him come last.
If no one likes that view, tough.
KIDS come first. They are the new generation. When you have kids your life ENDS.
YOu don't like that view, don't have kids.
It's unfair to them to produce them THEN think of them as being in the way!
2006-08-08 15:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its wrong. We are talking about your guys kids, not just some kids off the street. If you are serious about the guy, the kids come as a package deal. One day they may call you Mama.
2006-08-08 15:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love the kids and treat them well. If you can't do that then leave the guy.
2006-08-08 15:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just came out of a relationship with a girl who had 2 kids. i personly think of them as my best friends. My advice is if you dont want his kids around then you migth as well assume you dont want him around either. His kids are a part of him and if it comes down toa choice between you and his kids, if he is a man at all. he will choose his kids. So if you dont want to get hurt or cause a great deal of pain to the man that you love, move on. or youll have to keep pretending to be happy for the rest of your life.
2006-08-08 15:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Maestro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation once. While I did not "hate" the kids, or mistreat his daughter, I certainly didn't want her around. You need to think about this from the beginning. Either you can deal with him having kids, or you need to just move on. I could not deal with it and so I moved on.
2006-08-08 15:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by consigliere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's wrong!! What's wrong with him? Why would he want to date you if you hate and mistreat his kids? He needs his head examined. It would be best for you to get out of this relationship. These children should not be punished for your bad behavior.
2006-08-08 15:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... YES it is wrong. When you date him, you accept him, AND his family. If you treat them badly, that is ABUSE. If you want him, you will be nice to them. And if you can't, then get out of the relationship now because he will never chose you over them.
2006-08-08 15:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes, if you truly love the guy you should be willing to love his children too. If you don't like the way they behave then tell the guy about it & give him some help so they behave properly.
2006-08-08 15:42:32 · answer #11 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋