Why are some mothers wrapped up in themselves and thier children?

Question

My husband, my grandmother and I were shopping in a department store. My grandmother has trouble walking and walks with a cane, she was walking over to a display, when a little boy who was running around unsupervised ran into her. As a result, she fell and broke her hip. The mom of the little boy told us that she should have watched were she was going because she couldn't help the fact that her son was just running around. Later that week, me and my husband were in a nice resterant. A couple had brother thier kid. He was making a lot of noise and running around the resterant. He actually ran up to our table and started talking to us. It was cute for about 3 seconds. We were trying to have a romantic dinner. I went over very nicely and asked the mom to control her kid, and she blew up at me.

Answer 1

You may rest assured that you will not encounter that kind of behavior from my children.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your grandmother; I hope she'll heal well. The child's mother was out of line with her comments. And depending on the restaurant and the time of day, it may have been inappropriate for the couple to bring a small child in during dinner.

That said, many mothers can't hire a babysitter just to do errands at a department store. And kids do run wild, at times, despite a parents best efforts. Finally, the other couple may have been desperate for a night out, too.

Do you have children yet? You might understand this other perspective if and when you do so. None the less, you ran into some bad apples---not all mothers are like these.

Answer 3

Because some people are just ignorant and think that their child has the right to run all over. These two kids will be in prison some day if their mom's cannot control them. Parents sometimes have a hard time teaching their kids to have respect for others, and that becomes a problem when they are out in public or when the child starts school. My son is almost 2 (on Thurs) and he already knows that at the dinner table he cannot get down until everyone else is done. At least not until he is old enough to say "May I be excused". People are falling away from teaching their kids proper manners and it is really showing in society.

Answer 4

It's all in the way those mothers feel they need to raise their children. I went out with my husband and 15 month old son last night to a nice restaurant. We were sitting there enjoying our meal, until another toddler across the restaurant started screaming at the top of his lungs. Now, when my son starts acting up (and thankfully he doesn't really act up too much in public), we pack our things and leave so we don't disturb the other diners. I thought that those parents were quite rude to keep their child sitting there screaming.

Not every mother/parent is like the ones you have encountered. There are plenty of rude people out there, and I'm sorry that you had such an unfortunate incident with those parents.

I don't know if you have children yourself yet or not, but at least you've seen what could happen if you let your parenting skills slip through your fingers. It is a responsibility to have children, and it is a greater responsibility to care for them, in public as well as at home.

I hope your grandmother is OK. That mother really should have apologized, because what her son did was incredibly rude. Have a better day!!

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about your Grandmother.I Pray she will be OK.
Over the years parenting has become like a game. "Let's see who can have the best kids using the HANDS-OFF" method; wrong!!!!!!!!! Spare the rod spoil the child. Not quite 15 yrs ago a good tap on the bottom re-enforced the words that helped discipline kids, now with so many (unfortunate cases of abuse by( young) mothers, friendship seems to be more important than respect. But friendships (in the family and outside of the family) end. I think a lot of parents need classes and I think that corporal discipline in school should be brought back.

Answer 6

Oh dear lord. Parents who do that are very idiotic and inconsiderate. I have 3 boys, and yes they are always doing things like trying to run off, not watching where they are going, (not bad kids, just typical), and I end up walking behind them telling them watch out, and apologizing to people. But that is just parenting at its worst. I hope your grandmother sued that woman. Thats sad that people don't want to keep control over their children. Not to mention it's incredibly bad manners.
Who knows why they do it though. Could be how they were raised or that they think their tolerance level for their childrens behaviour is high, so they assume everyone else's should be too.

Answer 7

I am sure you wer nice. Exactly how do you nicely say " Control your kid"? How old was this child ? Could you not have just said to the child "honey you need to go back over to your mommy and daddy now." and how Romantic could this dinner have been when you are at a restaurant that kids go to as well? All I can say is before you go casting stones and saying what you would do if it were your child ...just wait you don't know what kind of child God will chose to bless you with.

Answer 8

Those mothers highlight what's wrong with the up and coming generation - a lack of discipline and, frankly, common sense. If they are unable to control their offspring and to raise them to do more good than damage to their world, they need to not have children. I'm sorry for your grandmother and am just incensed that she's suffering because that woman is a inconsiderate moron.

Answer 9

People seem to like to believe that children are completely and totally their own person, and therefore they, as that child's parent, are not responsible for them. I understand where you are coming from, though. And believe me, when my kid steps outta line, it doesn't matter to me if I have to deal with her crying and screaming in the car the whole way home, she knows better than to be disruptive and disrespectful to others. She also knows that, whether she means it or not, if she has done something which I see as unacceptable, she apologizes.

Answer 10

it is called BLAME THE PARENTS they r in total denial of the fact they spoil their kids..and the kids see being out in public a way to get what they want cause the grown ups rather give the kids eveerything then be embarrased in public! but this is so bad cause the kids always r bad outside the house! kids need loving disipline but now a days if u hit your own kid DSS will be at you door!

Answer 11

Because they wear out the "Kids will be kids" saying. I think it is poor parenting skills. If the parents don't teach the kids to respect what they (the parents) tell them (the kids) then the world will continue to go to hell in a hand basket.