i hate my son's gf,she is a real b***i don't want her in my family,is 3 years i can't get rid of her

Question

she does not let him go ,and my son is friends with the guy is f*** her when my son is over the sea
and her mother is trying to cach him too ,
they are doing nothing with there lives ,hardly working some time ,no father
mom has an intermitent BF at age 50,they are liers and my son will be an university graduate
this family i will never let them in my house
they are just interested low lifes and destroing my son's future and my peace
she is coming in my house for having se with him even she knows i don't accept that and i want them to respect that
what kind of person is so low to go to a house for SEX where she knows i forbiden that and i hate her ??
HELP
PLEASE NO ''LET HIM DO WHAT HE WANTS ,GET OF THIS CASE ''so on

thanks for all the answers

Answer 1

Man, do I feel sorry for you. I can only imagine how annoying and frustrated you get. If I ever have kids, I will let them know who the boss is, and I will make sure whenever they start dating, that they don't being home trash bags, or I'll make it clear to them to get the hell out; or tell that biitch upfront if doesn't change we won't accept her. If I were you, I'd punch her in the face and call her what she is. That would suck so much, to know its these types of people my kids are wanting to date-but, I'll find a way to rectify the problem. I'll pray that everything works out-I have doubt in time your son will come to realize what filth he has-and if he doesn't smack some sense into him, along with your hubby and the rest of the supporting clan. God bless.

Answer 2

You need dicipline to set the house right. First, have a frank talk with your son. Tell him what you know, show him that you care, advice him of the path he is treading on. Firmly, but yet gently,
assert that you dont want his life to be ruined.

If that does not work, try to get the girl to leave.You could scold
here, but such thick skinned types generally dont mind. So, a firm
action has to be taken. Like getting a cousin or some nice girl to
get friends with your son.He probably needs company & friend ship more than the sex part, as evident from the fact that he knows his Gfs traits.

The best to you.

Answer 3

Hello, you have no power to change how your son feels or anybody else feels, other then yourself and then you will need God to help you maintain any changes you make. In regards to your sons relationship to this girl in question, it sounds as though you are holding her in judgment, that is not your job. You need to surrender the situation to God and accept the results as beyond your control. You can however draw a line in the sand as to what you want to witness in your life and your home. You can refuse to accept anything that is offensive to your moral code and not allow it into your awareness. Tell them to keep it out of your house and then do not allow it even for a minute. Explain to your son that you love him but that you cannot accept his behavior with this girl anymore. If she is having affairs while he is away, and you know it to be true, then you can get all parties together and confront it if you feel it is your responsibility. The best thing to do is to surrender it all to God who has it all under control. We are to love the sinner and hate the sin. Please don't hate another human being as it will only distroy the love within yourwself.

Answer 4

if I understand correctly your son has been dating this girl for 3 years. You don't mention how old your son is, but it seems he is living with you and in college. If its your house, you have a right to expect him to follow your rules. If they have been together for 3 years it does not seem that this is a passing interest in this girl, why don't you sit down with your son and have a calm rational talk about the situation, let him know why you are concerned about the relationship and explain that you don't feel comfortable with this girl in your house, etc. You do need to be prepared to listen to his side of the argument, and you may need to accept it if he chooses to be with her, even if you dislike her and her family. Either way, you have a right to expect him to respect the rules of your house, if he wants to do what he wants against your wishes it may be better that he move out. Good luck.

Answer 5

He's a grown man and you're a grown woman, respect on both your parts is necessary. If he's living under your roof he should respect the no sex under this roof rule, but you should respect that he has the right to see whomever he so chooses, regardless of whether or not it's good for him. Express your concerns and leave it at that, then simply love him and be there for him even if it all goes bad, He's your son...Not your pet, you can offer advice but don't make demands... Good Luck.

Answer 6

The blame also rests on your son. After all, it takes two people to have sex in your home. You can't get "rid" of your son's girlfriend. However, you CAN lay down the law and demand respect for YOURSELF as the mother.

Whom your son chooses is his business, and interfering with that will only separate you from him. Take the high road. If she's as bad as you say, her true colors will show, and your son will apprciate you for letting him make his own decisions.

Answer 7

How old is your son? If he is over 18, cut the cord lady and let him learn his own life lessons. Just because you don't like her doesn't mean she is a bad person. It sounds like you can't let him grow up and make his own decisions. As a mom, I understand its hard to stand back and watch our children make mistakes, but that is exactly what you must do. Just be there for him if it falls apart. And DO NOT SAY " I told you so!" That is so immature, and you are suppose to be the adult.

Answer 8

ko2ke,

I have found through the years, that when dealing with people of this sort, there is one thing that will drive them away without fail. Just share the good news about God's love for sinners, and the salvation of Jesus. If you are very sincere, I can just about guarantee, that they will leave. If you do it every time they come over, you may never see them again. Be sure to have a Bible with you, that makes their skin crawl.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are looking for someone to say that you are doing the right thing by trying to drive her away. However, the truth is that you may drive her AND YOUR SON away by your hatred. The best thing to do (really) is to let your son figure out that she is not worth his time. He probably already knows your feelings on the issue, so you don't need to keep telling him (and her).

Answer 10

There are a few things that you can try. Either go to the Dr. Phil show, go see a counselor, or speak to your son and tell him how you feel. If that doesn't work, you guys need to go see a counselor, Good luck.