Last miscarriage question. I'm very sorry?

Question

It turns out that I was starting to miscarry. I've had an ultrasound that showed that the baby was still inside. Apparently it passed away at five weeks, but my body didn't react until I was eight weeks along. I'm having heavy bleeding now, and some serious pain. I have to have another u/s in a week to check on the progression of everything. I didn't really get much time with the midwife today to ask questions. She basically said told me about the follow-up u/s and blood test. I've been so addle brained lately and I didn't remember to ask her a couple of questions. I don't know that she would have been able to answer anyway.

My questions are... how long will the very heavy bleeding last? How long will the serious physical pain last? How long after miscarriage can a pregnancy be successful? How long will I feel useless around the house?

We have a 7 month old and I'm having trouble even holding her right now because of the pain. I guess I'm asking for other people's experiences.

Answer 1

I miscarried my first pregnancy at 11 weeks... and the bleeding was typical of after having your 7 month-old. Just a few days of the heavy bleeding after the miscarriage. I was wondering why you didn't need a D&C (Dilation and Curettage)... usually if there is genetic material still in the uterus after a miscarriage begins the doctor will do a procedure (like an abortion) that "cleans out" the material left. The pain is from the muscles... just like when you had labor pains. They are the same thing- your body trying to expel what is left. Why is your midwife having you wait a week? I would have expected her to tell you to go to the hospital to make sure that everything was going alright and that you didn't need the D&C. The pain should only last until the material is expelled... just like your labor pains. Once your body has expelled all the material, your "labor" is over. I was able to conceive again 4 months after my miscarriage, which resulted in a beautiful, healthy daughter. The doctors generally recommend that you let your body rest for twice as long as you were pregnant... if you were 8 weeks, wait for 16 before trying again. This allows your body the time to recouperate and begin to build a strong uterus again. It takes a while longer for the emotional stuff... moping and feeling useless will pass. Try to focus on your 7 month-old who needs you and enjoy your time with him. It's always tough to lose a baby. God bless.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are going through this, and I wish you the best of luck with you husband, your baby, and any future children.

The most common symptoms of a miscarriage are bleeding and cramping.

if the bleeding is heavy or accompanied by considerable pain, then emergency medical attention should be sought.
Excessive or prolonged bleeding needs medical attention.

In some cases a miscarriage will proceed spontaneously, resulting in the expulsion of all pregnancy tissue from the uterus. Often, though, the uterus is unable to expel all the tissue and the amount of bleeding and cramping can increase significantly. In these cases, a dilation and curettage is necessary. Dilation (dilatation) and curettage (D&C) or sharp curettage is a gynaecological procedure performed on the female reproductive system that used to be a common method of abortion. The procedure involves dilating the cervix and inserting instruments to clean out the lining of the uterus, which can include an embryo or fetus, while the woman is under an anaesthetic. A curettage is performed with a curette, a metal rod with a handle on one end and a sharp loop on the other.

As for trying to get pregnant again, you should wait to attempt again until you are physically, as well as emotionally ready. many healthcare providers encourage woman to wait at least a few months to strengthen the chance of a healthy pregnancy. If a woman's body isn't ready to support a pregnancy by the time that she conceives again, she faces an increased risk of experiencing a repeat miscarriage. It takes time for the uterus to recover and for the endometrial lining to become strong and healthy again. Medically, it is safe to conceive after two or three normal menstrual periods if tests or treatments for the cause of the miscarriage are not being done. Some physicians routinely recommend that couples wait six months to a year before attempting another pregnancy in order to come to terms with their loss, whereas other physicians feel there is no compelling reason to wait so long.



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Answer 3

Everyone has a different experience. The bad pain you're having is your body trying to expel the contents of pregnancy (it's a very mini labor) Once everything has passed, the pain should be gone ...completely. Ask your midwife for a prescription for some pain medication. I can tell you that when I had a m/c, the pain was far worse than when I had actual contractions during labor. I took Tylenol with codeine to help control the pain and it worked well. If at anytime you get a fever, contact your physician immediately and tell him/her what's going on. If you don't expel everything, you could get an infection, which could be detrimental to your future fertility. Take care and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

The bleeding can last for a week or so. If the pain becomes to severe they may have to intervein with a DNC. Usually you must wait 2 or 3 months to try again.
It is okay to grieve your loss , many people think if you weren't very far along it isnt as bad but the point is from the moment the test was positive you had dreams for your child. It is okay to mourn that loss and allow yourself healing time. When you feel like you can not hold your other child pull him closer and just thank God that you were able to have him and you didn't have this horrible thing happen when you conceived him.

Answer 5

well from my own experience i had a miscarriage at 10 weeks but the u/s and blood test showed that the baby only lived until 6 weeks.....anyways about 3 days after i had started to bleed lightly off and on i started to bleed heavily and it was very painful....i stayed home for like7 hours but then i decided to go to the hospital because it was just getting unbearable....i started bleeding at home around 9 at night and i didn't bother to see a doctor until 4 and by 6 i was done bleeding.....you don't always have to have a dnc but it is a good idea to go to the hospital though so that a doctor can keep a good eye on you....they can usually tell if you will need one because they examine you while you are miscarrying.....it is very important that you do this because if you don't expell everything and you don't go to the hospital you will get an infection and it will make you very sick....so please get yourself to the hospital now.....i am very sorry for you loss

Answer 6

Hang in there. I had the same experience (2 times); You are very fertile after this happens but try to want a few months before you get pregnant again, and you will; Enjoy your first bundle of Joy for a few months; everyone heals (physically) at a different rate so don't over do yourself, walk slow, lift slow, if you must, just follow the doctors recommendations for safe healing; my heavy bleeding lasted 4 days, stay away from Motrin and Aspirin they are blood thinners and will cause you to bleed longer. It you feel really over whelmed by your 7 month old call your mid-wife for emotional support, and stay encouraged. God Bless

Answer 7

well the bleeding will last about a week or three to get all the fluid out. the physical pain the same. well a pregnancy is successful weather you've had a miscarriage or not and for the useless part you'll only be useless if you allow your self to feel that way so keep your self busy and don't worry your baby's with the lord now

Answer 8

i had m/c at 6 weeks i was leeding alot and hadnt completed the m/c i didnt want a d and c so they sent me home to return the next day to see if i completed the m/c which i didnt i was so scared depressed it was a aswfull feeling i really wanted this baby i was on my second child at the time after the d and c i went home crying very uncomfortable down there and still bleeding a little i was very upset but each day went by and it got easier 2 years later i was pregnant again i waited another 2 years didnt want to go through it again but pregnancy was fine another couple of years i was pregnant with my 3rd that went well to so if you think it will happen again dont worry many women go on to have successfull pregnancys the dr tell you to wait atleast 3-6 months give your bosy time to get back to normal it will get easier for you it took me couple of weeks to stop feeling depressed i still cried now and again you concentrate on yourself and your little 7 month old and take it easy if your finding it hard theres people that can help you and talk to you the dr should of gave you leaflets also there should be some m/c sites on internet of how others got over it good luck and take care

Answer 9

The bleeding will last for about 10 days. And the pain can last between 3-5 days. I got pregnant with our son 6 weeks after I miscarried. Carried him full term. I am now pregnant with baby #2. Sorry for your loss!! I know it is hard.

Answer 10

i guess it depends on your body, i had heavy bleeding and pain for about a week,just as long as a normal period would be. but then about two weeks after i had my miscarriage i was pregnant again, i had my son 7 months later he was premature he weighed 3lbs 9oz, now i won't say that it had anything to do with having a miscarriage right before i got pregnant again because every pregnancy is different, but i was told to wait 6 months and apparently wasn't too careful. lol. but if you want to be sure that everything is going to be OK, you should really wait about that long and see your obgyn before you try to conceive again. i hope this helps a little. good luck and i am really sorry that happen,i know how you feel.