Say if me and my gf was together for a year and we really love each other. But I decide to go to the military. Do you think the relationship still can work and go on or should we just break up.
2006-08-08 03:28:40 · 20 answers · asked by Sir Yahoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it could work if you are committed to the relationship
if shes willing to wait / move with you to the new base
2006-08-08 03:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Nefertiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work as long as the possibility of spending less time together and maybe a long distance relationship is acceptable by your mate.
If she can accept your time limitations and is willing to support your decision, I don't see why it can't work.
If your dream is to be in the military, I say follow your dreams and if its truly love, she will support you in your decision and make the necessary adjustment knowing your doing something positive.
Now she has a right to decide to end it because she can't deal with the distance and lack of time you usually have together. She also has a right to make a decision that is in her best interest also. Good Luck!
2006-08-08 10:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military is very hard on relationships... period !
If you are with a unit that is often deployable (much the case nowadays) she will be left home without you for months or longer.
Reality is that you may be overseas for a length of time and she may get tired of waiting not knowing when you'll be back.
Probably not what you wanted to hear but I speak from experience.
2006-08-08 10:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think, do you really want her to have another guy while you are in your military? Do you really want to give her freedom? If you annswer "yes" it means that yo°u do not even love her. So you can easily break up with her.
If no, then try to stay as a couple, and time will show how good that will work.
2006-08-08 10:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lunagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are going very strong between you two, Sure it can work, anything is possible. But DO realize that over 95% of long distance relationships do NOT work. So be prepared to lose her! I know its very hard, and will be very hard for her. But if the military is something you desire, dont let your own desires go. Good luck.
2006-08-08 10:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how commited the two of you are. If the two of you know that each other is the only one, then go for it and see what happens. But if their are any doubts then break it off. The worst thing is that you come home after being away for a while thinking that you are coming home to your girl, and she is with someone else, so talk with her and see just how commited the two of you are to each other.
2006-08-08 10:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other you can make it work...it will take more time and effort than when you are able to see each other every day...Before you leave for boot camp make sure that she has a strong support group. Let her know that you are doing this for your future. While you are out on weekend hiatus do spontaneous things for her...send flowers, postcards, e-mails and most of all call her.
However don't do what my ex-husband did lol...don't send her home pictures of you with your arm around other women ;)
good luck with your future
2006-08-08 10:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by wastedyouth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other, then go ahead and get married, so at least you can get more money out of the military and bring her with you wherever you go.
2006-08-08 10:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, break up and if she waits then it's meant to be. With the uncertainty of whats goin on in the world, you should let her go. If she comes back she is yours forever. I made the mistake of hanging on and I lost mine to her now husband and 3 kids.
2006-08-08 10:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by in_TIM_idation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said you guys are in love. If it true love, it can withstand you going to the military or whatever.
2006-08-08 10:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋