2006-08-08 04:59:01 · 41 answers · asked by weddingcrasher 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The only way I can think of would be to find someone who has been invited and go as their date.
2006-08-08 05:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by flamingo_sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given your pseudonym, one assumes you've seen the film (I haven't, or haven't yet); surely that gave you an idea or two. We've gotten ourselves invited twice to a Bill Clinton event by ringing up and explaining how important we are. For weddings, the thing is whether you want to be invited to the reception (free food) or just the solemnization. Wedding ceremies are ordinarily public events -- that's the point -- and normally nobody will stop you from being at the town hall, court house, church, synagogue, etc. Once there (I am told) so long as you make yourself known you may be invited to take the place of a no-show at the party.
Getting yourself invited in advance is something more of a project. In this day and age, wedding banquets worth crashing cost $200/£100 a head. If you're prepared to bring a present that's one thing; but I detect from the phraseology of your question that you're too cheap to do that. And also too slothful to take photographs or do any work. In that case you simply have to do some homework. With the Internet today, few people have any secrets. The trick, I think, is to make yourself indispensable.
I'm too slothful to read it right now, but it seems to me that a WSJ article of last year (3rd & 4th links below) may tell you what you're looking for.
2006-08-08 05:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being left out hurts and one of the most difficult tasks the bride and groom must undertake in planning their wedding is who to invite. Often friends and family must be left off the guest list due to financial limitations on how many guest can be accomadated. Often the fourth cousin twice removed who has not had contact with the family in 30 years is placed on the guestlist to accomadate a favorite grandparent, aunt, cousin, resulting in the removal of someone closer to the bride or groom from the guestlist.
Is it the union you want to witness or be part of the party afterwards. If you care about the couple and want to witness their union, speak with them. Let them know that you understand that not everyone can be invited and you are find with that, but witnessing their union is important to you. Ask them if it would be okay for you to attend the church ceramony only.
If you are only looking to be part of the party afterwards, then you are interested in an invitation for the wrong reasons.
2006-08-08 05:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by daa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not an "acceptable" way. Only the ones hosting the wedding can issue acceptable invitations. However, invitations can get lost in the mail and never delivered. It happened recently in our family. So when we were waiting for RSVPs, we never knew who didn't bother to send the card back or who didn't get the invitation! If you know someone in the families well enough to have them check to see if you were invited, you might try that. Otherwise, skip it!
2006-08-08 05:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by canary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to a wedding it shouldn't be a problem, Just go and say you're a friend of the organist (or any other member of the wedding part) if anyone asks.. But to the Wedding reception, then that could be a problem. If you weren't invited, then someone has to pay for your food.
2006-08-08 05:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by It's me. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you weren't invited? There must be some reason. If you want to drop hints, then you might ask if there's anything you can do to help with the wedding. That way you appear to be helpful without coming out and saying "I want to come".
2006-08-08 05:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I guess you could joke with the person and say something like "who else are you inviting other than me?" You shouldn't want to go to a wedding if the Bride and Groom do not want you there, plus you'll save on a gift!
2006-08-08 05:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "invite" yourself (look up the definition of 'invite'). The most you can do is hint.
It is NOT acceptable to just show up.
Someone who is planning a wedding has the right to decide how big it is, and who they want to attend it.
2006-08-08 05:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you want to get invited follow this patter when you meet the person getting married
Hey! Little birdie told me you are getting married, who the lucky girl/boy. When are you getting married. chances are that you will be invited, if not ask, What have your plans for the big day, still if you are not invited, then ask, Whats on the menu, if still you are not invited, then, if you are not married say, I am planning to get married soon, I think this should do the job. Best of luck
2006-08-08 05:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by sajid_icfai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you can make a gentle suggestion for an invitation, there is not a way to invite yourself if that person chooses not to bite.
2006-08-08 05:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋