2006-08-08 06:43:13 · 22 answers · asked by pinoythug4u 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
let me give you a piece of advice from a girl that went through the same thing, the baby might not have been yours
i slept with my boyfriends best friend, then i found out i was preg, 3 weeks later, i got an abortion because if it was the other guys i wouldn't be able to live with my self. My boyfriend knows the whole situation and forgave me , now were trying to get pregnant and know that its his baby 100%
She got that abortion for a reason, and if she wants to get preg again with your baby, obviously it wasn't yours or she was unsure
people make mistakes, i know i did.
The depression after abortion is indescribable, especially for men. its been 5 months since i had an abortion and I'm still upset from it. But remember if you abort it early its not living yet!
If you love her , stay with her and support her, dont get her preg yet until she tells you the truth
2006-08-08 06:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't suggest complying with her wishes. Tell your girlfriend that you don't want to have a baby until you(re):
1. A legal adult
2. Have a solid education (have you graduated from college?)
3. Have a full time, well paying job (with health insurance)
4. Have a stable home
5. Are married.
Explain to her that you want any child that you help bring into the world to have the best chances of having a good life and you want to do all the things that you can to help, including the things l listed. That should make her happy and more patient.
Why is this in the 'Grade Schooler' category?
2006-08-08 06:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your her father and you care about the baby, tell her that you'll take care of the baby if you are that self-confident and sure you want and can take care of a baby yourself. Trust me, if there is anything more painful than an inoccent baby getting an abortion, it's seeing that baby walk off to an orphanage never to be seen again or having any knowledge that he or she will have a good life.
Plus, you are a very sensitive guy.. trust me, if you want children and she don't, there are PLENTY of women in this world who DO want children and a sensitive man. Trust me, you are a rare gift from above that every woman craves and needs. Don't waste your time on this *****.
2006-08-08 09:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by qtpie16707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABORTION IS NOT BIRTH CONTROL. I had my daughter when I was 16 years old. I graduated high school. I have a professional career, and I've raised her to be an awesome child. Her father and I are still together, and we have three children total. NONE of this was easy, but we had the strength and determination to take responsibility for our actions which is what you and your girlfriend should be doing.
I am not against abortion...but I do not feel that it should be used as birth control until "the right daddy" comes around. That's a sick and demented way of thinking. You aren't ready to be a parent until you yourself have grown up.
2006-08-08 06:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stephunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever it take to save your baby from a horrible, violent death. Tell her that you love her and love the baby, and don't want to see either of them hurt. Tell her that you're going to be there for her and the baby. Stay calm and loving at all times. This is very important. If you make her angry, she might abort the baby out of spite.
You and your girlfriend both need to see:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
2006-08-09 01:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was pregnant and had an abortion then turned around and wanted to get pregnant, that should raise a flag to you. How many women get pregnant have an abortion and then want to get pregnant again? If she terminated the first pregnancy it was for a reason. If she wasn't ready then she's not ready now. Are you sure she was pregnant and if you are certain that she was......... then I don't believe that the first baby was YOURS!!!!!!! This advice is coming from a woman, DON'T BE A FOOL. DON'T GET TRAPPED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-08 06:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you two have parents? How old are you? Do you have a brain? Stay away from her. Get some adult help and direction here. This is disgusting that there is no adult in charge here to kick both of you in the butt.
If she was my daughter and I knew about this and she was not of legal age, you two would never see each other again. She would be sent away for some serious, serious help.
2006-08-08 14:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be feel sad about the decision she had to make. She might need to talk to someone who might understand what she is going through. you guys might want to talk to planned parenthood about this situation. I not sure a baby is the answer to the problem.
2006-08-08 06:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would RUN, not walk away from this girl and never see her again. If she will kill once, she will again and I wouldn't want the pain. Is this harsh? Yeah, you bet it is. Abortion is murder.
2006-08-08 10:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u gave Ur o.k. for her to murder that baby, they u need to be in jail just like her . abortion is nothing but legal murder she should be fixed so she cant have any and so should you and u should be banned from adoption also
2006-08-10 08:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋