So ive known this girl for 7 years. her bf beat her up on the night of her birthday. I felt bad and took her out the next day. We started to hook up and dated about a week. She suddenly dissapeared and hasnt contacted me in a week. I dont know if she went back to him r what. Should i keep trying to contact her for an explaination or just let go of what we had. I really care for her a lot and dont wanna see her hurt.
2006-08-08 04:06:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let it go
2006-08-08 04:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys will and forever end up last.
you are wasting your time on a woman who appreciates mistreatment. believe me. i've just gone thru hell trying to love a woman who was sexually abused as a child and i won't go into details of how she behaved in wanting mistreatment from other men. i fell into her trap of being nice to her and sure enuf she walked all over me...i ened up with nothing but other men got what they wanted and she doesn't even feel bad about what happened.
sad thing is there are so many women who got abused when young and they expect the same later in life. if you don't show the controlling nature that jerks display, you might as well just wait till you are older as women over the age of 40 finally realize what's good for them....problem with that is she might have more baggage than what you are willing to take by that time...provided u have been single and waiting for one as i have been...
2006-08-16 09:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it ... 9 chances out of 10 , she went back with him.... If she did then she deserves what he does to her... Why worry over spilled milk..Move on ... If you meant anything to her , she would be contacting you by now ... You were probably just a pillow for her at the time ... Move on sweetie....
2006-08-16 11:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abused women tend to stay with their abusers. They also tend to blame their abuser's abusive habits and thinking on their own flaws. Further, their families tend to be silent about the behavior and non-confrontive.
If you face it, you expose yourself to great risk. I'm not telling you not to confront, but don't be surprised if you are told by them and their inner circle to go away and it is none of your business.
I'm sorry because you do genuinely care and don't want her hurt. I wish it were not so complex and difficult.
2006-08-16 00:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are really concerned that somehting bad has happened to her tell the Police. however, if she keeps going back to the abusive guy, there is little you can do for her. Instead, be there for her when she comes back.
2006-08-16 11:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Zvisineyi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didn't disappear willingly, maybe her ex found out about you and threatened her. Just try and find her to see that she's ok. If she is and doesn't wanna go back to you, then let it go. That means she's in too deep and you can't rescue her.
2006-08-16 10:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by bluntbabe74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go abused women tend to stay with their abusers, you just don't know how many women call the cops on their boyfriends but then change their minds and say they don't want to press charges, because they love them, and make up lies that the reason it all started was because she got out of hand with him
2006-08-16 10:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Renee A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been there a couple of times and my suggestion is to forget all about her. i always beat my gf and she always go to the wuzz for comfort but always go back to me cuz i rock. but if you can confront the bf then thats a different story..
2006-08-16 09:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by guywhobrokeyourglassesin4thgrade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should just let her be if u guys were meant to be together it will end up that way. Its happened to me and now we are married threw all of our difference and people that came between us.
2006-08-16 10:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just needed to get beat up again. If you want to be with her just beat her up harder than the other guy. She'll love you for it!
2006-08-16 10:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Squeeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let her go and if she chooses to come back to you i would let her if she has totally left that other guy. if not, then you need to move on with your life.
2006-08-16 10:11:49 · answer #11 · answered by Nickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋