why do men dump me after sex ?

Question

i'm 22 and look like jorden. i always have sex on the first date. is that why ?

Answer 1

YES. Quit doing that, have more respect for yourself than that. You don't want to get the reputation of being a doorknob. You know, everybody gets a turn!

Answer 2

If you really do look like Jordon you are duped because no 1 your too easy and they think you are like this with everyone which is true you are not settling down with material when someone is very attractive
men think they are not going to want to stay as you will only be off with the next bloke that fancies a quickie,
even Jordon didn't give in to Peter straight away funny that it might seem men still like to hunt and things that come easy aren't attractive to them .
I have a lot of respect for Jordon and she is the Best looking woman the only thing is I found she does push her luck with pete
he is areal genuine Guy back to you again its the inside of a person that counts you can always loose your looks if your char actor is rubbish you don't stand a chance ,I'm not saying don't but just make sure its the one you want to spend the rest of your life with I went wrong when I was young and sex wasn,t any different men still worked the same way then I just wish I had said no thank you .
Gwen W

Answer 3

Ok so u need self esteem. Look behind you at your history and where r u now, still no connective love. So it won't hurt you to try another path will it? Try no sex, say for the first month of dating. Let them get to know you on a head level not a flesh level. Your acting desperate, that also will scare a guy off. What have you been looking for in a man? What personal qualities besides sex do you need in a man? What man want's an easy woman that's gonna service all his mates, cause that's what you portraying to these guys you go on dates with. Get some back bone, think more highly of yourself, then you may get a better class of guy to date. Cheers all the best!

Answer 4

Maybe you give the impression you are looking for a one night stand......that and the fact that most of us men are pigs. If you look like Jorden then I guess you may give a first impression of being a little easy. Why not play a little harder to get....im sure you are worth more than a one night stand. Plus don't just sleep with any man that comes along, have some self respect and value yourself more.

Good luck with that

Answer 5

Oh Flower! I feel for you I really do. Let me give you my suggestion.....

Many of my colleagues here have said you're too easy which is essentially true though possibly a little to simple.

It is true that men have a duel mentality when it comes to sex. YES...we want it and we want it now. Men can see a beautiful body and be ready to go in 5 seconds- no kidding.

HOWEVER.......men are ALSO hardwired to search for a long term partner and mother to their "main" family (as well as spreading their seed more randomly)

Here comes the concept of "girlfriend material". Men have a totally different standard fo what they will settle down with and what they will simply have sex with.

I'm not advocating gameplaying with men but try to resist the urge to bed down and shack up on the first date. Escalate the sexual contact over the first few meetings. On the first date just flirt, touch his arm, invade his personal space just a little bit then back off...... make him chase you.

Make him long for the first kiss....but make sure it happens on the second date or the tension will be too high.

Perhaps give it 5-6 dates over 3-4 weeks before you finally have sex and make sure it is a special evening. Let him cook for you, entertain you and do something special so that he feels he has "won" you over with his charm and caring.

When men invest in a woman like this they will value you a whole lot more. Odds are when you have sex it really will be making love and he will be thinking about you all the time.

Best wishes,

Viking xxx

Answer 6

They are not dumping you because you don't have a relationship. They are using you. If you are looking for a partner try some other extra mural activity before you jump in the sack. Jorden is a cool lady and I doubt she gets used very often. Take a little control back for yourself.

Answer 7

Hello internat y,

I don't know who Jorden is, and I certainly don't know who you are, or what you look like. Perhaps you don't look as good as you think that you do.

One thing about guys, if they meet up with a girl and she is really hot in bed, they are usually hooked. They will never stop calling you and they will want to constantly want to be near you. That's a fact. Sorry girls, the cow analogy doesn't work any more. But, if you are lousy in bed, guys will be getting out as fast as they can get their pants back on.

Now as far as being a ****. There are guys who will still come back to bang you again. That's the way that most guys are. But, if you have done every guy in town, it does get around that you are pretty easy. Guys don't like that kind of competition. And, if it gets around town that you are easy but not very good in bed, then they'll take you out once, but won't hang around.

I encourage you to talk with these guys and try to get to know them a little better. You can usually tell, if they just want you for one thing and aren't interested in you as a person. Best of luck to you.

--Rick

Answer 8

That has a lot to do with it. Most men like their girls not so easy. Play hard to get and don't give in that easily because you may eventually get a bad rep. and/or a STD. The guys you date might have a factor in it as well, losers might be attracted to you and just want to use you. Set yourself a goal of not to date anyone for a certain time and don't give it up so fast. Men are not the only thing to life, become busier with other activities, and the best of luck! :)

Answer 9

umm obviously! Girls that give it up too soon never get respect. Particularly if you look like Jordan - you're obviously only a passing fad that the lads can brag to their mates about.
If you actually dress like Jordan I recommend you rejig your wardrobe as you'll be sending out ALL the wrong signals.
If a guylikes you for you , then he'll wait until youre ready to go to bed with him, if he doesnt, then hes not worth it.
Also - why do you have sex on the first date? Are you insecure and feel thats the only way to get mens interest?? You'll get yourself a reputation and when you do meet a nice guy that would be prepared to wait for you, he'll hear so many stories about you that he wont be bothered with you either.

Answer 10

Why do you feel the need to have sex on the first date? As a man, I would be uncomfortable doing it on a first date (in most cases). Have some self respect woman!

Answer 11

Could be they are just losers, I usually have sex with my dates first time, but some of them develop into long term relationships, 2 or 3 for years, even asked ne to marry me but she dumped me on the spot! Sucks hey?