meddling. That would be understandable if you dind't get along with her then. But I mean if she's just not your cup of tea. My mom-in-law is in her 80s, rather backwards (she still cleans up after her 50-yr-old son!), Southern, has a really bad accent and sounds nearly illiterate. Ugh! I know it sounds shallow. How can I look past our differences?
2006-08-08 06:32:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For some reason, I've had to deal w/not-so-great mothers-in-law in my 2 marriages, and wonderful fathers-in-law (unfortunately, my fathers-in-law passed away first!!).
Anyhow...in your situation, I think I'd try to look beyond all those unpleasant traits and remember one thing!! She raised your husband and you love him...right? So somehow, either by osmosis or something, he did turn out all right.
When you are with her, just try to be yourself. Don't spend anymore time with her than you absolutely have to. How does your husband feel about this? Can he suggest anything?
Wish my problem was more like yours. Mine doesn't pay that much attention to my 2 kids, who are among her more than 15 grandchildren. My own mom is no longer alive and I am sad for my children that they don't have a grandmother who thinks they are the most wonderful people in the world!
Not sure I helped, but you sound like an intelligent person and I'm sure you'll handle it well.
2006-08-08 06:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just accept the type of relationship you have with her and don't expect much from her. You are not responsible for her relationship with her son, your husband is. My In-laws are horrible and I try not to spend a lot of time with them, but I am kind to them out of love for my husband.
2006-08-08 06:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by justagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋