I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. Between cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids needs I am feeling tired and overwhelmed. It seems like I never, ever get time alone and if I do it's always to do a chore. I just want to know if I'm being a baby or is this normal?
2006-08-08 03:46:29 · 21 answers · asked by veronicazombie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's normal hon, I have a 2 yr.old and a 3 yr. old, I feel the same way, so you're not alone!
2006-08-08 03:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for anyone to feel tired after a day like that. Some just know how to manage their time so it doesn't drain them so much.
I stay at home with my 6 year old and 1 year old. I also do childcare from home so I usually have 1-2 more kids here under the age of 3.
I love what I do and would not change it. I am able to be home with my children and help others at the same time.
2006-08-08 04:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being a baby. This is very normal. You need to make some time for yourself. Forget about the chore. Do something for yourself for a change, even if it seems trivial like page through a magazine, watch TV , take a 20 min. power nap, take a walk around the block, call someone to chat. Your world is not going to fall apart if you don't get that chore done immediately. Relax! Maybe you can exchange favors w/ a friend, relative or neighbor. They watch your kids, you do something for them. I have 7yr. old & 3yr. old grand-daughters that spend alot of time w/ me & it can be very exausting. When they leave, so what if there are toys all over the floor & dirty dishes in the sink! They'll keep! I do what I want (watch my recorded soaps, go for a swim, work on craft projects, whatever). Then do the clean up later.
2006-08-08 04:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Joy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very normal.I went throu that for about 2 1/2 yrs. I am just now OK again. But it got so bad I would clean off one chair and sit there bacause it was the only spot I felt safe. Or I would go to the mall and walk for an hour just because I couldnt bear to be in the house or Car for that matter.The feeling of being overwelmed is the onset of Depression. and Fatigue is another sighn that depression might be the cause for this. Has there been any waight gain? Flylady.com helped me so much. I can truly say that is what got me out of my very long depression.I also had headacks all the time. I also got on phentermine. It is a diet pill (that works so gooooood) I lost 35lbs and had so much energy. But to answer your Q- Yes everything you said is very normal for someone who is depressed.
2006-08-08 04:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running a home and looking after children is tiring but you should check that you are OK. Go to the doctor and make sure you are not anemic, many women are; check your diet and if necessary add fresh fruit and veg; starting having time to yourself. You don't say if you have a husband, if you do say you want him to baby sit once a week. During the day make sure you go and and meet people, with or with out the children. Join a book group, or a toddler group, offer to do things at school. It might sound strange but ding different things can make you feel better. If none of this works then go back to you Doctor you may be depressed.
2006-08-08 03:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by happyjumpyfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, but it is part of being a mom. I can't tell you the last time I had time for myself. I have five children ranging from 1 to 17. I never stop cleaning up after someone, I still don't get to sleep all night and even if I find someone to have a mom's night out with I still have to take the baby. Not to mention I am trying to also start a home business to help with the income that my husband already brings in and take care of my in laws.
2006-08-08 03:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Leslee L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some have the misconception that stay at home mom's don't work. I think that is so untrue. You have to wear so many different hats: chauffeur, doctor, nurse, teacher, maid, etc. but you don't get paid for it. When you become a mother, you have to make so many sacrifices. Sweetie, you deserve a break for some "me" time. Have your husband watch the children for a few hours so you can go have a nice, quiet dinner by yourself and see a movie. Or get together with a friend or two and have some grown-up time. And if you decide to take some time to yourself, don't feel bad about it because you deserve it!
2006-08-08 07:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal. I have a son that will be 2 on Thurs and my next is due in Dec. Your 6 year old is old enough to start having chores, like cleaning their room and the 3 year old can be taught to pick up toys. Start them when they are young so it is not as much of a battle when they are older, and it takes some of the burden off of you.
2006-08-08 03:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got ya beat. Mine are 10, 8, 6, 5, and 5 months. And yes, it is overwhelming. I can't wait for school to start to be honest.
Trying to explain to people that being a mom is a 24/7 job is like talking to yourself. I finally got through to my husband when I told him i don't get vacations, sick pay, personal days, etc. I don't get to clock in or clock out.
Far too many people think all we do is sit at home and do nothing. Man, that would be the life wouldn't it?
You're not a baby. It's the ones around you who think you do nothing that are the babies.
2006-08-08 08:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh... no your not being a baby... i feel the same way and i only have a 17 month old...but my 31 year old husband acts like a child at times so its like i have 2! I always feel like i have to do everything even when my husband is home.. he always says that he has to work during the day so he's tired...but then on the weekend he says that this is the only time he has to relax and dont have to go to work...The only thing i get to do alone is take a shower...and sometimes i have to cut that short!
2006-08-08 03:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read any of the other answers yet, but for me personally..I feel now that I am home there is far more expected of me, and going someplace by myself is never going to happen..I have decided that once the older one goes back to school, I am making nap time my time, to do whatever I want..even if it's just answering email..women a few generations ago had the same problem, they just didn't talk about, they had their coffee talks and that was enough I guess..try to find play groups, it's not really a "me" time, but at least you know you're not alone..good luck..
2006-08-08 04:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by Selena D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋