My Old Boyfriend Who Had Bipolar Just Committed Suicide Due To Stigma. Why Are People So Evil.?

Question

The guy I dated in high school just committed suicide in a garage w/ a running car. His Grandma who raised him (his parents died in a wreck when he was 12) told me that he killed himself due to the stigma of what happenned to him in college. He had a mental breakdown & was hospitalized for 3 days. In his suicide note, aside from his gratefulness to his Grandma, he spoke how noone would give him a chance once they found out his dirty secret. Girls who liked him & he dated for 6 months; the minute they found out he had a mental breakdown in college fr bipolar 9 yrs ago, they would abandon him & talk about him & his dirty secret w/ their friends. He tried telling people in the beginning & they wouldnt even go on a second date w/ him. And this was the nicest guy I ever met. No outbursts, no mean bone in his body. He said why should he be alive if people treat him as a stigmatized guy to be shamed & disgraced. After reading the net & Yahoo Answers w/ filthy spew fr evil it doesnt suprise me

Answer 1

People shy away from things that they don't understand and that frighten them. Your friend had nothing to be ashamed of, and it's a tragedy that there weren't people in his corner, people like a therapist, a support group of other bipolar patients, and other family and friends.

When you mentioned that his parents died when he was 12, it occurred to me that he may have been particularly more vulnerable to the sensation of being abandoned or left. Neither his parents' deaths nor his illness were within his control, but he had to suffer the consequences of them nonetheless. Friends withdrawing may have triggered another episode of grieving.

Your story speaks volumes about how necessary it is to provide adequate follow up treatment for people who have persistent mental illnesses. They are still valuable members of the community, and his contributions will no doubt be missed.

My condolences on the loss of your dear friend.

Answer 2

First I would like to say sorry for your loss my sister suffers from bi polar since she was young the sad part is people who commit suicide are truly kind and caring people but the truth of the matter is with their illness they can't deal with any kind of negativity from other people because of the depression in less they take medication to help balance them out for some it's ashame how some people treat others but what goes around comes in way or another and those people will pay whether small or large just think about all the good memories you had with your friend keep him alive in heart....

Answer 3

People are evil, yes. At least most people are. It's sad but true. They just love to gossip or something. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

Answer 4

bipolar has two types,one is where it can be controlled with meds and cooping skills the other it can be treated with meds but they run a higher risk of committing homicide or suicide. i hate that he was made to feel like an outcast to society,it makes it real hard for people who have these problems to deal with them. i send my condolences and wish you the very best