Well, I think I've figured out why I stay with my bf who is so introverted and difficult to figure out. It's because it's a challenge to me and I was taught that anything worth having should be hard to get. That explains why I don't give up on my bf because he gives me little glimpses of hope here and there, yet remains introverted and difficult to understand. It's very hard to be patient and I don't even know if I should be. I get the idea that he doesn't want to be like that yet it is such a habit for him. I've even found books for improving conversation, etc in his house. which is why I have hope that he won't always be this way and just needs time and encouragement, any ideas?
2006-08-08 06:36:59 · 10 answers · asked by beautifully broken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you mean...
sometimes it drives me insane!! but It took a lot of breaking down to get him to understand .
Try telling him how you feel about it.
Sometimes it's good to put a little fear into them by telling him it makes you doubt things.
Maybe you were sent to him, to help him open up more.
2006-08-08 06:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh...relationships! They can be easy, confusing and even frusterating. But you should wait for him to catch up, especially if you like him. But if you are just using him for a challenge thats not right. But i think you do like him. Obviously he wants to keep this relationship going if he has all those books. He could be confused or is having problems with something so he is having a hard time talking to you because of the other thing on his mind. I say you should talk to him, in person is best, and ask him if anything is wrong or if anything is on his mind. He could feel like he has no one to talk to. Be the one he can talk to. Be patient and get ready for anything. That is why he is such a challenge and so hard to read. His FEELINGS!
2006-08-08 13:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... i dont dont think he's challenging, unless by challenging, you mean retarded. "little glimpses of hope." Oh Brother. Stop wasting your time on some yuppie and get someone who will be honest, open and extroverted. The only think youre gonna figure out is how much of your life youve wasted.
2006-08-08 13:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mark :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is an introvert. I will never be able to change that. You need to be sure you can live with him the way he is. You can never change someone's personality.
We have many arguements about his lack of communication. But he is loyal and kind and has other good attributes. You need to figure out what is important to you. Can you live with silence? If not, you should leave.
2006-08-08 13:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's awesome of you to remain with him and not break over him over something like that. It does seem a problem, but it's one of those things... if he's working on it, and you're working on it, it's worth it to keep going and keep trying.
2006-08-08 13:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ladyofthflame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push so hard. Just relax, be yourself, talk to him, and hopefully things will work out just fine. Good luck!
2006-08-08 13:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him don't make him a challenging game
2006-08-08 13:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have me......... Hey is this a challenge? I can be reached at &^(*^&*%(&^......... Just kidding..... Do you want to have an affair?
2006-08-08 13:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by ronfschmidt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so. communication between you only improve it.
2006-08-08 13:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him! he's doing the best he can
2006-08-08 13:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋