Ok, so me and this woman have been meeting at various art receptions for the last month & 1/2 and corresponding via email. I got to the point where i was like "ok need to ask her out or i'll end up in friendship zone" so I ended my last email asking her out to coffee or a drink so we could talk more in person (as at the various receptions either I am working or she is depending on the local) She emailed me back the next day telling me she is nuts busy through next sat and that thursday there will be another reception she will be at and i should come and we can talk there, noting that the alcohol there will be free and plentiful......
Im not sure if i should take that as a "im busy but i'll be here and want to see you...." or No thanks i'll talk to you when is see you but dont want to go out.....
I unfortunately wont be able to make thursday (band practice) so i was also wondering if i should email her back saying that or just no show and turn the hard to get tables on her.
2006-08-08 05:30:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop over thinking this. Your taking something simple and innocent and turning into something else. If a girl says she is busy but wants to hook up with you at a specific time in the future then accept that at face value. Always assume the best which in this case is that she is interested and wants to talk to you but is busy until that point. Email her back and tell her you have band practice and see if you can hook up with her later on that night instead or at another future time. Don't play silly hard to get games or you will just be wasting time and getting no where.
2006-08-08 05:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It took you 1 1/2 months to ask her out. I think your already in the friend zone. That's a long time to know someone and not ask. If it was me I would be like what the f*ck, whats taking him so long and I could probably loose interest or think your not that into me since you have let so much time pass. Anyhow I think if she was interested in you in that way she would have met you for coffee. It seems she likes things between you guys just the way it is. I would send the e-mail though rather than being a no show.
2006-08-08 12:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you can't make it then, but tell her if she has a free afternoon (or weekend, whatever) to let you know so you can talk in person. Put the ball in her court, let her make the next move. Don't play "hard to get" because you'll just end up alone, and she may just be busy. Don't play games, just give her some space after you give her the hint. She may want to get to know you better in person before being alone with you. Women have to be cautious these days. Just be respectful and friendly, but give her some space.
2006-08-08 12:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's that interested and I don't think she's playing hard to get. I do think you should email her back and tell her that you won't be there because you have things to do. (don't explain) Then tell her to let you know when she's free to meet up, if she doesn't contact you and let you know, then I'd say you are already in the friend zone. Also, it would be good to find out if she's seeing someone, because she may be involved with someone else. Good luck!
2006-08-08 12:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you go nutso and turn tables on anyone...maybe she really is busy or maybe shes just not interested but, you don't have to take it as an insult or anything , maybe she likes to take things slow...Or maybe she wasn't comfortable enough to go out on a date with you ....tell her that maybe another time because you'll be busy...just tell its an open invite whenever she wants to go out its up to her but don't make her feel awkward about it ...if she decides to agree and go out , then she is interested if she doesn't shes not
2006-08-08 12:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not be playing you. I would let her know that you cant make it and see if you can plan another day for coffee. If after the second try she still gives you the run around I would let it go...
2006-08-08 12:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go meet her. If she were not interested, she would make excuses as to why she could not meet you or she would not have responded at all. You can miss practice just once to see where this can lead.
2006-08-08 12:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Angry Art 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes interested, otherwise she would not tell you to meet her at the reception, she could have given you an excuse for that too, give it a try sure it will work in your favour.
2006-08-08 12:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by ANTHONY D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and try just the once more. Give her if you want a single flower, leave and leave the ball in her court. AND don't be tempted to contact her again, until she does!
2006-08-08 12:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't turn the tables on her because she will become uninterested. tell her that you have band practice and invite her over for a day that she available and make her dinner.
2006-08-08 12:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋