I caught My Sister!!!!?

Question

My sister is married and today while her husband was at work I dropped by. She was butt naked having sex with her husbands best friend.. her husband treats her like gold and supports her.
This is my sis so I am not sure if I should do anything.
What do think?
PS
He had her bent over the couch.....

Answer 1

Too many details to take this seriously

Answer 2

I know other people will tell you different, but you need to only do three things:

First, tell your sister how you feel about what she has done and suggest she get some marriage counseling.

Second, DO NOT TELL ANYONE ELSE--This can do more damage than good. Your sister and her husband may have issues that no one knows about but them. Adultery is usually a symptom and it will take a professional to delve into those reasons.

Also,Your sister needs to be the one who tells her husband when the time becomes right. (Though there are times when it is better not to confess what you have done, but a counselor will help with that decision).

Third, love your sister without condemnation-this doesn't mean approving or condoning what she has done.

You can also suggest the following:

Back from betrayal : saving a marriage, a family, a life
by Farbman, Suzy, 1944-

Answer 3

We didn't needed to know what position she was in. However, this is a tough one. It's your sister, so you feel loyality towards her, but you know what she's doing is wrong. I think I'd talk to her, and tell her you aren't comfortable with what she is doing, and that if you caught her, so will her husband. I'm not a saint, and never have been, but doing it in the home that you live in with your husband is very careless, and wrong. Hell, the whole thing is wrong. If she's not happy, tell her to get divorced. Good Luck ~

Answer 4

Yikes! Sister or not, her husband has a right to know. I would definitely say something. Consider the possibility that she picks up some type of VD from the guy. And what if there were more guys you don't know about? Is it fair to her husband? Put yourself in his shoes.... wouldn't you want to know? This may cause a rift between you and your sister but who's the one in the wrong here?

Answer 5

So here's your dilemma . . .

Should you tell your sister's husband because of the potential health risks of sex with a man not her husband and risk your sister's wrath? Or should you say nothing and let this blow up in their faces weeks, months, or years later because you did know and didn't say anything?

There's nothing wrong with family loyalty, and I commend your doubt, believe it or not. But that doubt shouldn't keep you from doing what you know is right. Reminds me of Mark Twain's definition of a conscience, a voice inside us telling us what we want to do anyway.

Relationships can always heal and start anew, broken health and broken lives can't. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Although this is a very difficult position (no pun intended) to find yourself in you must remember that it is not your marriage at stake here. I would tell your sister that you do not approve of her decision and that you strongly urge her to tell her husband about this event. Most importantly I would not tell him yourself, as that outs you in the middle of something that you don;t want to be in and makes the entire event even worse because the truth came from someone other than his wife and partner. Do not fret though as there is counseling that they could attend to and other things that might help as well. Again I strongly urge you to be honest with your sister, and tell her just how you felt about the situation.

Answer 7

Throw your Master's Degree in Counseling into the trash can!
Karma really works, is it not? Sarcasm begets sarcasm.
Now after the sting has died down, it is her personal matter between her and her God, if she has one. This is my opinion. This does not mean that you condone improper behavior. You can do "silent action" which is a way of ignoring her until she reforms. Sometimes matters take their own course and are "resolved by themselves", especially if you believe that there is a Supreme Controller. The thing is, the propensity to do "something" remains even by confrontation or warning. What is needed is for that propensity to be expunged from one's mind. Meditation and its accompanying practice of specific yoga asanas (postures) is a way to clear out and channelised these baser propensities. So you can inspire and lead her into undertaking the same recommended recourse and hopefully she will take into it and thus resolve her indiscrimination.

Answer 8

I would just talk to your sister and ask her why she is doing this if she has such a great husband. Make sure she is aware of what she has, sometimes poeple take things for granted. Remind her of how lucky she is to have such a great guy. Do not tell her husband, let her make that decision, oh and next time knock first!!!

Answer 9

You may want to have a quiet word with her. Although she has been unfaithful, she is still your sister and will remain your sister, even if she and her husband divorce.

Informing her husband is not the best option. If really push comes to shove, then you must let her and him, make their own choices, without your counsel.

Afterall, it is they who are married, let them decide the course of their marriage.

Answer 10

I read your about me page. So you are a counselor huh? 32 Years old and you give people advice for a living. Yet you are in here asking us what to do about your sister? I wonder what the real circumstances are.

Answer 11

Tell the husband immediately, it is for your sister's good and for the good of the relationship. If she is cheating on him then she does not love him. But then are u serious! U caught her!!! thats kinda dumb! lol