my fiances father and step mother hate me and dont want us to get married? i am a good person who has mothered 3 children from this man. we are to be married in july of 2007 and they are trying everything they can to stop this from happening. any help would be nice.
2006-08-08 05:45:42 · 6 answers · asked by jrsgirl1964 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
(Please take this answer as an objective one, and don't take it personally. I don't know you so I have no reason to be mean.)
If you have 3 kids together and just now are deciding to get married, that could make you an immoral you-know-what in their eyes. It doesn't matter that he helped conceive the children too. They're thinking that after all this time you don't really love him anymore, and only want to get married to make it legal...so you can later divorce him and get a nice fat monthly child support check, times 3, plus alimony, plus half of whatever else you can get. It doesn't matter if the guy actually has anything or not. You are a Gold Digger who's out to fleece their baby boy after hooking him with 3 kids. Some parents are just that way... no one's good enough. In that case you can only try to kill them with kindness and prove what a good person you actually are.
The bottom line...get married if that's what you both want, and don't worry about Dad and stepmom. They will eventually come around, especially considering that there are grandkids involved.
If it really bothers you and you want to have a clean slate before the wedding, maybe you should sit down with your fiance', discuss how to approach Dad & stepmom, and then go together over to their place (or invite them to your place) and ask them if there's something wrong, something you have or haven't done, in short, ask them why they don't like you. Tell them you love their son and want to be with him for the rest of your life, and you want to have a good relationship with them also. It could be a simple misunderstanding, or it could just be a case of "no one's good enough for our son", but at least you will know. You have plenty of time before the wedding so you should at least make an effort to clear the air.
Hope this helped. Good Luck.
2006-08-08 07:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by answerman63 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are that adamant that the two of you no be married, then they must have given a reason why. If they haven't then you might try sitting down with them one on one and ask them why they are so opposed to your marriage plans.
They are your fiance's parents. He should politely ask them to be supportive or be quiet. If he doesn't go do that, then you should ask him why he thinks it is okay for them to meddle in your lives this way.
What exactly are they doing that would stop this from happening?
I think there has to be more details in order to give you a solid answer that is helpful to you.
Good luck
2006-08-08 06:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your fiance feel about it? Does it bother him? If he is okay with it then you should be too. But you can always ask your fiance if he can get them to agree for all 4 of you to sit down and have a talk about what the problem is. And if that doesnt work then you are too good to talk to them anyway!
2006-08-08 05:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like youre either in denial and already know the answer to this question, or he just has really unreasonable parents. maybe they dont like the way youre raising their grandchildren..
or do you think maybe youre stuck up and dont notice it? (not to be mean or anything, but im just thinking of reasons why)...
good luckkk
2006-08-08 05:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by WiseWisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. they could resent you for mothering three children BEFORE marriage and feel your morals could be in the hole or so to say. time and lots of work is the only answer...
2006-08-08 05:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more info. why do u think they dont like u? have u argued? about what? is there a large age difference? is your family from a different economic status than his?
2006-08-08 08:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by galaxygurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋