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Question

My son is 2 and for this his name will be A.j and his friend is also 2 his name will be Mark. Mark was over at my house playing with A.j they got really quite so i went into the room and A.j was lay'in on the ground with his diper down and Mark was over him sucking him. I took A.J away and put him by his dad. Then I can't quite remember what i said but i went to Marks father and asked him where he would of learned something like that. Marks mom and dad aren't together so i asked if she does stuff around him. I am worried about Mark and were he got and if i should call the cops or what. But i'm more so worried about my son what should i do does he need to go to a doc.? He hasn't been around Mark that much just 6 weeks maybe but he has been alone with mark and mark's dad how do i know if anything happened then. How do i know if Mark;s dad isn't the one doing it. If anyone knows alot on something like this PLEASE message me I NEED someone to talk to.

thank you all for answer'in and i have taken him away from mark and marks faimly I'm going to call it in and take a.j to the doc

Answer 1

I would definitely call family services and tell them your concerns about what happened and they can decide if Mark and his parents need to be investigated. It would be wrong and potentially very damaging not to let someone know that something very sick could be happening to this poor little boy. As for your son, I think I would call a counselor/therapist and explain what happened and see what their advice is.

Answer 2

This sounds a lot like a joke question, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and answer seriously. It's horrible situation that you are in. I'm not sure anybody will be able to answer your question with experience because it's not exactly a common situation. Don't worry about your son, there is definatly no need to go to a doctor because of what happened. Understandable you're probably also worried about anything else that might have happened but two is very young and very small, I'm sure your little boy would have told you if he had been violated. If I were you I would take him out for ice cream or something, let him know you're not mad, and calmly ask if him and 'Mark' had played that game before? If no, then he will soon forget about it - he is far too young to have been aroused, and if there is no way you can keep him associatng from mark and his family then perhaps it would even be wise to move - there is no action too serious to make sure your son is safe.
As for Mark, there is absolutly something wrong at hom - think about it, how would a two year old no that? The option you would hope for is that he has seen his dad with a 'special friend' doing that or perhaps seen one of his dad's pornos. The far more serious option is incest, that that boys parents are sick. If this is the case, there's not really a lot you can do. I would suggest keeping an eye out, and if anything raises your suspicion to go to the police. Another option that can keep ypui safe is an anonymous phone call to the police or a child safety worker saying you are a concerned onlooker worried - but not certain - of child molestation. They will know what to do.
Your priority, however, is to stay safe - don't let your beautiful boy be corrupted or affected by that family, spend quality time with him, and he will have no recollection.
I hope and pray that everything works out all right for you.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Wow, tough question. I'm not sure what I would do. At the ages of the kids I would think that the act itself will be of no damage because there will be no memory nor was it sexual, but the reason why haunts me as well.

It may be the other little boy has seen, and is repeating what he has seen, even a movie while they thought the kid was sleeping. People have the bad habit of thinking that two year old kids do not absorb what they have seen. Worse case is that the little boy was some how involved in the act. Geez, i hope not.

Either way I would keep my kid out of the picture of that little boys family. Keep in mind if you talk to someone e.g. counselor, doctor.., and they suspect there has been a law broken, they must call the police by law if you are in the USA. Don't hold it against them.

I hope things become more clear for you. If it turns out that you suspect the law has been broken other then the 2 year old kids themselves the day you noticed, I would call the authorities to save the other kid from future or present abuse if I thought it was happening.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I understand your reactions as it is really something which will shock any parent. First of all, it is important that you handle this with an open mind. Bear in mind that both are just 2 and big possibility is, they do not know why they did what they did; they are just COPYING the adults.

Since you are really concerned that it came from Mark, it is important that you talk to Mark first. Tell him that you saw what he did to your son and that you are concerned about this issue as it is something which is not accepted by you and your husband or any other person in that matter. Although both are only 2; do not think they are incompetent, they just don't know how to tell the adults what and how they feel. They just lack the vocab. Talk to your son too, he might give another view of what had happened.

If Mark refuses to talk to you, I suggest you call in a psychiatrist or a counsellor who specialises in this matter. They are the ones who are qualified to handle this matter. Be prepared that they will talk to both boys as they were involved; they need to know what happened from both boys in order to be able to come to a conclusion to this.

REMEMBER: Reporting it straight to the police without clarifying with him first will only anger him and he might think that you are just against him and more complications might occur. I am sure that that is not what you want to happen.

Lastly, Mark might not just model what he had done from his dad; think of how many men had been around him - his uncles, grandad etc. They are also the ones that play a factor in Mark's life.

I hope that you will get to the bottom of this as soon as possible as it is important to intervene both now. I am sure, when this is handled correctly, both Mark and AJ will be thankful to you for the intervention.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I'm not gonna message you talk to your husband. As for Mark the first thing you need to do is either end the playmate relationship or allow them to play while observed only. Somethings wrong with Marks environment for a two year old to be that stimulated with sexual activity. This is a hard one you know something is wrong and it's likely his parents aren't going to be helpful in resolving the issue. I strongly suggest you not let A.J play at Marks house with either parent present. You can consider calling child protection services and file an informal report if the family has a prior history this will red flag his file. The first and most important thing is to protect your son and not create and awkward distance over this. I would suggest a complete medical examine for your son as difficult as this is you want to ensure their aren't other issues. If you choose to severe the playmate arrangement let Mark's parents know why, they need to know this isn't normal behavior. You're going to get lot's of conflicting feedback but your number one goal has to be to protect your child from this type of environment. You most likely won't get conclusive answers as to who's doing it and you won't resolve this for Mark. If you choose to report the incident don't expect an immediate response all your doing is creating a file for others to add to and a potential advocate to watch.

Answer 6

Your two-year-old will be fine... luckily he won't remember this for long. You are right to be worried about "Mark" though... this is not typical two-year-old behavior. I have worked with two-year-olds for 14 years, and exploration of each other's bodies is normal, but not performing as Mark did. Definitely keep your son away from Mark and his dad (and his mom). If you aren't sure where he picked this up from, it is better to be safe than to put your child at risk. I have to say, that if a parent of mine told me this, I would be mandated to report it to Child Protective Services. This shows an unnatural interest/information about an act a two-year-old should not understand. Someone has shown him this or done this to him. Please call your local CPS and let them investigate. You can remain anonymous. Unfortunately, you can't know if this is the first time this has happened with your son or not, but you CAN make sure it is the LAST. Protect your child and "Mark"... call the authorities bound to protect our innocent children.

Answer 7

OMG.. bless your heart. I can NOT imagine myself walking into a room seeing my child(ren) do that. Do you remember what marks dad said when you ask him about this?? bless your heart ((huggs)) ive read the other answer and i agree with everyone else. You can make a call to child services without telling them who you are and maybe his dad does need to be investingated. I'm sure your little boy will be fine. He's 2 he's probably already forgotten about it. Now as a parent it seems like your doing what you need to do ... get him away from the situation and dont let him be around them anymore.. at all... where did you meet these people? i mean it could be just something innocent... but 2yr. olds dont normally do stuff like that... they dont know. he has seen it somewhere.... goodluck and try not to worry.

Answer 8

You need to call your local Child Protective Services. The reason they ask for children's unusual sexual behavior to be reported because it can be a sign that the child has been sexually abused. Hopefully that isn't the case here, but that's something they need to invesigate. Your name will not be given to the father, but he might be able to figure it out since you did talk to him about it. For the child's sake it's important to do this though. A two year old would not be doing this unless he saw it from somewhere. This is also to protect your son, since now that this has been done to him, he might do this to another child and then you could have CPS called on you. Good luck.

Answer 9

I definitely agree with Coop's answers. You HAVE to tell someone because no child knows how to do this unless they have witnessed it or experienced it. Otherwise, 2 years olds do NOT KNOW ABOUT SEX!!!! This is serious, you NEED to call CPS immediately and they will take care of this situation. Stay away from Mark and his family. Also, you need to get help for your son because this can become traumatic for him. Although he is two, there is a chance that he might remember, (two year olds usually remember few events and that so happens to be the traumatic ones). I wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 10

I'm sorry about what happened to your son. Believe it or not this type of problem is very common but nobody ever talks about it b/c it considered taboo. what you need to do is call CPS. Your call can be anonymous and they will investigate the matter and decide what should be done. As for your son you might want to try taking him to counseling if you feel he was affected by what happened. There are services that provide free counseling to victims of sexual and violent crime. Talk to your doctor and maybe he can give you some names and phone numbers. Even though your son is only 2 yrs old he might need counseling. GOOD LUCK!