I just started dating this guy and he was very sweet in the beginning , we had been dating 4 months then we got engaged...well lately he has been acting different .like this one time i went to his house to see him and i have my own key to his apartment- well when i went to use it the lock turned but the door would not open i tried and tried i could not get it open so i left and i came back a couple hours later and the key worked fine ??? also when he reads his texts he angles himself away from me so i cant see them and he never gets any calls when i am with him...so what do you think is really going on .....
2006-08-08 07:57:52 · 17 answers · asked by tinker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i almost forgot i found his cell bill so i decided to look at it well there was this one number on there alot but not only as phone calls but texting from like 10pm til like 2 in the morning then start up agin at like 6 in the morning till 11am when he is sopposed to be working i ask him about it he said it was a coworker i called the number the female said she did not know my man .....
2006-08-08 08:07:15 · update #1
i don't want to alarm you but from a past cheater to a potential victim, these are all charicteristics of someone who has something to hide. Call him out on it and tell him you want him to keep eye contact with you and you will for sure be able to tell by his reaction. 1. won't be able to keep eye contact or 2. will get hostile and avoid the situation all together and try to project his guilt and change it to something your doing. good luck!
2006-08-08 08:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's behaving normally. You're too insecure for marriage just now. You need many more than a mere four months to really get to know a guy before getting engaged. The thing with the door key - that can happen when the atmosphere is very humid. It can also happen just out of the blue - sometimes things like that get stuck, only to work fine the next time you attempt to operate the thing.
The text thing - do you REALLY want any and all messages YOU recieve to be seen by anyone and everyone BEFORE you've had a chance to see them? No, if you're being honest, you don't.
Break the engagement and deal with your insecurities. You owe him that - and you owe it to yourself, too.
2006-08-08 08:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a hunch, he may have someone on the side. Or he is planning a big supprise for you. The door not being able to open means he is still inside with a present maybe that is still needed to be wrapped. The phone messages is from the caterer or other friends that is planning something for you.
Still i think my first answer fits the description but you did say he was so sweet and sweet guys does do supprises for their love ones imo. Btw, this can be for all ages and not just over 25.
take care then and remember not to take advice from the internet too seriusly.
2006-08-08 08:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Putet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Dont think its the age you need to worry about, sounds like this dude isjust a nervous person, and don't want you in his business. MAybe he don't trust, maybe he's a cheater. I'd confront him about it. My husband is 28 now, and I met him when he was 24, and he acts the same.*shruggs* I think you should just ask him about it.
2006-08-08 08:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating - bust him - He is putting crap up against the door to keep you out.
Here;s the plan
Go to his apartment - lock the door behind you - sit in the closet and wait for him to come home. Eventually you will catch him - repeat as required to catch him.
2006-08-08 08:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by hmmmmmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hiding something instead of crying about it do the same thing to him and see how fast he comes around it's not that hard. Play hard to get and he will act right
2006-08-08 08:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, and you don't even have to be over 25 to solve this one.
He's got someone else on the side.
Exit! Sortie!
2006-08-08 08:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he could be having an affair, or an international spy. But the wise money goes on the affair option
2006-08-08 08:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by smutmonkey71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be tacky but it sounds like you are paranoid because you are guilty of something, if you can't trust him then you can't love him because trust=love
2006-08-08 08:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by yotaguy_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to comfront this dude about what you see going on and let him know that if he's not ready to settle down you need to know before you go on with marrige. PERSONAL OPINION
2006-08-08 08:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋