How do you know when you can't take anymore? I been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and about a month ago he started treating me like ****. I say it's over and then when he comes over my house I am in love all over again. Why can't I just let him go and move on. I am also two and a half months pregnant with his child. I don't think the prgnancy has anything to do with it because even if I wasn't pregnant I still will feel this way. I just want to get over it and move on, any suggestions?
2006-08-08 05:37:14 · 5 answers · asked by anw110784 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop what your doing, sit down and think of the baby first of all. It takes a real man to raise a child it doesn't have to exactly be the sperm doner,but a mother, only one. Think about really do you want happiness in your life or rather suffer from disappointment and possibly risk your child of being born as a nervous re ck. Be happy be free, let him go for a while take a breather, if it's meant to be he'll come back to his senses and be the man that you need him to be in you life. If not then baby life goes on remember you won't be alone anyways in a couple of months you will have someone who truly and surely will always love you unconditionally.
2006-08-08 05:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by cOMpLiCaTeD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to realize that you are worth something. you love him. u are committed woman. you would do anything for him, including have his child. WHY, then, is he treating you bad? why is he not doing his all to make you happy? why is he not trying his best to be a good boyfriend, father, maybe even husband? he is taking u for granted, and treating u like crap. eventually he will be using you if you continue to let him Walk all over you!!
the problem here is not that u don't love him. don't ever feel bad about urself, that ur love is not good enough for him. that is not the problem AT ALL. the problem is HIM...he is not mature enough or caring enough to realize what he has. and because of that, you have to set boundaries for ur relationship, with Any man. u have to let him know what u expect from urself, from him, and from the relationship. tell him straight out, if u don't want to get married, i'm out. i'm having this baby on my own, because i don't Deserve to be treated like this. don't take him back becuase You love him...e veryone knows u love him. take him back because he Loves you enough to CHANGE. to work on the relationship. to make things better. that is the only reason u should take him back. if he treats u badly again, or makes u feel "not good enough", it is an unhealthy relationship. it doesn't mean there's no love, but it does mean he is not right for you. and tha'ts ok.. u don't have to be stuck w/ someone who is bad to you. let him go, and find someone who Will do what is right, and take care of u and all ur needs, and ur baby's. that is a Real Man. you are worth that...and someone great deserves you too. keep up ur standards, for urself, and for ur future man, and u will have a positive, healthy, and growing relationship. there's NOTHING wrong w/ expecting the best for yourself, when u know that u expect the best from urself. take care~~
2006-08-08 05:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of this situation now before you end up with no self esteem at all. don't you know that mental abuse is worse than physical abuse and the mental wounds take longer to go away. you don't want your child raised around that.
2006-08-08 05:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by nikb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have low self esteem and give in too easily. Get a backbone. Get an education if you don't have one yet.
Move away where he won't find you or tell him to get lost and mean it.
You CAN do it.
Pray for strength to make you and your children's lives better.
I will pray for you.
2006-08-08 05:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by up.tobat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time he comes over, think about how bad he treats you.
oh and change your locks.
2006-08-08 05:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Antman Almighty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋