im so depressed right now... my boyfriend told me yesterday that he has been talkin to another girl. its pretty much over. we've been together for 2 years. i need help! i cant stop crying! has any gone through a hard break-up? how did you get over it?
2006-08-08 06:09:26 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have every right to be sad about it.. u loved someone and they let u down, disappointed u, didn't return ur love.
*but* after awhile, u have to realize: why are u still sad about someone who didn't want you? who didnt' appreciate ur commitment? who didn't appreciate your love?? You are WORTH more than that. if u are truly confident that u were a committed, caring girlfriend, the problem was him, not you. just because u loved someone who was willing to treat u bad doesn't mean ur love wasn't good enough; it means HE didn't realize or appreciate what he had. why do u still wonder about him? why do u still care about him? he is just not good enough for you.
what u need to do right now, is take time out to work on urself, and ur confidence. after a breakup, sometimes u feel worthless, used, and treated like crap. but it's quite the opposite.. ur worth so much more, and he didn't see, so he's missing out. so work on ur appearance, exercise, make urself look and *feel* better. work on ur mind; study more, read more, learn more, be able to discuss and develop opinions, and be able to talk w/ friends, family, or even strangers. the better u feel about urself, ull realize u were wasting time on someone just not good enough, and that u are readying urself for someone who is Worthy of you, and who you are Worthy of.
2006-08-08 06:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh girl!!!! WHO HASN"T GONE THROUGH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is one of the hardest things to go through. Having feeling suck. Even though you are hurting right now and probabally got that knot in your stomach, you just have to try and keep your mind off him. Try and think about all the stuff he has done wrong, or stuff that just pissed you off. Maybe it will give you reasons to not stress so much. Also go out and try to have fun. Meet new people, flirt a little, when you get some compliments and hit on a few times it lifts your spirits and gives you hope. Just try and find distractions so it doesn't eat you up inside. Eventually you will get over him and think "What was I thinking". Trust me time does heal all wounds. You'll be alright sweety, and you will find someone that is worth your time. good luck.
2006-08-08 13:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by drea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself cry and be upset, you deserve to let out your feelings, then you will realize that you don't want to feel that way anymore. Surround yourself with friends and family, take up a new hobby or exercise..you'll feel better about yourself. Do nice things for yourself..and no matter what...do not get into another relationship with anyone for a while, take care of you first! Remember, do not call or contact your ex and do not accept his calls or talk to him for a while. The temptation is too great and you don't need to fall back into the old pattern. Move on and look forward to the fact that there is someone out there waiting to find you!!
2006-08-08 13:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a fella i know we can be real b**tards at times. What you need to do is get around your friends and have a good laugh with them in your company. Also think about you bf in positive terms if you can ...try to look at this as a new opportunity,sure it will be difficult but time is a great healer. And finally start to plan all of those things you wished you could do when you were single. Even if you never get round to doing them it will make you smile again. Keep your chin up ....good times are only around the next corner :)))
2006-08-09 14:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mozzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to female rap artists...they hate men. Go out with your girlfriends and do not through yourself at every other man you see. Don't try to get over him by being with someone else that doesn't work. You just have to stay positive and go through the pain. In no time, you'll be with someone else and he'll want you back but you'll be over him. It's gonna hurt and there will be many nights of tears and haagen dias but you will survive it. Good luck sweetie.
2006-08-08 13:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by pinkpistol16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broke up w/ ex of 2 years too. take some time, dont try not to think of the relationship. instead, reflect on it, look back on what you have learned from it. accept it as one of life's pains, and take it in stride with the rest of it. once you've done that, take some time to be on your own. go out with friends, distract yourself with other things, dont even worry about the dating scene. just be content with who you are for a little while. every day, you will think of him a little less, and one day, the day will come when you dont think of him at all. on that day, you are ready to move on, get back out there, and find the right one! I did. = ) good luck!!
2006-08-08 13:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK - I am Superman in real life . I will stop by and save you and fly around Gotham City with you .
We can swoop by the old boyfriend's place and you can throw something at him after you catch him in the act and then you can be free to fly with me .
See you tonight Lois .
Clark "BOSCO" Kent
2006-08-10 15:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters I would like to say I'M SORRY to hear that.
now to answer your question, the only advice I have to give is just start going out and have a good time, now that won't be easy starting off but you just have to be strong and do it or you won't be happy for a while.
now it will take time so be paitent and it will work out.
2006-08-08 13:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by buickroad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for eight years to model g/friend and i know about hard breakups/ we have two kids together and i even know how she leaves them to go to that other man// its hard but time and not seeing him or her will help u out// also try praying
2006-08-08 13:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well FORGET ABOUT HIM! You're not good enough for him. There are alot of guys who'll like you for who you are so keep looking. Go out somewhere. Go shopping. Stop crying while he'll be out there having fun with his new g/f!
Get a life and go out with somebody else. Stop wasting your time on somebody who's not good enough for you.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-an-Ex-Boyfriend---Properly%21
Good luck
2006-08-08 13:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋