do you believe a person can change?

Question

I was with a girl and we were not really serious. Just friends with benifits. Now i realized i wanna relationship with her. She's still wild and i dont know if i should trust her. Should i take the chance

Answer 1

no. Move on. If you were to end up back with her then you would be miserable all the time, wondering what or who she is doing. You definetly can not change her. Move on. Find a girl that is more trustworthy. Maybe that will make her think about making some changes to get you back. But she has to be real.

Answer 2

well i dont know how old you or your "friend with benefits" are, (hehe) but if you still young, then i think you guys arent ready for a relationship... You first gota date a few girls to find out what your TYPE is, because everyone is different, and you may only have a "crush" on this girl...and you may find out later on down the road that she's not what u were looking for in the first place...

BUT, on the other hand...
Im in the same kinda situation... i was seeing this girl on and off for about 2months and moved to the UK from south africa, and only realised that i was in love with her once i got here...

So it all depends on your circumstances and your gut feelings...

If she's still quite wild and experimentative, then give it some time, because you might grow attached to her, only to find out on day that she had a fling with some random guy at some party...and that would break your heart! (trust me , ive been there and done that!)

Answer 3

This relationship will be just like a gamble you win some and you lose some. You feel going in you can't trust her because of her wild ways and I feel if that is your perception of her, why would you want a relationship with this person.

You can't change nobody else but yourself.

If you choose to still date her, I suggest you live with your decision and don't complain because you knew going in what you might be getting.

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Definitely take the chance otherwise you will never know. If you really like her then she is worth the risk. the one thing you should NEVER do in a situation like that is get your hopes up. if she does change then you will be glad you waited but if she doesn't at least it wont hurt as much because you knew all along that that is just the way she is either you take it or leave it.

GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION AND IT ACTUALLY WORKED OUT FOR ME.

Answer 5

of course!! take the shot!! of course, she may not have to change, really, in order to get into a relationship. you see, you have never really been serious with her, and as you put it, you were "friends with benefits." well, she may only be wild because she thinks you're not interested in a serious relationship. as such, if you are to get seriously involved with her and let her know exactly how you feel, she'll calm down and focus her attention on you. good luck!!

Answer 6

I don't think people can change a whole lot but if it's not too big a deal I think it could work out. But if it's a big issue then I wouldn't even start that one up.

Answer 7

I married one of those wild ones. She stayed wild. THough it can be fun it all depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for and exactly what wild means...

Answer 8

Not if she's still wild, she has to want to change you can't do it for her. You're just setting yourself up for failure if you think that she will change just because you want a relationship. She has to want it too!!!

Answer 9

Im sure people try very hard to change but as the saying goes "a leopard never changes its spots!" x

Answer 10

YEAH you should. If you like the person then you should try to change her and I believe people do change.