My ex cheating on me for a year and a half and got another girl pregnant.
2006-08-08 08:27:27 · 8 answers · asked by candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you figure it out, please let me know. I'm still trying to stop hurting. Everyone tells me that it just takes time. So, I'm waiting... patiently... and I'm sure there's a lot of people out there just waiting to heal. The best I can tell you is that you're not alone.
2006-08-08 08:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH. Worst case scenario. Well, even worse if it was a girl you were friends with, which I hope it wasn't. It sucks when you find out that someone you invested all your time in turned out to be a total waste of energy and feelings. You feel like you'll never fall back into that comfort zone with anyone else again, and you feel like you can't trust anyone else after putting so much into this and then having it torn away from you. But honestly, that guy clearly was a loser, because no one with any standards or morals does that to another person. So be glad that you're done with him, and use him as a learning experience: What about him do you think you should avoid in future guys? Did he have a roving eye? Did he ever talk down to you? Just try and pick out all the things about him that might have made you suspicious as to his true intentions, and then stay away from guys with those similar traits. People have a tendency to go for the same types all the time, so don't make that same mistake. I was in an abusive relationship, mostly emotional, and thought I'd never recover. I dropped from 120 to 98 pounds and almost had to be hospitalized. Don't do what I did, and lose sleep and time dwelling on it. Just be by yourself for a while, regain your strength and confidence, and try it again when you meet someone worthy of you. But don't worry, time really will heal this wound, but in the meantime, put a big sticky Sesame Street band-aid over it and keep truckin.
2006-08-08 08:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by justme 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who doesn't respect and value your sense of Trust or your sense of Person doesn't deserve to have you in their lives either.
Moving on isn't easy. Trying to learn how to trust yourself again takes time and understanding. Best way to deal with this and to move on is to get back to basics. You have interests in life, so pick one that you like to do and join a new group of people that share those interests with you. Meeting new people will energize you again and make sure you give everyone that is new a fair and equal chance at getting to know you and your heart again.
It takes time. It takes patience. Bad boys will always be bad. Vow to never make that same mistake again and meet new people who are more like you instead.
2006-08-08 08:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. It was an unfortunate experience,but I am sure it was a learning experience for you. Obviously all men are not like that and when you meet The right one he will be honest and faithful to only you.
2006-08-08 08:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by consigliere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, I know from experience. Only time heals wounds like that. I promise you will get through it. I have found that finding a new love really helps, someone hot, it helps dull the pain....
2006-08-08 08:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by hippychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you heal yourself first. Then, move on. It can be quick. It can take long. Depends on you.
2006-08-08 08:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sleep with one of his friends or his worst enemy..payback then move on
2006-08-08 08:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, were u in love before he did that?
2006-08-08 08:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋