To paint you a picture, I am 21 (Female) and live with my boyfriend in an apartment in London. He owns and operates several companies with his fathe and we live very nicely. We have a huge family and lots of friends. I have in the last few months being seeing some odd things in my boyfriend that seem to have come out of the blue. I will list them.
He has a phobia of tissues and if there is one on our table in restaurant he will get someone to take it away. Also at home.
I have seen him lock our door and then unlock and lock it again is if counting the times he does it. He has to touch things a certain amount of time and seems to get annoyed with himself when doing it.
Making sure our fridge door is shut all the time by pushing it.
I have also discovered soap in a case in a jacket pocket and packets of wipes.
It seems he is on edge all the time and looking round the room all the time.
There are lots of other things. When I mention it he just dismisses it as nothing.
2006-08-08 05:06:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Wow. I'm not an expert, but it does mimic exactly what I've seen on television regarding OCD. From what I understand for some that live with OCD, things "have to be just right". The unlocking and re-locking of the door seems to be just that. If I just witnessed the soap, packet of wipes and the request to remove someone else's Kleenex, I would have thought he is simply weary of germs - just like me. However, the other clues you give seem to add up to something bigger. I'd see a specialist, when he's ready to confront/admit his possible OCD. Know that many people and their spouses live just fine with OCD. Depending on its severity, it may just take more time and patience to get things done. My best of wishes to you in identifying/dealing with this concern.
2006-08-08 05:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by ilikegum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experiences, he defiantly has obsessive compulsive disorder(ocd) The most common symptoms are obsessive thoughts *if i don't touch that door 10 times right now I might die* or obsessive thoughts, which could be anything that he thinks of constantly that he can't seem to get out of his head even if he wants to. The best advise for you and him as well, is to see a professional. I'm sure that will be hard because he might be too embarrassed to mention theses things to someone for fear of being "weird", or "odd", but just assure him that there are so many people with the same thing, and he is not alone.
2006-08-08 05:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a husband and 3 children with OCD. I definitely would say your mate does have it. I know this may sound cruel but, think twice about staying with him. I can't tell you the torcher my kids and husband go through. If I would have known my husband had it before we married I would not have married him. It is hereditary and chances are your kids will have it too. There were also 2 attempted suicides by 2 of the 4 people in my family that have it. There is no cure. There are medications that will help a little but its just that a little. It is a horrible mental disorder. My kids are now 37'34 and 25 and it is horrible. If you remain with him you will see it only gets worse as they age. There are more things in his head which you cannot see that they go through. What you see is on the outside, what goes on in the inside is alot worse.
2006-08-08 05:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Corina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to diagnoze somebody with OCD based on what you tell here, but it seems like your bf has a problem. Could be stress-related, but the sooner he deals with it, the better.
My guess is that he's noted the change in himself, too, and that he feels bad about it and probably hopes it will go away. And it may. If it doesn't and he's still in denial, my suggestion is that you talk with either a good doctor or call a therapist (preferrably a cognitive behavioral one) and ask them how to proceed. Ask his parents or a family member you trust (from his family) to help you, they may also have seen his odd behaviour.
Obsessive compulsion acts are about control and reducing anxiety, and tend to expand over time, so if that's what he has, he needs professional help.
2006-08-08 05:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he gone to a doctor? Maybe he does, I saw this one show on MTV.......True Life....and it was about ppl that had OCD and it showed how 3 different ppl had to do "rituals" in order to be able to live their lives "normal". The fact of the being is that maybe he does this things without knowing. You should take him to the doctor it is curable so there is a good chance he can get better but you shouldn't waist any more time, take him now that you are just noticing instead of later. I suggest you sit down and talk to him and ask him first of all why he does it. If he tells you he hasn't noticed it , ask him if he is willing to go to the doctor just to check it out.
Well i hope he gets well. Best Wishes!!!
~browneyes~
2006-08-08 05:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been watching too much Monk.
Seriously, it sounds very possible. Some of his behaviours are like mine but I just have anxiety. Does he seem anxious as well? If he does, perhaps you can bring his attention to that rather than focus on the OCD behaviours, so that he will see a doctor.
My old bf came to me years later to apologize for behaviour when young. He was only happy after diagnosed and able to put a name to what he was feeling. Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are creatures of habit and cautiousness. Maybe he is cautious of germs and wants to keep clean. I too will lock a few times, just so it sinks in that I am sure the door is locked.
As long as he can still function as a normal person, an occasional locking 2-3 more times wont hurt him.
2006-08-08 05:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a case of OCD. However, you can live with this. He also sounds as though he may be afraid of germs (the soap in the pocket). Washing too much can do as much damage as washing too little. He may need to see a psychatrist. Since he is managing companies, he may have a lot of stress on him. Just be there for him. It could be a lot worse (beating you, cheating on you, etc).
2006-08-08 05:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by cows4me79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave everything a mess and see what he does. He'll soon get annoyed by his actions and stop. Open the Refridgerator Door, keep the regular door open. Leave a tissue or towel on the table on purpose.
He is the new and improved MR MONK!
2006-08-08 05:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by vinible2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the TV show Monk?
Seriously, try and convince him to see a doctor. It sounds like OCD and it will probably get worse without treatment. Stress can bring on these symptoms to the point where you are now noticing them. If he doesn't get help, it will drive you crazy, I'm sure of that.
2006-08-08 05:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋