Be specific about how things changed and why. I think I need to wait b4 being physical w/ my new guy. I think sex too soon could hurt us.
2006-08-08 04:44:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right, it will change things. Wait, there's really no rush. I mean, sometimes when both people agree that they are going to have meaningless sex and nothing else, it's a little different. But sex should mean more to both of you , and if you love eachother , all that can wait. It's like once you do it, there is nothing left to the imagination. Just wait.
2006-08-08 04:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think so, then that's enough to wait. sex will ALWAYS change a relationship in a negative way if both partners aren't ready for it. but be very careful not to place a stigma on sexuality. just be realistic.
i've noticed that when my partner wasn't mature enough to realize that sexuality is just an expression of attraction, and nothing more, there were unpleasant results. some people will confuse sex with love, when really it's possible to have one without ever having the other(and it's not a bad thing, either). another common disaster is when sex becomes a ritual of sorts. for example, if you have sex every saturday, or every time you see each other after dinner and a movie, or every time you read a book together. another problem with sex too soon is one or the other partner being uncomfortable with expressing themselves. sometimes people try to be polite during sex, and that's silly. if you want something, say so. then your partner has the option to indulge you or not, and usually they will. if you return the favours, it shouldn't be a problem to ask. i would never suggest having sex with someone who won't consider your needs. and anyone who doesn't give oral isn't worth sleeping with, to be honest.
2006-08-08 04:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by entropicflux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was "just" oral sex, but yes. We'd been really good friends for years, seriously close to each other, and then he came back from the military and we decided to try getting intimate. It just ended up making things awkward - at least to me, it almost felt like we'd *downgraded* our relationship because the physical intimacy was less than our previous emotional intimacy. I sent a couple of emails to his address right after 9/11 'cause I did still care for him, but I've never seen him since. And I have always regretted (literally) blowing a perfectly good friendship.
I've had plenty of other romantic f-ups, mind you, but that's the one where as far as I can tell, it was the sex itself that made things go south. (Others are more accurately blamed on things like poor communication.) I've personally been blessed that I've not yet attracted a mate who was simply after me for the sex and then dumped me when he got bored of it - though I did wrongly BELIEVE so for a long time with my first one! =(
2006-08-08 04:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was the perfect guy until we had sex, then he started calling me less and when he did we hardly went out, and we always ended up having sex, he didnt even seem like he cared about me at all ,that eperfect guy front was gone and i knew him for the person he was, but that was when i was younger and didnt know any better. I dont know how old you are but my advice is to wait, and sex too soon can take the magic out of it.
2006-08-08 04:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex changes everything. It's different for everyone. It will either enhance your relationship or drive a wedge between the two of you. Feeling for each other will improve your chances.
2006-08-08 04:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this chick in Germany and so it did not look like a one night stand, I did her again and then broke up. She was quite suprised and never heard of a two night stand. Anyway, months later I saw her and she was pretty drunk hanging all over me. I asked if she was going to take me home and she got pyscho on me. Said she was not going through that again and how much of a player I was. Total psycho *****.
2006-08-08 04:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Master Kenobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had sex b4.Cant you just wait till marriage?
2006-08-08 04:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES....definately things do change...... Almost all men... (even if they don't mean any harm from it).. but they lose intrest after they have had sex.
I would recommend you wait until you feel the moment is right.... Don't let him decide.....
2006-08-08 04:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by MiZz CaLiEnTe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, it gets different a lot, but not always. If you two are mature enough to deal with the possible consequences, then you two should be okay. Just make sure that's not all he wants
2006-08-08 04:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we kept having sex
2006-08-08 04:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋