shes not sure if he is the right one..how can i help her decide wat she wants in her man...how can i help her decide if he is the right man and if he is wat she needs..shes afraid that in the long run hes not going to turn out to be the person she thought he was and shes also worried that there might be better out there..and someone that fits wiht her even more. theyve been engaged for about a year..but shes still not sure..help me help her..wat can i do???????
2006-08-08 06:16:53 · 21 answers · asked by wateva.uwant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a year of being engaged, you cannot help her make up her mind, only be there to listen. IF you advise her and things go wrong, she could be more than upset with you.
You did not say how old your sister was. If she is under 21, she should not consider marrying him with those concerns. Maybe she is not ready to be married, rather than marrying him. Her concern that he is not the "right" person is a red flag. That means stop, think and find a new path.
Best thing you can do as a sister is just to be there when she initiates talking about the problem. Otherwise, the best advise I would give is MYOB.
2006-08-08 06:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do yourself a favor, let your sister decide by herself.
If it goes great, then share her joy, if not then you won't feel guilty of her mistake.
Is her life, and even with the best intentions, there are things we do have to choose alone.
She might be too young as to take a commitment, or may be she waits to start feeling something but not always works that way.
If you want to help her, let her know that no matter the decision she had taken, you will be always there for her. Give her your support and let her make a free choice.
2006-08-08 06:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 10:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal decision she has to make on her own because she is the person who bear directly the consequences of her decision.If she is in doubt, let her give it some time more, with time she will either see the good qualities in her man or see someone that fits her more better.
2006-08-08 06:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having a hard time deciding, she is NOT doing her BF any favors...in fact, I hope he finds out about this and has the chance to run as fast as he can. He deserves someone who loves him. She isn't the one...that's for sure.
2006-08-08 06:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying - when in doubt do nothing . Maybe she needs to give it some more time and go live a little. Maybe she should go on vacation somewhere by herself , go see some things.
2006-08-08 06:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not sure then she has no business getting married....and she should break things off and get herself together --- stop leading him on when she's so unsure - it's not fair to him or her....
all you can do is offer your support and encourage her to seek out the man she longs for...
2006-08-08 06:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help her decide, this is something she has to do herself. Ultimately, she has to determine whether or not he's the right person for her.
Just be there for your sister, if she wants to talk, vent, etc. Just support her no matter what.
2006-08-08 06:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has any dought at all I would tell her not to do it. Everyone gets wierd before a wedding, but deep down you know its the right thing to do. I tell her to go for it, you can get divorsed just as easy as you got married! Its sad, but true!
2006-08-08 06:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything. and um...if she wasn't sure to begin with, why did she take the ring? and second, love isn't second guessing. when you know, you know. Don't keep this guy on a string like this. if she wants something better for her, she should go out and get it! and let him go out and find something better for him too!
2006-08-08 06:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋