im gonna try to put as much info as possible. so somehwere in april, i really like this girl. i even asked her out pretty stupidly. left a note and all. couple days later, shes in fl and leaves a text saying "she has too many thigns going on and she cant be with anyone righ tnow." now of course i was hurt but i didnt show it at all. i got better though throught my frosh year, but it just wasnt the same. we got really close again and i even began to like her. suddenly freakin today the worst possible thing happened. she just started dating htis other guy that she was really close too. and to think i had the chance? like i didnt care at first over the summer, but now i feel like crap that she didnt choose me and seh chose him. and this girl is like the first girl ive fell for this bad. shes amazing and its so tough saying for me to forget her. yea i made a promise awhile ago after she sent the txt, that if she goes out with someone else, i shouldnt give her a chance anymore. what do ido?
2006-08-08 05:40:27 · 6 answers · asked by some jersey kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the exact same position right now. Just because she is dating him n ow doesn't mean it's going to last?????????? Wait it out! BUT be her friend in the meantime. Don't smother. Act cool! What you are feeling now is betrayal/rejection. Maybe it will happen later with her, maybe it won't. But don't YOU sit around waiting, wasting YOUR time and life. If she breaks it off then try again with her, but in the meantime the best thing is to look around for someone else. And who knows, you might just find someone who makes you forget HER! In any case, good luck!
2006-08-08 05:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your going through...actually I'm going through it right now because I found out not long ago the girl I like likes someone else.
Now for the tough part...if your always thinking about her and you think she's perfect ...and it will be hard to get over her but remember that people date people but they do break up. Now I don't want you to get your hopes up but its not completely over. And if ever you 2 get really close again then there is your time to ask but until then...it might be a little rough.
2006-08-08 12:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by greener 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have at least these two issues: your reaction and her interest.
Regarding her interest: If she wanted to go out with you, she would have by now. If you have to even ask the question if she's interested, she not.
Regarding your reaction: You are responsible for your own happiness. In order to not be needy, you need to be happy with your life and having fun bike riding, running, swimming, going to movies. If you are looking for something external to make you happy, you need to work on yourself first.
If you have a deep desire to be with someone you haven't dated or been intimate with, it's not love, it's just hormones urging you on.
You likely meet many other people at school or work, some of whom would go out with you if you'd just ask. Ask, in person or over the phone--no notes or email which would bring you anxiety waiting for a response.
I know my answer is jumping all over the map, but hopefully you'll be able to get something out of it.
I don't think you're in the position to give out chances, and certainly shouldn't even if you were.
2006-08-08 12:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be more aggressive to get her attention. You said that you were back being good friends, and then another guy started dating her. Why didn't you ask her out before the other guy did? Maybe she was waiting on you to ask her out, but didn't, so she went out with the other guy. You need to go see her in person, don't call her. Tell her that you are freaked out because you really like her and wish she would go out with you. Maybe she is waiting for you to ask... Just do it! Be Polite if she says "no". Remember, be polite, don't act hard up. Good Luck
2006-08-08 12:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard, i would say you shoul move on and try to forget her even if it might seem impossible to you since you are seeing her and stuff.but if she was interested in you she would have said it..so its just not meant to be..try to think about somethink else, enjoy your life, han gout with friends, do something for yourself..time will heal the wounds...good luck to you though:)
2006-08-08 12:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over this girl she played you and if she wanted to be with you she would have
2006-08-08 13:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋