I dont dress skanky or slutty. I dont reveal too much skin. Its jsut my parents dont really approve of how i dress. when i go out with my friends I wear alot of black and spikes...studded belts, fishnets . i paint my nails black and wear dark make up..aThen when i have to go home i basicly morph back into a "conservative girl" Help??!!! I want to dress how i want WHEN i want... any tips?
2006-08-08 04:38:49 · 11 answers · asked by xemoxheartx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit your parents down and explain to them that you are expressing your individuality. If you give them attitude all the time, they are not going to give in so easily.
2006-08-08 04:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by devoid_of_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides to this, so here my two cents:
You should be able to start making choices about what you wear within reason. A lot of pearents don't care about what their kidws wear. While you're parents seem overbearing, their really just trying to protect you. Try to meet them half-way. Ease up on the studs and fishnets a little and show that you are listening to what they have to say. It will show that you can be mature and responsible. Changing at the gas station won't; it will actually make your parents freak out if they catch you, and you don't want that. Hope this helps.
2006-08-08 12:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that you are just going through a phase. You might not think that you are but you are. I was like that in high school. My mom would let me do it though because I made it a point that it was something that I could not do once I got a real job or once I got into college. As long as you can prove to them that you can still get good grades also that will help. Get on the honor role and let them know that because you dress like that it does not mean that you are not smart. However you do need to realize as much as you don't want to that there are times that you do have to dress appropriately. You can not go for an interview, wedding, church etc dressed like that. Unfortunately people in this world as we know it do not accept people dressed like you. Don't forget that you are still under your parents roof. You have to follow their rules and they are paying for your clothes. Until you move out you need to observe this. It is to bad that they can not open their minds to different ideas. But it is something that you are just going to have to deal with even though you feel so strongly about it.
2006-08-08 11:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to stop worrying about themselves and how your appearance reflects on them because that is what they may be doing. If you are a happy person but just like the dark stuff then tell them they would be better parents if they had the courage to let you be yourself. Explain to them it is just a fashion choice and not a sign that you are depressed.
If however you are a miserable person doing harmful things to yourself or others then your parents have a legitimate concern. If they are worried about your whole lifestyle because they are afraid for you, then you have good parents and should count yourself lucky.
Your gut will tell you which one is true.
2006-08-08 11:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that your parents have allowed such a big gap to come between you. it's been up to your parents to keep the respect and love there but they haven't. oh well.....
i guess that you will have to go on faking it with them until you're big enough to go off and do a better job of parenting when it's your turn.
meanwhile just keep trying to convince them that you want what you want just like them and everyone else. so long as it's not destructive, they should have no complaints.
but then complaining is a bad parent's main defense/offense against their own kids.
lousy parenting is pathetically sad.
2006-08-08 13:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss with your parents, not in an argument, about your concerns. Try to put yourself into their shoes... why are they upset about your clothes? Express your ideas of their concerns. Ask why they are uncomfortable about your choices. Look for compromise. Above all, remember to show love and respect for them.
2006-08-08 11:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by dtc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to your parents that just because you dress that way doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong or immoral...My kids were into black everything..The tattos piercings and baggy clothes etc...but that doesn't mean they are into anything bad ...They are great kids..I try to understand my kids and to do that instead of condemning them I talk to them.....I am 56 so if I can deal with it so should your parents..You are just being yourself.....
2006-08-08 12:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you change clothes at the gas station on the corner like everyone else has done for decades??
2006-08-08 11:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Betty G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this.... Move out, get a job, buy your own clothes and then you dont have to worry about it!
2006-08-08 11:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ashli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL THEM THAT IF TOU CAN'T WEAR WHAT YOU WANT THEN YOU WILL GO NAKED THAT SHOULD WORK.
2006-08-08 11:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋