.... so far I know patience plays a part. But is it really possible to have a relationship without reprocussions of the insecure partner ?
2006-08-08 08:11:16 · 24 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe. Depends if they are insecure in themselves or in relationships in general. If they are insecure in themselves I wouldn't recommend it. You want someone who is sure of who they are and don't care what people think.
If they have been burned in a relationship before it's hard - speaking from experience. But if they are determined to enjoy life and start over you have a better chance. It all depends on their mindset now. Everyone has a past. Everyone deserves a chance and can change if they really want to.
2006-08-08 08:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by h1joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, make sure that you are a happy person and have patience. if you really like or love this person, then you can encourage that person to be open-minded. Some people have a hard time letting others know how they feel becuase they have been hurt in the past by others that they felt that they have trusted. So it is possible to have a relationship with someone who have certain insecurities. everyone has insecurities, no matter who they are, and no one is expempt from that. there is always going to be something that a certain individual does not like about themselves and that is ok. But if it becomes to much of a mental strain, then its ok to tell that person that this will not be working out between the both of you, and if they are the type of very insecure person that has a short temper, then you have to stay away from them cuz you dont want them to try to hurt you or the ones that you know because they dont know how to take a break up - relationship or friendship, or even sexually. Steer away from people who are clingy, who are very insecure, but if you encourage them to be themselves and give them suggestions - not in a critizing/sarcastic tone, but in a helpful way, then you wont go wrong. Good luck.
JS.
2006-08-08 08:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by nyc_ladydragonsamauri007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have a relationship with an insecure person, but as you said, patience is a big part. I've been married to my wife for two years now, and she was insecure when I first met her. Over time it did get worse, and then she finally broke down and got the help that she needed. It's too bad it took her almost 4 years to do it, but now she's a better person because of it. Don't let your partner wait 4 years like my wife did; if it continues, or it gets worse, have your partner seek professional help because insecurity is a part of depression and with proper medication, it can be tempered, if not eliminated.
Good luck to you
2006-08-08 08:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Michael_D_Miller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you know what you are getting into. You should never want to date an insecure person because there will always be issues about trust and honesty. Its sad especially if you are the faithful one in the relationship. Hopefully, you didn't give this person a reason to be insecure to begin with but if this person has always been insecure then to be honest with you, leave this person alone because more than likely nothing good is going to come from it and its better to get out before someone gets hurt.
2006-08-08 08:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, I mean yeah, there can be some insecurities about certain things, but I would not want to be with someone who is insecure about every little thing, how they look etc etc..It really depends on the person, if you are comfortable being with someone who is insecure, go for it, but there will always be some kind of issue with that person, due to the insecurities they feel.
2006-08-08 08:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to make sure you show the person that you are not all the past people from her life , that you are someone else that is good for her, and that you would never hurt her, do little things like romantic things that show your self to be a good decent trustworthy person. just be there for her, take things slow if she needs to , but also make sure she knows that taking things one step at a time is ok, but that for it to work she needs to be able to talk to you about these things. that if she feels that she needs counceling that you are a willing participant in going with her that you are there for her threw whatever she needs you for. if she knows and feels your full support then she will be able to start feeling better about seeing you as a good person not those other people that were in her life. insecurity is not something easy to get rid of, but it can be fixed she just has to want to do it. good luck.
2006-08-08 08:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that their insecurity makes you nervous and sometimes annoyed- that they really have no reason to be insecure and people like people with confidence. Next time someone points out their flaws, try saying something like, "Maybe *you* think you're ugly, but I love your hair and your eyes." Eventually, they'll get over it (hopefully). Good luck, though- it's tough.
2006-08-08 08:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity is imbalance. If u r courageous, try to remove the imbalance. Bet U "ll succeed.
2006-08-08 08:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by udayakumar k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Insecure people have issues that they need to work out on their own...Unless they resolve these issues, it's always gonna be hard to be with them...
2006-08-08 08:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by mesofemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have the patience of a saint...but she is high maintenance...There will always be some kind of drama..
2006-08-08 08:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋