My son's birthday is coming up soon. My inlaws are all fighting. I have tried to stay out of it. My mother-in-law does not want her sister at the party, but my 4 yr old son doesn't understand because he loves her. How can I handle this without causing more fighting? How do I tell the aunt not to come?
2006-08-08 05:49:58 · 26 answers · asked by AfterThought 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This happens in every family. I had even thought about TWO parties. That's how bad it was.......I don't think there is a right answer, because no matter what you do, someone will still be mad at someone.
In order for you to stay out of it, you could tell your husband to handle it. After all, it is his family. Let him get involved and attempt a solution. That way they can't blame you for however it turns out........They will all forgive your husband, he is blood, they can't stay mad at him......................Don't get involved and tell your husband WHY he has to handle it..............Good Luck.........
2006-08-08 05:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't. You need to get on the phone and be blunt about the adults who are acting like shildren. Remind everyone that there is an innocent 4 year old in the middle of this mess. Tell the Aunt to come, by all means. You aren't fighting with her. If the inlaws can't get along for one day and help make this boys birthday special, then tell THEM not to come. Be firm! They will realize how silly they are acting.
2006-08-08 05:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't tell her no to come this day is about ur son and his happiness he loves both of them and wants both of them to be there u tell both of the supposed to be "grown ups" to get their behinds to the party if they love him..they don't have to get there at the same time one can leave before the other one gets there if they want to both b there then u tell them to keep ur son out of their feud and respect his party by not fighting...good luck ♥that is sooo sad
2006-08-08 05:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by His 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say invite them anyway. They are adults and should be able to exhibit some self-control and restraint and keep their distance from each other while celebrating your son's fourth birthday.
I would think they would be able to agree to set aside their differences for the day.
If not, why not plan two small parties and invite people to a specific one to keep the feuding individuals apart?
2006-08-08 05:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Molly M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son WANTS his aunt there, then invite the Aunt and tell her mother to grow up. It's a party for a little kid. If they can't behave and let the child have the people he loves there, then don't invite either one to a party intil they work it out.
2006-08-08 05:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your sons birthday.
Invite them all.
If anyone misbehaves, then say this is a party for juveniles, not a juvenile party, then ask them to leave.
This is not for you to decide. You are not the Family Peacemaker. Send out invites. They come or they don't. Their choice. If someone acts bad, then it is your home, and you must deal with it accordingly because you have young impressionable minds present who deserve love.
Good Luck!
2006-08-08 06:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite everyone that you or your son would like to attend. Leave it up to the invitees whether they would like to attend or not and stay out of the feud completely. It is sad that grown ups act so childishly sometimes. Sadly it is their loss if they cannot put aside their differences for you sons sake. That is how I handle family situations and it has always may me feel better to stay out of it. I have no patience for it and refuse to let it ruin my plans.
2006-08-08 05:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by jaybird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk with both sides of the argument and see if you can set up a mutual agreement so that there is no hurt feelings at the party. if this is not possible try to explain to you inlaws that it is not about them and they need to set an example for your son.
2006-08-08 05:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by pinkbeach901 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is tell the MIL that you cannot punish your child for something that's strictly between the aunt and her and that her not wanting the aunt there is something she wants for herself and not the kid and that it's not her birthday. I might also tell her to grow up but, of course, that helps nothing. Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask everyone involved to set aside their differences for the day and be adults. Tell them they don't need to speak and seat them as far away from each other as possible. It's your son's day and they should be respect that.
2006-08-08 05:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋