Well he hasnt left yet. He still has to go to bootcamp. And bootcamp is in another state far from where we live and he will be gone for two months. After he graduates from bootcamp he gets two weeks off until he has to be deployed somewhere. We havent been dating very long actually but we just fell really fast for each other its amazing...but what should I expect??? Are you going through the same thing or have you before???
2006-08-08 07:18:04 · 14 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
he will be different when you see him again...are you going to his graduation after boot camp? don't be surprised at the difference but understand he will have matured a great deal and be more focused. give him a little space and understanding to get used to civilian life for a those two weeks, it will be a drastic change after being told what to do and when to do it for so long. usually after bootcamp they do get two weeks off to go home but sometimes they don't as they will send him to his advanced training (the job he will be doing in the navy) then assign him to a unit after that. he should know where he's being sent near the end of his training. i would suggest you write to him often during basic as its a difficult time both physically and mentally for those young men and women and letters from home are like diamonds to them, keep them light and happy, nothing about bad things, talk to him about the little things and just be there for him...this will be a great time for you two to really get to know each other without all the other outside distractions....be proud of him, he's doing a tough job and sometimes our soldiers don't get the support they need. tell him we are all proud of him and what he's doing and the sacrifice he is making to serve our country...he's a hero and we need more like him.
2006-08-08 07:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been overseas many times. After a while that 2 months that he is gone should seem like cake.
Question though how do you know he is deploying after he graduates. He should have to go to some sort of training so that he can learn his job and then get settled at his first duty station. After that he should only deploy is his ship or whatever he is on ships out.
I may be wrong cause I dont know much about the Navy but thats usually how the military works.
If yall do end up by getting married you will enjoy the military. You will get to travel and meet a lot of great people. Military spouses are one of the strongest people in the world.
Good luck with everything.
2006-08-08 07:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have family and friends in the military. You can expect little or no communication from him while he is in basic training. He'll be pushed to his limits and then pushed past them. After basic training he will go to another school probably and while he's in that school you will be able to communicate a lot better.
My advice to you is to be patient and supportive during this time, that's the best thing you can do for him. Oh, the graduation ceremony from basic is a do not miss.
2006-08-08 07:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the Navy for 20 years and I have missed many events like birthdays the first time my son took his first step and so forth. I was at sea when my first daughter was born. I was deployed to Spain when my other daughter was born. The only child I was present for was my son. He will miss holidays, special events and many others. Don't let this discourage you because he will be there when he can. It's long hours and with little pay, but there are many benefits you both can enjoy.
Next time you see him, give him a thanks from me for his service.
2006-08-08 07:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have had some of my friends go to war and they said it was unforgiving on what they have seen. They wasn't in the navy. They were in the army. If he is in the navy and he goes to war all you can really do is pray and hope he'll be alright. His chances of staying alive is higher than some cause he would be on a ship and out in the sea or ocean. If he does go tell him you love him. Try your best to stay strong for him and for you.
2006-08-08 10:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru this 2x. I would just break it off before he leaves, or stay friends. It will be way too hard for you to have him away for so long and then probably for good after he comes back for 2 weeks. You drift apart when he starts his new life elsewhere any way. Its heartbreaking but I wish I would have done this.
2006-08-08 07:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by urbanpunkfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18 years old I left my home and girlfriend to go off to war in Southeast Asia.
I was gone a long time....
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Time is the test, not distance, enjoy everyday you are together and build memories
2006-08-08 07:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by gerry g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is talking about joining the Army. We have been living together for 3 years and I worry that I will miss him too much.
I don't know what you should expect but I do know that I am grateful for my friends and family if my boyfriend decides to join.
2006-08-08 07:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is on an aircraftcarrier, or flying a plane, don't expect to much, cause he's gonna b tired. But if he is a SEAL or Working on the battlefield as a medic, expect him to at least b wounded
2006-08-08 07:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rifleman 129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋