To paint you a picture, I am 21 (Female) and live with my boyfriend in an apartment in London. He owns and operates several companies with his fathe and we live very nicely. We have a huge family and lots of friends. I have in the last few months being seeing some odd things in my boyfriend that seem to have come out of the blue. I will list them.
He has a phobia of tissues and if there is one on our table in restaurant he will get someone to take it away. Also at home.
I have seen him lock our door and then unlock and lock it again is if counting the times he does it. He has to touch things a certain amount of time and seems to get annoyed with himself when doing it.
Making sure our fridge door is shut all the time by pushing it.
I have also discovered soap in a case in a jacket pocket and packets of wipes.
It seems he is on edge all the time and looking round the room all the time.
There are lots of other things. When I mention it he just dismisses it as nothing.
2006-08-08 05:08:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Something is certainly amiss here. You and he need professional advice. Good luck
2006-08-08 05:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm ... sounds like you may be on to something -- or at least his behaviors are not ordinary -- on the the hand -- they may not be more than just odd and not worrisome.
But -- it is clearly something that is bothering you - and it the behaviors continue or progress to being more severe -- something you really need to get him to talk seriously with you about. Make a date with him to talk -- take him some where you both feel relaxed and safe -- even just for a walk to a park (with others around in case he gets angry with you) or when you are at his parent's home where he might feel safe.
Tell him how you care about him -- if you love him -- tell him so. But because you do care about him and your future together -- this is something you must ask him to talk to you seriously and as openly as possible.
If this fails, talk to his parents -- maybe mom or dad separately or to a sibling he has a good relationship with.
If all of this attempts fail, you might go to see a therapist yourself to discuss his behaviors with someone who can help you decide what to do next in terms of being with him or not. OCD is serious and can impact your day-to-day life with someone.
2006-08-08 05:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah hun it sounds like it. However, many ppl with OCD live normal lives, as long as the "things" do not get in the way of having a perfectly functioning life. If it becomes a problem there is some help for it....but it is something he would want to do for himself. There is no cure, but a way to live with OCD.
2006-08-08 05:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by celestial_fantasia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have OCD a little bit myself. If he is hurting your relationship, than thats a problem. Some people have OCD so badly they can't go outside, or they was their hands until they bleed.
He probably does have it, but is that the worst thing. Talk to him about it if it bothers you. He can get counseling or take medication, but I don't think that is wise unless his condition is extreme.
You don't have any problems yourself? You can tease him a little and have fun with it, whats the big deal?
2006-08-08 05:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by TG Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress can exacerbate this disorder and it sounds like he has a lot going on and its manifesting itself this way. i would suggest him seeing a doc not just for the ocd but for his stress, they can give him a mild anti-depressant or just some ideas for dealing with it. i have known personally known several people with this disorder some handle it without medical intervention but some cannot, it may be your boyfriend just needs help 'temporarily' since the disorder manifested itself only recently but its best to check with a doctor to make sure there isn't anything else causing this to happen, especially since it was so sudden. good luck....
2006-08-08 05:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by hell_in_a_handbasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe u need to sit down and talk to him about it. maybe u can talk to him and see if he might think he need to get some help with this. There are meds out there prescribed by Dr's. for OCD and other personality disorders. It could become a mojor problem the longer he waits. If u really care about him, u will try to talk him into seeking help before he becomes a prisoner of his mind.
2006-08-08 05:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by sxy_brwn_eyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have obsessive compulsive disorder. It is not that he is a bad person ... mental disorder is an illness and he could not help it himself. He should seek some professional help to keep it under control or prevent it from getting worse.
2006-08-08 05:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by MeerKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He owns and operates several companies with his fathe and we live very nicely. We have a huge family and lots of friends."
What the hell does that have anything to do with your question?? Everyone is very impressed.
2006-08-08 05:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by cruz734 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no doctor but yeah sounds like OCD to me. My sister-in-law has it, and as time has gone by it has gotten worse. She is now on meds for it. The truth is she is taking an antipsychotic. I am unsire of the name of it but we ( she and I ) agree it is helping her. The doctor said that she would have to be on it for the rest of her life. Maybe it would be good to get him to a doctor.
It is my understanding that OCD is pretty common.
2006-08-08 05:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's what it sounds like to me, too. If you can put up with it, there are worse things in life, but when it interferes with his everyday life, as in he won't leave the house due to a certain fear, or won't have sex because its dirty, then its time for professional help. There are therapies and perhaps medications to help people like him.
2006-08-08 05:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, do yourself a favour: don't diagnose people unless you have certification. he may be a bit compulsive, but you can't really know, because you lack the qualifications. is this negatively effecting his life? if so, you may want to suggest he seek a professional, but don't press him on it. you can't be locked up for OCD.
sorry if that sounded harsh, it's not meant to be. good call on noticing strange behavior.
2006-08-08 05:14:27 · answer #11 · answered by entropicflux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋