why are parents too afraid to discipline their kids now a days?

Question

I don't understand why parents don't discipline their kids anymore? i see so much where the kid is so bad and the parents just tell their kid stop or please don't do that and the kid doesn't listen and they wonder why the kid is so bad. Spank the kid. why are parents so afraid to spank their kids? I don't agree with abuse, but if the kid deserves it then spank them. I got the spoon to belts, to yard sticks when I was younger and I'm not violant or bad anymore. I learned if i don't behave i'm going to get my A** beat depending on how bad i was. or when kids come home dressed like goths or with their pants to their knees. If i came home looking like that I would have gotten some sense knocked into me because people judge you by the way you dress and if you dress sloppy then people are going to steriotype you wether you fit that sterotype or not.

Answer 1

I am a parent that was spanked as a kid and I came out ok. I spank my kids when they need it. My kids know when the spanking is coming, and what they are getting it for. Some parents cross the line and turn spanking into abuse, and that is why people act the way they do about spanking. I have and will spank my kids in public if they need it. I spanked my daughter at a store once for throwing stuff and yelling at me, I gave her 3 chances to stop or I was going to bust her butt, she kept going and I busted her tail. A lady dared to say, someone needs to call child services, because you are abusing your child. I told her I bet your parents busted your butt when you did this, and that you must live in fairytale world and your kids are perfect. I told her to mind her business and take care of her own kids, that had wondered off from her (they were prob 2 and 4). But get this, when she found them, she spanked them. I walked over to her and I just couldn't keep my mouth shut. I told her someone needed to call CPS on her for child neglect and abuse. She had nothing to say and I walked away with a smile on my face. It seems to me take most parents do still spank, they are just closet spankers and won't admit it.

Answer 2

My ex-husband and I believed the same as you. We too spanked our children if it was needed. Parents now days seem to let there children run them and seem to have a problem taking back control. My kids think we are cool parents, and they are spoiled to no end. But then EARN that! My kids have never ran around a store, stood up in a restaurant to "check out" the people behind them, nor ran up and down isles on a plane. I do believe you can control your child without being forceful. You need to be firm and understanding,loving and respectful. A child that sees that you are doing what is right for them will respect you later. And like I said my kids and I are very close and have allot of fun! But they also know there limits!

Answer 3

Some people take spanking overboard not to mention the fact that kids nowadays have more power b/c the level of cruelty is so much higher (more like more known) now than it was before. Kids before had nowhere to turn, no one to tell b/c their own teachers had the right to hit 'em so... I think timeout works okay. Spanking's okay too, but some people think too much of it when they see a parent do that in public too. It's really the older people who make a big deal out of it and turn it into something that's bigger than what it is.

Answer 4

I agree, however its hard to discipline a child without someone seeing it and turning you in for abuse. Its a society problem that needs to be addressed. Kids are running wild because parents are afraid to break the law. I have a co-worked who yelled at his very disrespectful child and social services came in and said he was an abusive father. He is the most gentle man with a cheating wife. The wife has turned the daughter against him. Its so weird. So she can use this so called abuse against him. The point is everyone is too scared to do the right thing. The problem will only get worse because they will be adults one day. Adults that don't take responsibility for their actions will make a difficult world to live in.

Answer 5

Very good point you made there. Children don't know the boundary today sadly. I don't see any harm for any parents to smack a child now and again. It still use in Europe. I know some here going say it abuse. But it not child abuse to say slap a child for wrong doing we say on the butt or hand. We all know that kids can push parents to far,and know they going to get away with it, knowing they won't be punish. The way some parent punish their kids i.e go to your room ask yourself does it really work? No the child in their room with TV and other things he/she does not think of their actions etc. Been European here having traveled to many countries where they still use wooden spoon to punish kids, and strangely they are well behave children. I have see children in the USA and beleive me lack of manners etc. The parents become the victims of the kids because they know they can get away with it. And know that he/she won't be punish.
It western concept if you slap a child your called child abuser. But do these people who say this parents where also punish as kids did it do them any harm? No!

Answer 6

Actually its not their fault. The times are so demanding and may be they are too busy or something. Moreover there are so many aversions that they seem to be neglecting these things. Imagine an ideal state when things used to be so very different say about 30 years back (or so as they say "in our times"). This makes a world of difference, you see. And added to this fact is that the kids are the next generation to ours (the parents), so they are born with one degree more of the usual intelligence, IQ, grasping power, etc. This is what makes today's kids unique in many ways, I reckon. They are 'one step' ahead already -- more so as perceived by us (parents). This probably answers your question, which is a very valid question and i like the way you put it.

Answer 7

I often ask this question, but I still believe that it is because people are afraid of someone seeing them and turning them in for child abuse. That system has gone way tooooo far. I think that it also has a tendency to be from when the older generation was thought to be too strict, so the next decided to be a little less and now this generation has taken it way too far and has become less....now we have disruptive people and rude children...go figure!
My brother used to say that he didn't have much as a kid so his children were going to have everything. I remember being a kid and we had plenty at least I thought so.
My sister in law's daughter said to her, go ahead and slap me, I'll just call social services. My sister in law said, " Okay you do that and they will haul you and your sister off to a foster home, I'll go to jail, your dad will bail me out and you will be in the system for a long time because we won't be able to help you." She changed her mind real quick.
I think we have gotten too lax in our social acceptances!

Answer 8

I agree with you. Parents today act as if their kids are so "special" and sensitive. I don't think spanking works though. Kids need a consequence though. If you say if you run around the restaurant or store you can't go in the pool when we go home, and stick to it. Today's parents are so tired they just give in so they don't have to fight with the kid, and that's why there are so many brats.

Answer 9

It's called the new generation, Deary...If a child gets spanked or has something else done to him or her, they can turn around and sue you...Or, the onlookers can report you as an abusive parent...Our daughter-in-law to be, slapped her child in front of the police for mis-behaving, and had her was daughter taken away from her, and is now in jail for a few months...So, be careful these days...

Answer 10

If I got arrested, my kid would be even worse off!!!

People are nuts these days, & will report you for just about ANYthing.
I got screamed at by one lady at the grocery store 'cuz she thought I shouldn't tell my son, "NO.!" in such a harsh way. (He was 3 at the time, & was trying to pull down a can, that had cans on top of it!!)
I do believe in corporal punishment----much different than abuse.
Just gets a little scary to discipline kids in public.