Staying a virgin till i get married .... Good idea ?

Question

Guys tend to give me a hard time about me wanting to stay a virgin till im married. they all ...

try to convince me that im wrong, because (ive heard this too many times) " practice makes perfect " as if to say i might as well start. or tell me I will never get a guy if i keep going about this way. some give me the " friendship " card once i mention it or .. kinda brultal laugh and try to bet serious money i wont keep it

me wanting to stay a virgin untill i get married is working against me in everyway possible.

What should i do ? i want to be true to who i am and what i believe but i can't get a serious boyfriend because of it

Answer 1

Be true to who you are. You deciding to stay a virgin until you get married is an extremely respectable act. The only reason guys are trying to tell you otherwise is to get into your pants. Say you did give up your virginity before you got married, how would you feel? My prediction is that you wouldn't feel too good, in fact, you'd probably feel very dissapointed in yourself.
If a guy is pressuring you to do something you don't want to, you shouldn't be with him at all. Keep true to your values and screw what anyone else thinks of it. You'll respect yourself and love yourself a lot more in the end!
Good luck!

Answer 2

It is really i good idea...i salute you for keeping your principle. Few woman like you exist nowadays even in my country which believes that the greatest gift you can give to your husband is virginity.

Men who are serious wants to marry a virgin. Maybe those men you are talking about are those who are not serious to have a relationship with you. They are scared to commit. So look at it as a blessing in disguise. You will never know, the right man is just around the corner.

Sex is beautiful when shared under the sanctity of marriage and being shared with the one you love.

Good luck. The one who will love you will be lucky to have you.

Answer 3

having a reputation as a virgin is way better than being the girl that sleeps around... the guys are just trying to get in your pants by saying these things. and beware of guys that will try to romance you and say all the right things to get in your pants. when you do meet a guy and if you do decide to have sex with him, make sure you have been together a loong time to figure out if that is what you really want to do. you've waited this long why no hold out. there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, it shows that you respect yourself. it's just so uncommon these days. girls think that they need to have sex with a guy to get his approval when all the guy wants is to get with a girl and add another number to boost their self esteeem. guys think are cool for having sex,,,, girls don't have that benefit. they are labeled.

Answer 4

No matter what, you stay a virgin until you are married..Most guys are giving you a hard time because they want bragging rights to another woman's virginity..If that guy is giving you a hard time then he is not the man for you..... I'm not a virgin but my and my fiancee are waiting until we are married..More men will respect you, you have something so precious keep it.

Answer 5

be true to who you are that boy can go kick rocks and play in traffic so I say wait that is the most precious gift that you can give to your husband on your wedding night! I know that it's hard when I was in high school the star quarterback wanted me to give myself to him and I felt really good because all the older girls wanted him and he was on me but all he really wanted to do was have sex with me because I was a virgin and I told him no and we are still friends and he can respect me as a woman because I told him no and I stuck to it! YOU have a lot of power simply by being a woman so dont let anyone take your purity away unless you feel it's right and you want to. But if you want to wait for marriage I say go for it mama! GOOD LUCK!!! BESOS!!

Answer 6

Nice thought, but....
What is the point, really, in saving yourself? I can appreciate good moral values and all of that, but, really, what is the point in waiting? You don't have to become permiscuous or anything, but what is the harm in sharing intimacy with someone you care about? Not to mention the fact that if you save yourself for marriage, then you are stuck with just the "experience" of only one person. (Ho hum) You never know what you might be missing!!! You also run the risk of cheating on your husband later on because you will get bored sexually (trust me it happens to everyone) and will wonder what someone else can do for you. If you have past experiences, that's less likely to happen.

Answer 7

If that is what you want then yes, it is a good idea.

Dont let anyone give you a hard time about any decision you make.

There is a guy out there that wont give you crap about waiting to get married. The ones that do give you grief about it only want the sex, not you.

Answer 8

I would stay true to who I am, it is not fair for them to try and change who you are just like it wouldn't be if you tried changing them. Keep looking dear there is the 'right' guy out there that will respect what you are doing... Be proud of it!!! Good Luck!

Answer 9

i hear ya sister..in fact i asked that question the otehr day..htey told me to stya true to myslf and wait for the right man. b/c in the end it will be worth it. im also a virgina dn it is not easy ive felt like giving in once or twice but i didnt i know mr right is out there somewhere..

Answer 10

It's a GREAT idea. Sex is overrated. Intimacy is where it's at. If the guys you know don't understand this, then you need to meet new guys. Good luck with your goal of staying true.